Any one been through this? How do you cope? Did you stay or did you go? It is hard dealing w/ all the emotional ups and sowns. Help!?!
2006-09-01 19:37:58 · 7 answers · asked by lazy_n_spoiled 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
My dad was dx'ed with bipolar and my mom is still with my dad. through the ups and downs she is right by his side. It is hard dealing with the emotional roller coaster but just because they have bipolar doesn't mean that they are a different person from what you married, it just explains why they do some of the things they do. And if you are married you did vow to stay for better or for worse in sickness and in health. I take marriage vows very seriously. He needs your love and support not abandonment. I hope he is in therapy and getting med's to control this. Not everyone who has it is a nightmare those people usually are not in treatment and not on meds or have more than just bipolar going on.
2006-09-02 00:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by chefaid90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know bi-polar presents in lotsa different ways, so this is a hard question. The really bazare cases are well pretty much impossible and they do wierd stuff, paranoid wierd stuff, out there stuff. I guess staying depends on what value you put on till death do us part, and how soon you might die. Bet it's good when he's up. Been there had two spouses bi polar. One would not medicate, lucky for me she ran off with her boss. There are medication I gotta assume either he's not taking any or they are not working. A med that works when others don't is L'mctle (sp), the druggest will know. If that person does not always try to blame you for their mood, and you do not take it personaly it's hard but can be managed. I just isolate when things are hard. Go somewhere do something else. Explain it's just too much. Probably have to explain that on a good day in advance of the time you skip out. Try to have really good times when the days are good so you have something to remeber on the bad days. Bi-polars (some of them) can learn to not make it difficult on those around them. He may need a good coach to achieve this. If they learn to tell themselves this is not my fault and that it is temporary, the stuggle just becomes a wait till it's over. If he is not on disability he can get on it. Relationships are like a pie chart. How much of it is good. Everybody has their bad points. If he has relitives with this and they are older it might be a good idea to find out if it gets worse. Then there is electro therapy but make no mistake it is risky.
2006-09-02 03:23:33 · answer #2 · answered by icheeknows 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough, I know...You can buy this books and it should help you. Goodluck!
Bipolar Puzzle Solution: A Mental Health Client's Perspective by Bryan L. Court
Bipolar Disorder: A Guide for Patients and Families (A Johns Hopkins Press Health Book) by Francis Mark Mondimore (Hardcover - April 30, 1999)
2006-09-02 02:45:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm 22 and I've been married to my husband for 4 years and I'm bipolar I also have emotional ups and downs but when you get married you get married for better or worse looks like you have come to the worse my husband would never leave me because of my bipolar disorder he loves me very much and he is always there for me noone can help being bipolar it isn't like your husband asked to be bipolar best you can do is love him and be there for him usually when I get in my moods my husband holds me and tells me he loves me and it helps me out alot and also I take medications too does he take medication?? medication does help if he doesn't have any he needs to talk to a doctor you just don't give up on someone you love remember for better or worse
2006-09-02 22:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered counselling for yourself or for you and your partner. Would help to talk about it. I knows the ill one so I imagine he's already on medication or in counselling. But you have to live with the illness too so make sure you get some help. You should consider its not his fault he's ill and whilst its hard to have patience consider that, I'm sure he feels bad for how you feel in this even if he doesn't say anything. Make sure you talk to him about how you feel and make sure he's getting the right help.
2006-09-02 09:34:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have asked this question then i dont know what kind of person u are. u obviously are going to divorce him
if he takes meds he might be under the thumb or if he uses drugs he will be poor. altogether its just another burden in cost
2006-09-02 04:05:49 · answer #6 · answered by Get Over It 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GO!! My friends ex is bipolar and oh my god he was a nightmare....get away now before you get too sucked in!Good Luck!
2006-09-02 05:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by sugar_n_spice 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋