im a confident girl of 19 .RIght frm my childhood i suffer a lot of loneliness, so i want a boy who will always help me wen im depressed.Everytime wen i see some boys i get attracted to them.But none of my effort succeed.i dont know y im not getting a boy
2006-09-01 21:38:28 · 22 answers · asked by rose a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well...are you good looking? That's what most guys look for first. And if you are, ur just shy and u need to go to clubs and other places where you meet alot of people.
2006-09-01 21:41:50 · answer #1 · answered by JO 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure you should use a boyfriend as a crutch; it will just make things worse in the long run. Depending on anyone for stability takes away from you the self-reliance you should be fostering and nurturing.
But, to answer your question, just ask him out. Most guys are clueless to subtlety (I know I am), and would rather have a woman come out and say what she wants instead of trying to "nudge, nudge, wink, wink" his understanding. The worst he can say is no, and in that case you will fill better knowing that you don't have to worry about what could have been. Be the first one to start the conversation, be the aggressor. You might want to consider group dating. Invite him to hang out with you and some other people; that way, nervousness will be less of an issue and you can see if you like the guy and if he likes you in a relaxed environment.
I hope that helps.
2006-09-02 04:50:24 · answer #2 · answered by hotstepper2100 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop being so needy, be normal and you will attract them, if you are self assured, let things take their course and let men come to you, you are trying too hard.
You are a very young woman, if you feel lonely make some friends, boys or men don't care for women who are depressed, why are you depressed to begin with. This is why you are not getting a boyfriend they like women who are strong not needy, not beggers, and much less depressed, they like happy, energetic, vibrant, fun, get it?
I'm trying to help you, by telling it like it is, read books on dating and relationships, how women relate to men there are many, go to amazon.com or your nearest bookstore, you need to do some homework and learn on the subject and then you will have success, after you change negative traits, and patterns. Good luck!
2006-09-02 04:45:20 · answer #3 · answered by You are loved 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not evrything that we want in this world will be ours....but every prayer that we say to GOD will come true...but in the right time.... May be it is not yet the right time for you to have a boyfriend. Don't rush things....you'll see there will be someone who is going to propose to you....but not now....And don't think that you're not attractive. You are attractive...every woman is....may be that person who have a crush to you now has no courage to tell you how he really feels. There is someone that is meant for you out there. just live your life normally while waiting for that right guy. If you rush things out...you might end up with the wrong guy.... Think positively...Tell yourself that you are beautiful...be4 people love you...you must first love yourself. And more importantly....dont push yourself to be liked by someone...you will only hurt yourself.
2006-09-02 05:05:45 · answer #4 · answered by Angeline_Love16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to relax! if you are confident just be confident enough and not be over confident coz it will make you look cheap. and most of all try to be your self and don't act as you want boys attracted to you its not nice honey, you may attract some guys by showing them good things that you're not but when they found out the truth do you think they will still attracted to you? be true to your self honey and it will help you a lot!
2006-09-02 04:46:12 · answer #5 · answered by honeyko_japan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! You are showing you are weak towards men! Which other girl don't show it! Be confident! Never look for a guy! Just ignore and think you are the Queen of somewhere! Make Guys long for you! All the best!! :-)
2006-09-02 04:45:56 · answer #6 · answered by Artin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are confident, then whats the problem?Maybe you should stop looking and getting attracted at boys and focus your attention on one boy. All the best.
2006-09-02 04:49:43 · answer #7 · answered by thomas A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, don't get a boyfriend to help you with anything. If you can't do it on your own you will drag him down with you.
Also for 19, you type like a 12 year old.Maybe the boys don't like that?
2006-09-02 04:43:47 · answer #8 · answered by knowitall 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are just trying too hard. Just concentrate on your education or your job, helping others by doing work in the community. The boyfriend will happen when the time is right.
2006-09-02 04:42:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey darling you may be trying to hard and coming on too strong lookin like you are desperate. Take a different approach to guys and don't come across too "boy crazy"!
2006-09-02 04:49:56 · answer #10 · answered by Fort Worth, TX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋