My boyfriend is not romantic at all.
It is a point I have brought up with him multiple times and yet...still nothing.
I think you can only work your magic on someone so much - if it is not in them, it is not in them and unfortunately, romance is not in my boyfriend's vocabulary.
Is romance important to you in your relationship?
So important that if it weren't there, you would consider leaving?
Or would you try and just work with what you've got?
2006-09-01 19:51:28 · 9 answers · asked by Sixth_Sense 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not asking if you wanna be adored by ME!!
HA HAHAA
Asking you if you like being adored in your relationship. I equate romance with being adored...
2006-09-01 20:01:52 · update #1
Your in a tough pickle there, hon. Got some thoughts for ya, though.
What's more important to you?? Loving him or feeling loved?? That's what this seems to be all about.
There's a couple questions you have to ask yourself: The first is if this is something you NEED (versus just wanting) in your relationship?? If it's a Need then obviously the relationship won't work. But only you can answer that question.
If it's a WANT, desire, or hope... you have some room to work with. You really have to be honest with yourself and your heart about this one. We all have wants and desires that can't always be met with our partners.
But we can still love and respect them, especially if there are many more positive and wonderful things about them versus negative ones. We can also compromise and that's something you should talk to him about.
Some guys just aren't romantic. Others have a hard time showing how they really feel. It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you... he just may not be sure how to do it. Does he show his affection for you in other ways?? Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
Or, it could mean, he's just not that into you. That's a sad but realistic answer as well. But that's a topic for another day...
As I mentioned before, what's more important to you?? Loving him or feeling loved?? Is this a NEED or a WANT??
Answer those questions and you'll have your answer. Good luck!! :)
2006-09-01 20:14:47 · answer #1 · answered by Lady_Knight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him your leaving this relationship because he is not romantic, then if he truly loves you he will realise the problem your having with him. to stay focused on your relationship is very important, an being romantic is very much a positive thing, but some guys have no clue that women need that sort of thing, they just think of themselves? how old is this guy anyways? myself i am vey romantic. my g/f's always have told me that. but i have never been left before in a relationship, i always did the breaking off because of their attitudes an mood swings, an other crazy sh*t i dont have time to explain. in short give him the boot if he dont please you, dont waste your time if he doesnt make you happy in every aspect. in fact im free now an open mined an ready for a new relationship myself. ill show you what romance is all about, contact me.. good luck
2006-09-02 03:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by 84_4X4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a story for you. My current BF was romantic when we first met and it ended as soon as he "conquered" me. I have had to tell him I want it, need it and insist on it. Only in a nice way. Come to find out he was married to a woman who didn't like it and became conditioned to it. I am un- processing the damage she has done. He is willing and that is the key word...willing to relearn. As long as you do it with love and real sincerity he will come around. Some guys just need to know that they don't look silly being romantic and if he cares, he will try at least a little. Good luck and God bless
2006-09-02 02:57:52 · answer #3 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romance can be important but the most important is the "nice guy" thing(in the good way0, a boy with a golden soul...not only through words you can be adored...but through a warm hand on your hand, a pure smile when you need it...!
2006-09-02 03:02:33 · answer #4 · answered by tatal_nostru2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I need some romance. I wouldn't stay without it. Peace.
2006-09-02 02:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by wildrover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a sixth sense. You know he is not your type. Better to move on and look for someone of your choice and you know your sixth sense would be of immense help to you.
2006-09-02 02:59:12 · answer #6 · answered by Freddie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he just wants you for sex thats bad no romance is bad-
2006-09-02 02:53:54 · answer #7 · answered by djdudeurrea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't try to change him - if he isn't what you want him to be, go find someone who is - you'll waste your time trying to turn him into something he isn't and something he will never be
2006-09-02 02:54:50 · answer #8 · answered by Big Buddy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Hell Yes
2006-09-02 02:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by Trevez T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋