My boyfriend does his own things, when we go to the park- he'll act like I'm not there and he'll go do his own thing. He'll go out and not even ask me to come along- but his friends. He just tells me that it's late, or they're going to do something stupid, but if they are why is he going? Why can he do that and I can't tag along? Am I a bad girlfriend for thinking this? Also- when we go somewhere and there are girls looking at him, he'll always glance at them whether or not I'm there. It makes me feel like I'm not worth looking at, that's why he doesn't bother. Also- when he promises that we'll do something together- he'll blow me off to go do something with his friends. I just sit there and cry. And he won't ask why I was, he'll just get mad and say that I'm selfish. Or sometimes when I tell him to come walk with me- he'll nodd, but he doesn't even come, or ask me where I was. Am I a bad girlfriend for thinking that he's neglecting me? Am I a bad girlfriend for asking for more?
2006-09-01 20:41:03 · 16 answers · asked by bratworth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Define 'Needy'
2006-09-01 21:46:57 · update #1
axxually your question is
is he a bad boyfriend?
answer:yes
u look like a perfect gf
2006-09-03 05:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww honey- no of course you're not.
What an ar*ehole!
Not only does he not love you, he doesn't repect you, think of you, or even like you.
Sorry to be so harsh but thats the way I see it.
Clearly from what you've written you're doing everything that would normally be expected in a relationship and he is obviously simply not interested enough.
As harsh as it is to hear- you would be better off alone than being subjected to such treatment.
Such dis-respect of women, such mis-treatment both saddens and angers me. Because I know that I could be a better partner than that. And I am single- painfully so.
I know this is going to sound trite and wierd- but after reading what you wrote I feel like reaching into the screen and giving you a hug.
No- its not your fault to want attention and love.
It is HIS fault for not being a good enough person for you!
The Iceman.
2006-09-02 03:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by The Iceman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, i was in his shoes once. My friends were making fun of me saying i was whipped and that kind of thing.I wasn't having it, so i would blow her off and hang out with my friends to make them happy.She had the same problem with the girls looking at me and me looking back at them. That is just a natural reaction, i mean if someone looks at you, you'd look back, right? At the time I thought she was just paranoid about stupid things, but now i see it a little differently.No, your not a bad girlfriend. Women need validation in these ways because they just do. I only wish i would have known that before she broke up with me-so i would make sure he knows how you feel!
2006-09-02 03:57:03 · answer #3 · answered by anondewd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg, you are so not a bad girlfriend at all. You have every right to think that. He sounds like such an ****** and you sound like you can do so much better. He's not worth your tears, so dont bother. There are way nicer guys out that that will treat you like you should be treated. The same situation happened to my sister, and it hurt me so bad to see her that depressed all the time. If he's looking at other girls and ignoring you, then he pretty much sounds like a man wh*re. He's so not worth it and no one deserves to be treated with that much disrespect. Hope my advice helps!
2006-09-02 03:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by roof_tops43 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! You are not a bad girlfriend....in fact he should be ashamed of himself. He simply has his priorities really wrong when it comes to girlfriends. I honestly don't know how you would put up with his nonesense.
I could understand how much you just want to spend quality time with him....but instead he doesn't care or bother to notice. Believe me I think other guys would appreciate to have you as a girlfriend. Best advise.....if things don't shape up.......ship him out. You are way to much better than him.
Take care.
2006-09-02 03:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by cool_dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not a bad girlfriend, HE is a bad boyfriend. You should dump him and find a nice guy that will treat you with kindness and the respect that you deserve.
2006-09-02 03:45:33 · answer #6 · answered by Kami 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an insensitive boyfriend. Dump him and get someone who makes you smile. Life is too short to cry over a boy that isn't worth it. Good luck!
2006-09-02 03:44:41 · answer #7 · answered by Nena 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're a good girlfriend. Some guys are just like that, they like going off and doing things with the guys. "Guy stuff". Just make sure you tell him to make time for you or else you're gonna split.
2006-09-02 03:44:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi i dont think that you are abad girlfren becoz its him that he is ignoring u all the time and moreover i think that he has made u girlfrend just becoz the sake of having a gf .He doesnt have any feelings towards you becoz even when u cry he dont ask why .he is self obsessed with him and his frens and i think he is using you as girlfrend for the name only.
2006-09-02 03:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by amx_raj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me guess......you are sleeping with him. Wow am i smart. He is using you for what he wants. you are giving it to him. You need to dump him and focus on yourself and your self esteem. You are not alone. Many many girls are in the same situation. Wait til you are married to have an mature relationship and sex.
2006-09-02 03:48:10 · answer #10 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋