Im 23 now but but I have a problem because Im not so sure of my sexual orientation. I like gals a lot but I just cant stop admiring other guys even when I am with my gal. Now I don not know if I am straight or gay. My society does not accept gays, that is if I am. What can I do?
2006-09-01 19:02:29 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yea, just get out there and get after it. Find a work around somehow with the 'society' issue but most of all, find yourself.
2006-09-01 19:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by -:¦:-SKY-:¦:- 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are bisexual. When you say that you admire other guys, does this mean you are sexually attracted to them? If so, then you are probably gay or bisexual. However, there are many different definitions of what makes a person gay. I think you are sexually attracted to both males and females, you are bisexual. And if you are, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. If your society or culture does not accept that, maybe you could move away or make some new friends. Try to meet people who will accept you for who you are. Don't let anyone get you down for being who you are!
2006-09-01 19:07:48 · answer #2 · answered by jjdanca18 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U R what U R luv. If you feel your 'society' cannot accept you for being gay(if thats what you yourself believe), then just do what everyone of we(the beautiful) Gay population have done. Raise 2 fingers in the air and say F**K YOU I am what I am. When I was at college I was the only 'male' on the course (Interior Design) and I just said to the girls"yes I am gay". They all replied, "Tell us something we don't know". Then they all asked me to go shopping,saying they needed a gay man's opinion. My family don't care at all,I am what I am. So you see the only people you should even consider probably know your gay anyway. Anyone else BOLLOX to them.
2006-09-05 03:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by andrew416285 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Admiration of another guy doesn't necessarily mean you're gay. Both sexes can look at a person of their own gender and think that they are aesthetically beautiful, I do it all the time. Over time, you may even become sexually attracted to them - not even this means you're gay - you're just human.
Live your own life - don't try to be whatever society finds 'acceptable'.
2006-09-01 19:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by Phlodgeybodge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you prefer, men and women, what can you do? It's just in you. Not only your society frowns upon gays, if you think about it almost every society does. There's nothing to be ashamed of however. There is also such things as bisexuals. You might be one of those. Either way, staright or gay, you're still a person and if people can't accept that, then to hell with those people. Hope it helps buddy
-Mr. Brightside
2006-09-01 19:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Brightside 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you are sure you are not bi-sexual and person that like members of the opposite and same sex? A lot of people are unsure of there sexuality and this for some can be and is a lifetime struggle.My suggestion to you is set down and talk to some professionals about what is going on. It could just be a phase and you are feeling more self conscience about yourself.
2006-09-01 19:12:22 · answer #6 · answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should look deep inside yourself before you do anything. If you like women but feel that you can't stop looking at men, than it might be that you have a thing for both sexes. I feel that when it comes to the society we live in, there are good and bad. I would put myself first though, because if i were not happy, than i couldn't be happy for anyone else. I would have to be True to my heart. I hope this helps you.
2006-09-01 19:11:06 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberly J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont actually say u have sexual feelings for guys though, just that you admire them.
im a girl and i find myself looking at women a lot, i was confused for a while about my sexual orientation, but when i actually gave it proper thought i realised that i dont have a sexual desire for them i just think they are nice to look at. i figured the reason i look at women and think they are beautiful is because of my own hang ups. i look at a girl and think i would like to be LIKE her, not with her.
only you know the extent of ur feelings towards men, and you have to do what makes you happiest, living a lie will not make u, or ur girlfriendhappy in the long run.
2006-09-01 21:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by firefly85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you might be a little confused if you are in a relationshi with a girl and are happy then you might be admiring guys because you said your society does not accept gays..so you might be trying to "pretend" to like guys at the same time and are not trully being yourself.. My best friend is gay and he had the same thing happen to him his parents did not accept it at the time so he was pretending to be interested in girls as well as guys.. But once his parents accepted it and he accepted himself he is always with guys now...i think you just need some time to sort it out and come to terms with it...good luck and i hope this helped
2006-09-01 19:06:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not gay or bisexual, but I do like to look at both sexes. If I see an attractive woman, I look and admire. Nothing wrong with it.
You are questioning something that everyone does. Just be yourself and don't worry.
2006-09-01 19:13:32 · answer #10 · answered by Twisted Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider myself straight, the sight of two men kissing I find revolting, however i have masturbated other guys some straight some gay, I just wanted to find out what it was like to do it.
Sexuality is anything but simple!
M
2006-09-01 20:46:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋