Sometimes we need to be left alone in order to deal with our own issues, We DON'T need to talk about everything, and being alone with our thoughts help a lot.
2006-09-01 19:25:15 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Strangely enough I agree with you. I just learned this valuable piece of advice b/c of a situation that just happened in my own life. My b/f started acting different...you know...distant, quiet, moody, we probably said 6 words to each other in about 8 days & usually ended up in a fight b/c I was being so pushy. Honestly though, I could tell something was REALLY bothering him & b/c I love him, I was worried about him & wanted to be there for him no matter what he was going through (even though I didn't know what it was). I started insisting he tell me what was wrong!!! I even made up things that could be wrong and accused him of several different things.(yes, i'm sorry i did that) and one day I heard myself accusing him & demanding he tell me & I realized how selfish I was being. Not to mention how stupid what I was accusing him of sounded! So I backed off & let him know that if he needed me...I would be here for him. Being so pushy only pushed us further away from each other. After I backed off, he worked through it for a couple of more days & now we're getting along again. PATIENCE!!!
2006-09-01 19:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by paigenstuff 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well women are NOT mind readers, being left alone is a sign of neglection! It's okay to desire some space alone, that's fine; we all need some time alone but being left alone completely is just pushing the person away. if you want to be left alone why don't you not date and remain single, you'd get all the free time you need lol.
2006-09-02 02:31:47 · answer #2 · answered by NO♥NAME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a question that I know that wonen ask about us as well for us its easy for us that if the woman or women are real friends or gf or way more then that then they should should understand and be understanding thus that is the same that we men must be its goes both ways when it comes to trust and respect etc for both males and females in any relationship and yes even in friendships.
Without that and if they do not show that or have that for u and you for them then those People should not be around eachother at all.
2006-09-02 02:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by Peace Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just want to ask you this question, was that woman your wife or just a woman??if so, she is your wife. It is because she wants to make every step in your partnership together with you. She wants to decide with you even if it is a bit irritable. But if she's just a woman why don't you try to explain it with her. Say what you think. All of us have differences, actually not all women are like that. Sometimes women also want to spent sometime alone to reflect themselves, solve problems etc.
2006-09-02 02:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by bentenwebe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because women find talking helps, and although some men do too, alot don't. It's hard for us to understand that sometimes! Although it just looks like we're being clingy etc we're usually only trying to help! (I can't account for the genuine cling on types!)
2006-09-02 02:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by claire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a different woman! You also have to realize that though you need your space to work out your own issues, she will also have needs that you must accomodate....you have to compromise but you certainly do not have to discuss every little thing with her.....when you want her input you will discuss it with her, just tell her that........if she keeps pushing tell her you don't work that way and she can take the high road if she doesn't like it, its NOT open to discussion.......remind her that your needs are as important as hers!
lol, good luck with that!
2006-09-02 02:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you, but sometimes you guys take yall attitudes out on us even if yall are p*ssed off about something that has nothing to do with us at all.
We just want to help because in most cases it feels good to talk to someone about your problems.
2006-09-02 02:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by Smokeahontis© 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because women are the exace opposite as men and NEED to talk about it and need the support so they assume men are like this as well. We don't know it any other way. So cope.
You can't understand why we want to talk, we can't understand why you like to mope.
2006-09-02 02:27:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because we care about you and want to help you. You just need to let your gal know just how important for you to be alone sometimes.
2006-09-02 02:31:59 · answer #9 · answered by Belkjrslkj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why women live longer than men. We dont bottle up all our feelings we talk about them. You cause us stress by not talking about your problems. We are just concerned about you.
2006-09-02 02:31:48 · answer #10 · answered by sis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋