It happended when she was 13 and her uncle was 19 at that time.She didn't tell anyone as she was so confused at that time.Eight years have passed for her to realize that she had been taken advantage of.Her uncle is now a married man and has been properly good to her since the incident.Now she lives in a dilema as to protect the families peace and serve justice.
2006-09-01 18:10:19 · 28 answers · asked by Melinda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I kept my mouth shut after my uncle did that to me, until he raped my baby sister, then I told every one.
The only problem is, I let my sister down, I know it wasn't intended, but, if I'd come forward sooner. she would of been safe.
I now know, once a rapist, always a rapist!!!!!
She at least needs to tell a parent, they can help her decide what to do from there.......please, she may just be saving a little girl from the same situation if someone is for warned!!!!!
My heart goes out to your friend, if anything, help her to get some counseling, otherwise, this incident will effect her for the rest of her life, believe me, I know............
2006-09-01 18:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by Torri * 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel badly that not only did your friend have to go through this rape but that she now has all of this hanging over her head. I think she should call planned parenthood and ask for a referral to a rape crisis center.
Unfortunately victims of crime have an obligation to report the crime and to go though whatever is necessary to make sure that the criminal is appropriately dealt with by society, even if that criminal is a family member.
Sometimes family members do the wrong thing and go after the victim for disturbing the peace, but that is the problem of the family even though it would also be a distressing problem to your friend. The rape counselor can probably find appropriate treatment for the family so that they don't cause much harm to the victim. While she is afraid now and is reluctant to cause the family harm, there is a potential for much more harm. No one knows the nature of this sexual predator. He could molest his children and any other children in the family. How would your friend feel if she could have prevented this and she didn't? The rape counselor should remind the family that they stand to lose much more by ignoring the problem.
You could also post your message on perverted justice as they have more experience dealing with sexual predators.
2006-09-01 18:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to talk to someone about her child rape. Keep in mind that if she does not want to disclose the perpetrator she needs to keep his name to herself. It's important that she get the counseling she deserves, perhaps through her counseling she will decide that he does need to pay the price.
Just because the man is married and has been good to her since the rape took place doesn't mean he learned his lesson. He could be molesting his own children, his friends children, or other family members children. She may be surprised to know there were many girls that were attacked by her Uncle and they all have felt just like she has.
2006-09-01 18:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by Healthnut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! This is a despicable crime. He can be as nice as he wants to her now but that doesn't change the fact that when she was just a young girl, and probably I'm sure a virgin, he took her innocence and forced himself on her.
This is something she can never get over and he should pay for what he has done. If they are civil to each other now she can go ahead and tell him that she is thinking of turning him in and give him the chance to let him go ahead and tell his family himself but other than that, let him rott!
He made his choice then now she has a right to make her choice now! He was an adult and knew what he was doing so he has no excuses. He should pay!
2006-09-01 18:12:06 · answer #4 · answered by Chaddy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes she should. Rape is rape and her uncle should take responsibility for wht he has done. The victim now is your friend, and justice has to be served, and not only to protect the families peace.
2006-09-01 18:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by Zenylt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone who had something similar happen to them. It is ALWAYS best to get those feelings out. She needs to confront him about her feelings. She should first talk to someone she trusts and have that person with her for support when she confronts him. The person I know went to a pastor. It will be difficult but she won't have resolution until she expresses to him how much pain he's caused her. Hopefully, her immediate family will stand by her when it comes out in the open.
2006-09-01 18:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by Shilo R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah what he did was wrong and that is what matters. I know he remembers and in order for you to get back yourself everything you need to sing like a song LOUD and don't let ANYONE tell you different. I was molested by my bio father he never got what he should have and he did it to my sister and as of last year we found out he tried to do it to my niece. Since he never paid he thought he can do it again. Now he is awaiting trial..... There is justice. Tell someone. for your own sake....Good Luck
2006-09-01 18:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is never too late to tell.. She needs to tell the cops because this could happen again, maybe not to her but another family member. It does not matter if he has a family and he is being nice to her now. Rape is rape and he needs to be held accountable for it.
She was also a minor when it happened...
2006-09-01 18:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes she should blow the whistle on this guy, no matter how many years ago it happened. He should be brought to justice.
Hell how do you know he won't try this on his daughters ?!?
if he has any?
But only problem is, there isn't any evidence........ it's her word against his in the law of court unless two or more people can testify.
2006-09-01 18:18:22 · answer #9 · answered by swma76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely tell, it's rape-and she was even a minor! Send his address, if he is anywhere near me I'll handle kickin some azz.
2006-09-01 18:19:14 · answer #10 · answered by want2wild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋