The girl I am dating really means the world to me, and she was uncomfortable with me hanging out and talking to my female friends who were pretty good friends of mine. Out of respect for her I cut down the contact I made with these girls by alot, even if it wasn't the right thing to do.
The problem is she hasn't done the same with her guy friends and she says thats because these friends would never violate her and know about me blah blah blah..
Well these guys are even worse than the girls I was friends with.. They flirt with her all the time, make sexual jokes, etc.. She rejects them, but they keep coming on to her and she still remains friends with them even after the advances...
I get very very angry and jealous because I care deeply for her and when I see these guys continually coming on to her it makes me upset. Am I wrong to be jealous over this? It's like she trusts herself not to cheat, but doesn't trust me, so she can still befriend these types of people.
2006-09-01 22:02:55 · 10 answers · asked by john d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it looks to me like you have a comunication problem.
the only rule in a relationship is you both are allowed to do the same thing ythe other does. if she doesen`t stop seeing these other guyes, maybe she is not right for you. you did the compromise!she did not. so you are allowed to get in touch with your friends.i advise you to do that so that she gets a glimp on how that feels. maybe she will stop seeing the male friends.
2006-09-01 22:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by stohark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong and it doesn't seem like an easy situation.
Why? Because she has the upper hand and would know how to play you, and you've already given in more than it should be, she knows these guys come on to her and that gives her power, you need to keep talking to your female friends if she doesn't get serious about limiting the contact she has with these guys, even if they know about you, they may still be willing to fight for her, to date her or to have a relationship with her, you need to be firm with her, because if this is now, imagine later, you need to show her you mean business and act mature, she may mean the world to you, but it should mean the world to you more if she ends up hurting you a lot later, especially because you have such deep feelings for her, you need to talk it over with her, take her out to dinner and let her know how you feel and it is disrespectful for these men to be making sexual jokes, just set your boundaries now, it is important to do so early on in any relationship, best of luck!
LET HER KNOW IT'S A TWO WAY STREET!! ?And if she gets mad, for a day or so, she'll get over it, but you need to mean business or else you will continue to be disrespected. Set the record straight, and things will take their normal course. Fair is fair!!!
2006-09-02 05:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by You are loved 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you do have the right to be upset. She wanted you to not talk to your female friends but wont do the same for you with her male friends. And If she says she trusts herself not to do anything wrong but doesnt trust you the same way. Then maybe you should have a talk with her and let her know and prove to her that you can be trusted. And let her know that you're kinda being unfair to your female friends because she doesnt like you hanging out with them. And tell her it makes you uncomfortable that her friends are doing the things they are. And if she cant trust you to be friends with other females, then maybe you need to try to find somebody that Can trust you. And I know you said she means the world to you, but if after you talk to her and let her know that she can trust you and she still doesnt with your friends around, then maybe shes not the right one for you. I hope that helped and good luck with everything.
2006-09-02 05:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See,what the problem is with this girl is she's trying to have her cake and eat it too. And that is absolutely without a doubt wrong. How can she tell you not to do something when she is doing it too? That's something you need to think about,she sounds like she is full of bull. You need to reestablish your friendships and if your girlfriend has a problem with that then that's her problem because she can't be expecting you to do something that she is not even doing her damn self.But no,you are not wrong to be jealous but you shouldn't allow yourself to get played like that either.
2006-09-02 05:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by T.Mack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say to her if you can do it than I can to! Don't stop talking to your girlfriends because of her. She wants her cake and eat it too. You may be some jealous because she talks to them and they say obnoxious stuff to her and it's OK for her but you can't talk to your friends. I would tell her the same thing she told you. For her not to talk with those freaks if you can't talk to your friends. If she doesn't like it then continue to talk to those girls. Not even a wife would tell her husband who to and not to talk to! It should be 50/50 in a relationship. Don't let her control you!
2006-09-02 05:13:53 · answer #5 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you do. You did what she asked and she should do the same. You can't have much of a relationship without trust. Maybe you two should part ways.....
2006-09-02 05:10:33 · answer #6 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you aren't wrong to be jealous. Eventually when we all grow up there is a new order in friendship.
She just maybe doesn't want to grow up. She can't let go of her youth.
2006-09-02 05:06:40 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes because she made you stop talking to your friend.
2006-09-02 05:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by msmidnight1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure you do, because if she can have guy friends, u should be allow ed to have girl friends...
2006-09-02 05:06:51 · answer #9 · answered by free4u_matt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE UPSET.. AND JEALOUS THERE FOR SHE SHOULD CUT HER BOY-FRIENDS LOOSE ALSO..
2006-09-02 05:10:22 · answer #10 · answered by TANNER GIRL 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋