I work the night shift, she stays home. I work at a hospital so i'm drained from being on my feet all night and i just want to relax when I come home. The thing is I don't want to relax with her, i like my alone time and she hates it saying i'm sleep all day and then don't want to be bothered. But what would you do if you worked with half dead people all night, and had people that died right in front of your eyes. it's alot of stress, what do i do?
2006-09-01 17:46:12 · 19 answers · asked by datcreekgurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We ;live together, she's home all day. I spend as much time as I CAN WITH HER and she bitches when I need to wind down even though I explain to her that I had a hard day and i gotta relax before I go back to work
2006-09-01 17:55:17 · update #1
Just plan maybe one day a week you can spend the whole day with her and try and talk to her on the phone when you can, and be very sweet about. Tell her you love (if you do) Sorry if its not a big help, you got a hard problem on your hands!
2006-09-01 17:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by Maryanne J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh My. Well you know, you guys may not be compatible. So how long have you been together? Is this a new relationship? I think you should tell her the same way you explained it to us. Simply tell her that it's very important for you to have some time alone to wind down. It might be a good idea to actually schedule a time to be together. Be sure to take her out somewhere at least once or twice a week. It doesn't have to be expensive. Just hanging out together. Girls want to feel like they are your friend as well as your lover. Be open with her about the way you feel. It's important that she loves you just the way you are. She may have more energy than you which means she either needs to get a life outside of you guys relationship, pick up a hobby or move on to a new relationship.
2006-09-01 18:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by Shawnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide what is important to you and what you want for your life. If its her and she is your future - devote more time to her. You can rest and hold her at the same time. You could leave her little notes, voice mails, a flower here and there. Little things to let her know you care and are thinking of her. She is telling you she feels emotionally neglected. Make the time, even on a small scale, or ditch the girl. Obviously it won't work if you continue to avoid contact with her.
2006-09-01 17:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by dspell2x2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i also work night shift but at a mentally retarded group home and some nights are really hard.I have 2 kids at home wich includes a 4 month old,I just dont bother sleeping for almost 4 days so i can spend time with everyone. it's a sacrifice.....( but it sucks)
2006-09-01 18:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by summer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend more 'quality' time with her. Perhaps the time that you two spend together isnt stimulating in some way. The other thing you could do is wait. She'll eventually stop 'asking' and you'll have lots of alone time when she moves out.
2006-09-01 18:16:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and talk and let her know where you are coming from,and then maybe the two of you can make plan to spend time, if u really care about each other, you will find a way.
2006-09-01 17:52:57 · answer #6 · answered by littlemama975 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Compromise -- explain that you need about an hour of chill time all to yourself as soon as you come home, and then you'll spend time with her.
2006-09-01 17:49:43 · answer #7 · answered by NA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF U DONT LIKE SPENDING TIME WITH HER THEN MAYBE U DONT NEED A GIRL RIGHT NOW. IF U DONT HAVE TIME FOR HER THAT IS JUST GIVING HER THE CHANCE TO CHEAT, EVERY GIRL WANTS THAT ATTENTION, MAKE TIME FOR HER BEFORE SHE DECIDES TO LOOK ELSE WHERE.... THEN U WOULD BE MAD..
2006-09-01 17:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by TANNER GIRL 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump her, this broad is just adding to your stress. I'm serious the right woman will be patient and supportive.
2006-09-01 17:50:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not her fault, that you do that for a living, and it's not her fault you have a lot of stress, let her help you, she wants to spend time with you, if you dont' do something she might leave...
2006-09-01 17:51:18 · answer #10 · answered by miss.d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋