My soulmate, my life and my love, passed on 17 days ago..I've appeared to be a rock, strong, brave and able to go on...but in truth I am missing him so bad that its just about unbearable...I don't know what to do.
2006-09-01 18:53:45 · 19 answers · asked by herenthere 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Toronto, maybe you had better be careful about following me around and answering my questions...I warned you and another about this, don't make me tell my FATHER on you...for JESUS CHRIST HIMSELF said that it would be better to hang a millstone around your neck and cast yourself into the bottom of the sea than to offend one of HIS little ones...you may not believe in HIM, but that doesn't change the fact that HE is timeless and alive...don't push it bub.
2006-09-01 18:57:54 · update #1
Bless your heart. I am so sorry for your loss. The only thing I can suggest is to cry your heart out (which I am convinced that you already are doing) and surround yourself with others who love you. Don't try to be brave. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Be firm with those who make trite comments and embrace those who just want to be with you. Allow yourself the opportunity to grieve, and don't hold it in.
2006-09-01 18:59:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is an easy answer
for the type of grief that you're experiencing.
Most people aren't able to understand your pain, if they havent't been where you are. Sometimes, you'll discover that the people you thought you could depend on the most, just aren't there for you the way you thought they would be. But then again, you're in a place you'd never dreamed you'd be either.
Sometimes, people stop coming around like they once did because they don't know what to do. There will also be people who just can't understand why "you're not over that yet".
Believe it or not, you will sometimes get the most support from strangers...especially strangers who have been where you're at, or have gone through what you're going through and can really understand how your heart is breaking. In time, when you're feeling a little better, it would be wise to check into a grief support group for women who have lost their spouses. Right now, you need people who can really understand & empathize with your feelings.
In time, it will get better...
and that's what it's going to take...time.
In the meantime, be good to yourself, take care of yourself, and above all... love yourself.
Blessings & Healing~*
2006-09-02 02:13:15 · answer #2 · answered by DG 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, I am so sorry for your loss. I went through the same thing in November, 2001. My doctor told me to allow at least three years ... before I would feel normal. But I can tell you, when it's his birthday, the anniversary of his death, special remembrances, etc. .. I cry. Allow yourself time to grieve, it's important. Cry if you need to, talk with people if you need to. I also made a memory box of cards and letters, photos and little things that were important. You could also make a scrap book? I do still wear my engagement and wedding rings, on my right hand though. The hurt does fade a little, in time, but I don't think it ever goes away. Take care of yourself, sleep and eat, get some exercise .. try to find some balance and joy in life, if you can. If you feel you are depressed or worse .. go to your doctor. Good Luck to you and take care. {{{hugs}}}
2006-09-02 02:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take care of yourself. Eat well, try to sleep, soak in the tub if it relaxes you.
Write about your lives together. Start from the beginning. Let yourself weep. And the more you write, the more you will remember how you were blessed. You'll also laugh despite yourself when recalling some of the goofy times, some of the hilarious times. More and more, you will become increasingly grateful that you shared time on earth with your love. And you will be doing something to honor his life by depicting it through your eyes.
These are just a few suggestions. But mostly, take it easy on yourself. You need time to grieve.
2006-09-02 02:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by Gestalt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sharon don't forget about your Father, I guarantee his grace will
protect you, His child ,and see you through. I don't know you but
yet, you are a sister to me and with words let me embrace you and hold you near . Gain strength if possible from a good Christan fellowship Also, read and receive comfort form our Holy Book. This way I too have passed and although heavily burdened the Lord saw me through. Love in Christ, keep on the winning side my dear little sister. God bless
2006-09-02 02:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by interficio_pravus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My condolences...it's very hard to get over the loss of someone you love or care about...but you dont have to be strong, you can go ahead and cry,,you can break down its ok to do this, because youre not proving anything by holding it in..just let go..let it all out..because keeping it is going to make you hurt more..people ussually take a long time to heal from a loss, so go head and take your time...just remember youre not alone and that he will always be with you in your memories..
2006-09-02 02:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by sinful vampyra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through something similar last year, and the saddest thing on that is that I was hurt by it and not a lot of folk could help me; But the biggest thing that helped me was nothing but time; Even now, seventeen months later, it hurts, but I had to ask for peace from the Almighty; I suggest that you do likewise; With time, you will heal; you won't forget, but it will be bearable. I pray that you find what you need now.
2006-09-02 02:01:27 · answer #7 · answered by savvyladydiamond 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you miss someone so special to you. It's hard to adjust to a life balance without a person that brought so much to you. The whole world has to adjust to the shift in energy as it changes. It's still pretty new so give yourself some time for the adjustment.
2006-09-02 01:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by yogangel7 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I cope because I know that God loves me and that He is in control. I am never alone because I feel Him in me after I received the Baptism of the Holy Ghost. Our problems bring us to God and God's love keeps us there. I pray that God will bring you comfort during your time of mourning and loss. Stay in touch with your Family and Friends. They care for you.
Sincerely Yours, Pastor Jeff Ludin, An Apostle Of The Lord Jesus
2006-09-02 02:01:55 · answer #9 · answered by Apostle Jeff 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Iam so sorry for your loss. I put my faith and trust in God for everything. Pray to the Father and He will guide you and give you the strength to get through this most hardest of times.God will comfort you and as time goes by the pain will be less. Please trust in God that your soulmate is now with God and is no longer in pain or suffering. I will pray for you to be comforted and to be wrapped in the love of God.
2006-09-02 02:00:00 · answer #10 · answered by tebone0315 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋