If you have or will have children, do you or would you spank them? Why or why not?
2006-09-01 20:44:46 · 25 answers · asked by royal_crown78 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have two girls under 12. I do spank for some things such as blatant disrespect or disobedience. I don't believe spanking produces violent kids. There are studies to show that some very violent people in society were abused (not just spanked), but equally, there are studies to show that some very violent people were never spanked.
Sometimes, just sometimes, the kids need to not do something because they know they will get punished. Its a fact of life.
2006-09-05 02:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the most part spanking is not helpful. The Bible say use a switch no bigger than your little finger (actually thumb but they were a smaller people) in other words something that delivers a sting not a bruise. Here's what I've been telling my clients for years and seems to be good advice. Always talk first. If the child for whatever reason can not internalize the logic and the behavior is something that will hurt them then better they receive a little pain now then get hit by a truck playing in the street later. Usually that advice would have cost you some big bucks.
2006-09-02 03:51:22 · answer #2 · answered by icheeknows 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea, children need to be spanked from time to time, espically if they are in the wrong. It teaches them discipline. Now there is a difference in spanking and beating you child. I believe if you don't you children will run all over you.
2006-09-02 03:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by af_guy_20001 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This completely depends on the child and age. I'm all for effective parenting. If a swat on the bottom gets their attention and gets them to listen--that's great. Some kids though would rather be spanked, get it over with, and go back to what they were doing. This is where grounding/loss of privilage works. And this may fluxuate through out different phases of their life. I hated getting spanked--my sister could have cared less but hated not going out with her friends. As long as in your decision you put your child first---you'll make great decisions. Good luck!
2006-09-02 04:18:34 · answer #4 · answered by Female Racer 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I personally do not agree with spanking nor is it something that we use @ home. There are other ways to discipline your child.. and first and fourth most discipline really starts when they are infants .. Talking to your child, open communication, when they are younger time outs work and now that we have a older son we tend to take away items that he loves so much. If we send him to a room for a time out .. it is not in his own bedroom. There are to many toys there so it will be in a guest bedroom instead. Always after they are discipline talk to your child and explain what would of been the correct way that things should of been handled. Spanking isn't a good answer and it doesn't really teach children anything. In my honest opinion. I have to say my 8 year old is one of the most well behaved children.. its very rare to even have to discipline him. He is the child that will ask not take.. he isn't the one to start trouble, not one to start a fight and he is always one to talk things out.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-02 03:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well i believe in spankings to a point... Use it to really make a point... Time out for the little things... Spanking all the time builds resistance and takes away from getting your point across.
2006-09-02 04:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't spank my kids tried it and they just laughed. To many people call CPS if you try to discipline your child with any physical contact( not meaning beating your child severly) remember the old day's when kids got beat(spanked or slapped) and they turned out just fine, now these days it's called child abuse.
2006-09-02 03:51:10 · answer #7 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It was used once upon a time. Come out of caves. Understand your child's psychology. Spend some time with your children, rather than spanking them. This way u are developing the inferiority complex in your children.
2006-09-02 03:48:08 · answer #8 · answered by Neilesh 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I have children and do spank them. My sister in law doesn't spank her kids and they act like little heathen punks. Beating kids azz pays off in my opinion.
2006-09-02 03:48:09 · answer #9 · answered by Gunslinger 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hey it worked on me!! But no if i had kids i wouldn't spank them, especially when there are more effective ways of discipline
2006-09-02 03:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by LalaLola 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋