When im single im all happy and enjoy being me. I have a nice and goofy personality. Yet, when I want to date and find someone that interests me, I tend to get moody and full of low selfesteem. Perhaps theres a greater problem within me than meets the eye or is it the signal that woman is not right for me? Any ideas?
2006-09-01 21:02:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she's not right for you or you just have commitment issues . . . either way you should prob. talk to someone, it may bite you in the as* later in life.
2006-09-01 21:10:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you get moody, and feel bad about yourself, it sounds like you are not comfortable,, and if you can't be your own nice and goofy self,,, you feel like it is not acceptable to you..
if this is the case, then you have to really pay attention to what is going on inside you.. because you are supposed to be having a good time, fun, romance, etc, aned if you have low self esteem, for some reason you are surrendering your own will, kinda.. i am not sure how to explain,,
but if you are being polite, and holding back who you are or what you want to say or do, because you do ont think you are good enough, ? or it is not appropriate to "be you"
What are you afraid of,?? THINK OF THIS,, It might take many a date, and situation to come and go, before you meet someone who you have great chemistry, and have lots in common,, and until then, it might be a let down, or you are not trying as hard to have a great time, because something is missing,,
Dont give any girlfriends in your life power over you,,you do not owe ltlhlem anything other than respect,,
and do not go along with the program, if it is not your program too, Are you straight? OR GAY? no offense,
if you are not comfortable with the gender, this might make you feel awful.
Well, without knowing more details, and you personally, i can only guess,
Be true to yourself (IT SOUNDED LIKE THE THING TO SAY RIGHT NOW)
good luck,,, and don't change your personality.. goofy is good..
2006-09-01 22:19:20 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is your life an entire mess? how many human beings do you nonetheless communicate to and see out of your "youthful" college. once you leave, almost all the folk you be responsive to now won't remember to you. each and every person hates college and you have lots to stay for, i think of you're only hormonal. So why do not you finally end up some extreme high quality outfits, makeup and hair type, artwork out, start up focusing on your college artwork, and start up off being concerned much less for others evaluations and be greater autonomous in your self, Crying some difficulty would not resolve it. And forcing your self to be distinctive for persons will purely make the persons not likely such as you for who you're. All you rather want is a few greater interest, some acquaintances who such as you greater, and to be happier.
2016-10-01 05:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe when you are single, you feel good about yourself because you aren't looking at yourself from someone else's perspective....so your opinion of yourself is shaky to begin with. Maybe when you get into a relationship, your insecurity comes out, you don't feel as confident, you don't feel like you are good enough, so you get depressed. I think the low self esteem is already there, but being with someone makes it more blatant.
2006-09-01 23:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, I felt the same way in my last relationship and whenever it ended I realized that I felt that way cause he wasnt the right guy for me. So try finding a woman you can be yourself with and she can love you for you. And if she does I think it will be better. Good luck finding what you want :)
2006-09-01 21:15:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It`s because you put pressure on your self to make the loved one happy! Dealing with yourself takes a minimal amount of time,energy,etc! Just like a generator,your girlfriend takes time,energy,money,emotions,etc! This is VERY draining! But IF she`s worth it(only you can decide) then you`re in the plus! If she`s NOT worth it, (drains more than she gives back) then you Need to get rid of her! IT Really IS THAT SIMPLE!! But, IF you`re in LOVE with that person,THEN it becomes MUCH More Complicated!!!!!
2006-09-01 21:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by Snowdog74 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you are dealing with females that are not right for you because if you were with the right one you would still be able to be your self. Or maybe your afraid of commitment!
2006-09-01 21:09:44 · answer #7 · answered by babygurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better you go for a counselors help
2006-09-01 21:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by trishul60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋