19 and pregnant, and I think I might have slight depression...?

Question

Serious answers please! Im 19, pregnant and I think I might have slight depression. Im about 5 1/2 months now and I have no idea what I am going to do about the baby coming. I have no job and no money saved away for the baby. Im trying to get help with food and cash assistance now, but I think in the long run none of this will help totally. I will always need help and I hardly have anyone to help me. Soon as the baby is born I wanna work, but I find that difficult to do if I have to watch the baby 24/7. Anyways... all of this thinking and trying to figure out what Im going to do in the future is stressing me out and I feel like I might have a nevrous break down (my mom had one before me, shes gone now, and my aunt is afraid I might have one as well) What do I do? Money seems to be the major issuse. Is there a way for me to get money if Im depressed. Like "crazy" checks. I'm not really crazy, I just know thats what they call them around here (Michigan). What can I do, anyone?

I said, serious answers please. If I have nothing to benefit from ur answer, than I dont need ur input. Thank you!

And I am enrolled in school, Community College. Im takingonline classes since Im pregnant. So I dont have somewhat of a plan. Just every little bit of help counts, u know?

Answer 1

Wow, it does seem like you are in a bind. There is financial assisstance out there as well as prenatal care. It is important that you get a job, at least eventually, and going to school would be a good idea...try nursing, there is good money and high demand for them. You can make it through this, there are a lot of programs out there, you just have to look...make that your "job" for right now. I have a friend in nursing school, who has a kid, does not work, and has gotten free housing, food, textbooks, tuition, and a car (I'm not kidding)...you can work the system, but don't rely on it, b/c they will kick you off eventually. Use that time to look into getting into a community college, and taking classes. Busy yourself w/ plans that will get you moving toward the future. You can make this work for yourself...and you must, for you and your baby.
If you do feel that you can not handle it, adoption is always an option, so keep that in mind. Sometimes the most mature thing is knowing what you can and can't handle, and making the appropriate decision for it. Plus, they have "open" adoptions now where you can stay in limited contact (depending on what the adoptive family wants).
A breakdown is not inevitable, but it is a possiblity, and all the stress you are experiencing is also stressing the baby and you are putting both of you at risk for complications. So try to calm down, talk to a professional (doctor) if need be.
You could get on disability, but that would be a cop out and you wouldn't get very much as it is...there are much better options out there. You can handle it, just take one day at a time and keep busy looking for ways to improve your life (go to school!).
Good luck and God Bless ♥

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Answer 2

First of all, check to see if you have a help me grow program, first link.. your Dr should be able to direct you..You have a reason to be scared..and it is OK to be scared. That is good in a way, it just means you care. See if your Dr can give you an antidepressant. There are some that are safe for you to use while pregnant.Second, you want to nip this in the bud, talk to someone about post partum depression...call now, that way you can be set up with someone now and afterwards, they can visit. Job and family services is dfferent than help me grow, they will visit weekly also. Job and family services will help with assistance..money and such. Firstlink services can help find you a place or with a security deposit..Decide what you want to do. Do you plan on keeping the baby? If you don't want to be a mom, it is ok to admit it and let someone who truly wants a child adopt it. It is better for both you and the baby. Trying to be a mom when you really don't want to..can get you into alot of trouble if you can't handle it. And can be serously unfortunate for a child in that situation. Sometimes a family would be willing to pay for expenses to adopt your child. God Bless on whatever you do.

Answer 3

Hmm, well I think a few ppl on here have had some really good answers then there are a few I am not so sure about. I saw someone told you about getting on welfare, which I think in your situation would be really good right now. Also, Welfare will pay for child care. If your going through a community college right now I would aslo see what other type of programs they may have for single mothers. As a woman you have every right to try and raise your child. There are many, many programs to help. If you are feeling down right now, talk to your OBGYN, if you donthave one..Welfare through medicade will make sure you get the prenatal care you need. Here in Ohio we also have section 8 and HUD, these programs are placed for families in your situation. They will halp provide you with housing. It may not be the greatest, but atleast you and your child will have a roof over your heads. Many places will also try to help you in some form with transportation. You just have to look, in the worst case scenerio. I would say adoption would aslo be a good idea. Only if you are not able to care for the child. Best of Luck and God Bless

Answer 4

No sorry you don't get paid for being sad, stressed or crazy. I would be depressed too if I was 19 and pregnant. Why don't you give the baby up for adoption? You will get all the financial assistance you need and have this huge weight off your shoulders. If you keep the baby the government will give you food and give your baby healthcare, I think you get some too and that may cover medication but you won't get any actual money.

Answer 5

If I were you I would definitely give the baby up. My little sister was adopted and my family loves her more than anything. She's getting all the opportunities and support that she wouldn't have been able to if we hadn't adopted her. In the US there are types of adoptions where you can meet and pick the family to adopt your baby and you can continue to stay in your baby's life. Without having to care for a child you'll be able to go to school and get more education so you can get a better job.

No one's ready to be a mom at 19. You should be focusing on yourself now! You'll always have the chance to raise a kid when you have the financial ability to.

Answer 6

You know what? Things happen and God will see you through.....You know I think I read something about you being in school....You know your counselor has a lot of info regarding wic for your baby and you, and money, and not only that but some states help with housing for low income families... which is you and your child to be., there is centers you can take your baby (DAY CARE) and the state will pay for it so you can work or go to school, there are places that send you money for shoes and clothes a month for a single mom going to school or work... there are a lot of help hot lines you can look into...you can even surf the net for more info.... don't give up, there are sources that will help you. take down my [e-mail] and I will help you look for the things you need help in....you and your baby matter...don't give up on your child or you... GOD BLESS YOU.....You Can Make It!!!!!!!

Answer 7

Unless you've got some kind of mental disorder, there's no way you could get money from it. (You'd need to draw disability)

You just have to remember that there's plenty of women out there who've gone through the same thing as you, and they're all right. If you have any friends/relative who could possibly watch the baby while you work ask them for help. Is there any way the baby's father could help out? If not, you might to try and get child support from him. I know it's not an easy thing to do, but he owes it to his child, whether or not he even wanted it.

Just hang in there, I know it's tough, but when you're at your worst, things can only get better, and that's something to look forward to.

Answer 8

Girl, the only answer is WORK and take care the body carrying that baby. Research how to finish school after birth of baby. Work will come as you study in your field, work openings will come to you. Another really good thing to do is get to know god.
He has carried me alot. Married at 15, preggers at 16. Now 46.

Answer 9

There are agencies out there to help you. You just have to find them. They can help with all kinds of things like finding you a job that works with your schedule, helping you to get further education, helping you decide what is best for you and the baby, etc. Here are some websites that may give you a start:

http://birthright.reachlocal.net/

http://www.pregnancyhelpservices.com/page2.html

http://www.teenage-pregnancy.org/?src=overture

If you decide that you cannot keep the baby, here is an adoption sight:

http://adoptionnetwork.com/birthmother-unplanned-pregnancy/index.html?OVRAW=pregnancy%252520help%252520for%252520teens&OVKEY=help%252520pregnancy%252520teen&OVMTC=standard

Answer 10

Put the child up for adoption and give it a chance for a happy life. Because the way you sound, the child would be living in hell if it is raised by you. Next time be more responsible when having sex and try doing so with a man that would take care of you if you did become pregnant. I'm tired of my tax money going to a bunch of young, single mothers on welfare who can't keep their legs closed.