okay, I’m 25 and still live with my parents. no mean comments alright? I’m half Japanese and this is about our family culture. also, I’m the only child in the family. I’ve been happily living with them and never wanted to change a thing. I have a boyfriend right now and I love him dearly. my parents like him very much too. my dad said I was grown up and should have more privacy on my own.
I appreciate it but I kinda confuse if I should move out. it's not that I’m not independent but I don't wanna leave my mom. she's married to my dad here without any close friends or relatives. I planned to move out until I got married. But my mom insisted that she was happy to for my dad’s decision. Should I move out? My boyfriend has no comments at all. He said as long as I was happy.
2006-09-01 19:02:59 · 36 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my parents were the one insisted me staying with them. I don't think they need any more privacy, they want me to be happy because i can have more on my own privacy.
2006-09-01 19:08:34 · update #1
the only reason I’ve been staying with my parents for 25 years is because of my mom. she's not American. she never thought I could be her burden. she has only one child, that's me. we are like best friends. you guys just don’t understand. *sigh*
2006-09-01 19:16:13 · update #2
I am not moving in my bf's house! i did not say that.
2006-09-01 19:17:40 · update #3
Move out. But live nearby if you can. You need to visit your parents regularly and you can steal mom's pie from the fridge. Your mom and dad had their own place before you came along. Maybe they'd like to get that feeling back again, but don't want to say anything - I mean you don't go kicking your kids' butts out of the house, do you? (I have a daughter by the way, so I know about this stuff). Whatever you do, keep the love happening. Oh, and ashita omedeto gozaimas.
2006-09-01 19:10:52 · answer #1 · answered by VIP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the means to support yourself you might be happier living on your own. Perhaps it would be possible to move to an area close to where your parents are living so that you and your mom can still be close and visit often.
Often times parents enjoy helping their adult children (especially girls), when it comes to finding a place of their own. Maybe you would like to have your mom and dad help you look for a place that is comfortable as well as safe. If your parents enjoy decorating I'm sure you'll have fun choosing colors for the rooms in your new home as well as new furniture and kitchen ware.
Finding a place of your own can be a step up in a parent/child relationship. It's obvious that you and your parents respect each other, I admire your relationship and wish you well. I think it all sounds very exciting.
2006-09-01 19:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by Healthnut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stay for the free meal ticket. Let your poor parents have a life and get the hell out! Your father's trying to tell you in the nicest way possible and you aren't catching the clue. It's so funny, every 20 something I know always uses the same excuse for living at home " they need me" Your parents are grown adults and you can always make visits if they "need something"
Hard to believe you aren't embarrassed. I think you're selfish for not thinking of your parents privacy and age 25!
2006-09-01 19:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by Debra B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you ever consider that after 25 years that maybe your parents are the ones wanting privacy? They might need some quality time together.
Also, they probably want you to begin to build your own life. Can't have grandkids if you're hanging out with mom.
2006-09-01 19:05:53 · answer #4 · answered by Mack Man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you realize that they want to change your room into a 2nd living room? or a cool game room or something like that? they want you to move out and start living your own life, and not be so dependant on them. Take some responsibility, try it out. If it doesn't work out, you can always move back with them.
2006-09-01 19:07:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Manyn relationship experts now say that co-habitation (living with your boyfirend before marriage) is a bad idea beacuse it makes you both face issues that you may not be ready to face yet.So if your thinking about moving in with your boyfriend it could potentially wreck the great relationship you currently have even if you love him.Also that fact that he has no opinion sounds like his is not ready to make a living together commitment soit probably not a good idea to ask.
2006-09-01 19:07:11 · answer #6 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Awesomeee my birthday is on Labor Day! :) Phew, you're freaking gorgeous for a half Japanese person. Follow your heart, it takes you to many places. You're such a sweetheart to your family, which is an amazing thing, but when you're ready, you need to make a move. As long as you're happy, follow your heart.
2006-09-01 19:06:43 · answer #7 · answered by krazych1nky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your concern for your mother. It sounds like your mother has devoted her life to taking care of you and your father, and doesn't really have a life of her own. Why not help her to find her own interests? Take classes at a local community college. If she has hobbies like ikebana or tea ceremony, may be she can gather neighbors and teach them. If you can help your mother prepare for the post-Yukiko life, you would feel much better. Hope this helps.
2006-09-01 19:58:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time you moved out and let your parents have a life together...it's been a long time...You really shouldn't stay with your parents after you are grown unless they have a "need" for you stay like if they're sick or something.
2006-09-01 19:05:35 · answer #9 · answered by buzzbait0u812 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move out. Hey if it doesn't work out you can always move back in. Though when you move out don't make the mistake of moving in with your boyfriend. See how it feels to be really on your own first.
2006-09-01 19:06:26 · answer #10 · answered by Simmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋