Now how can I tell him that I maybe cannot afford a birthday party this year? He is my older son and he just start the middle school.
2006-09-01 17:58:16 · 18 answers · asked by marilou a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What kind of party would he be expecting did you used to go all out and pay allot for it. Have you thought about budgeting a party? You can have a party for under 30 dollars. It’s just as good. Look into your local dollar stores (some are called dollar tree) for the party supplies, dollar general and shop around for low cost store brand snack foods and a vegi plate you cut up yourself. If the weather is good do most of it outside. If you have a basketball hoop or other outdoor items your son plays mix that with the part. Or go to a park that has those outdoor activities. Ask him if he wants a certain color (for streamers and such). Ask friends if they can help. If you have a printer print out a personalized banner. 12 years old isn't too old for this stuff. Instead of giving him the afford speech. Ask him what type he would like, and then explain why in the same sentence. He may ask you why and then you can ease the answer to him. He may understand better than you think.
Good luck. I can give you more ideas if you like. I know how to budget for a party we live on a fixed income. You can be very creative. If you are having money problems and would like ideas to help stretch a dollar you can email me. I have allot of ideas that my calling from Christ.
Lord bless you in this situation. Your son loves you and he will love you no matter what you do for him. He may just want 2 friends over to hang out and play games all day with extra snacks around. Or go to a hang out place, where preteens hang without siblings.
I have a child turning 12 also in 6th grade guess girls are easier they just want a friend to stay the night. because they dont get to have that very often. i dont know how boys are about friends staying over.
2006-09-01 18:42:01 · answer #1 · answered by angelchele 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Where theres a will theres a way! Scale down on the party and cut back on some other expenses, or have a family party (maybe at grandma's) and have a party with a limited number of friends and perhaps a sleep over, you can make extra for dinner and let them have a home made cake and rent movies or rent video games. You may also want to see if the is something he would want instead of having a group of friends such as one or two and let him pick what he wants to do, such as going to a pizza place and a matinee. Fun doesn't have to costs a lot. Even if you know someone with a pool it can be fun. Perhaps a friend has access to a club room sometimes there free and have pool tables. Good luck and Happy Birthday to your son, mine will be 13 on the 15th.
Good luck!
2006-09-01 18:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him your financial situation; he's old enough to understand, although he may not like it. Try asking him what he would like to do (that is not expensive) instead of a birthday party. Maybe he could go mini-golfing or to the movies with some friends or just play some football with the guys. There are lots of fun things a person can do for little or no money. Just don't let his wanting a birthday party put you in a financial bind.
2006-09-01 18:02:21 · answer #3 · answered by dotj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you can't afford it, but do try to afford a cool activity or dinner out. If he can't handle that, tell him that maybe you need to scale back some of his goodies throughout the year.
If I had to tell my son I could either buy him a bike or a birthday party, he'd take the bike in a heartbeat. He knows that's much more important to him than spending the same money on a party.
2006-09-01 18:13:07 · answer #4 · answered by coolmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a birthday party without spending a penny! If you need a couple of bucks to get some construction paper to make some decorations, grab a trash bag and collect just a few bottles and cans from along the road and turn them in. Remember, your celebrating his life, not attempting to buy his happiness. Don't let him forget that either! Invite everyone you can! You don't need to have food or drinks...It's a celebration, not a "look what I can do" event! Make up some games using what you have around the home....do what you have to do to make sure your son knows how important his life is to you and to everyone!
2006-09-01 18:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by cleazott 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just buy him cake and ice cream and have him invite a few friends and have him pick out some movies and have a sleep over. Just because you cant take him to PoJo's doesnt mean he cant have a party. Go to the dollar store and buy a bag of balloons and decorate the house and invite your family over. If you cant afford presents at the time tell him: I cant get you a present right now but when i get paid i will take you to pick out what you want". then give him a spending limit like 20 bucks.
2006-09-01 18:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just have the kids over, rent a movie and buy a cake. Don't spend money on favors or lots of decorations. You can back cupcakes and ice them from a box and can, and maybe get streamers for a dollar. You can manage a party if you tone down the expenses.
2006-09-01 18:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a bonfire on your outdoors. this is a calming, casual celebration to purely relax and characteristic relaxing! -Roast marshmellows/warm canines -Play video games which contain disguise and seek for, kick the can, etc. Have a spa celebration. that's what I did for my twelfth b-day celebration and it grew to become right into a blast! It grew to become into all abode made and did not value lots. in case you such as you're able to desire to even get manicures. For my sister's birthday she had a pool celebration, it is often relaxing with summer season. yet another thought may be going to work out a action picture, play or some thing and going out to dinner. satisfied twelfth BIRTHDAY! relish your celebration! :)
2016-10-01 05:03:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll have to acknowledge his birthday somehow. how about just making a birthday cake, some chips, veggies and dip and rent a movie, have a few friends and family over and he'll get some gifts, feel special and he's happy. your party doesn't have to be the talk of the town, just an acknowledgment that his is a special day.
2006-09-01 18:10:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you dare tell him you can't afford it. A birthday party can cost absolutely nothing. Don't spoil this child's last birthday before he becomes a teenager because of your selfishness.
2006-09-01 18:36:04 · answer #10 · answered by RogerAnthony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋