So confused...What does this mean for me?

Question

My ex and I dated for almost 3 yrs on and off. He would take these 2 month breaks and hook up with other girls and I would always take him back. We headed off to different colleges and werent datin at the time but 2 months into college he decided he wanted me back for good. He sent flowers and wrote love letters to me but I just didnt want to deal with him all over again and never took him back. At the end of our freshman yr he had another g/f but as soon as the summer began we hung out and he cheated on his gf..I kno its bad. At the end of the summer tho he decided that it would be best if we didnt talk anymore bc it always brought feelings back. We didnt talk for almost a yr when i wrote an email to him sayin hi. Well after that we hung out and he cheated on his gf once again. He would do things like kiss me and say he didnt regret it and he told me I made him happier than his gf did. Cheatin is a sure signal to stay away from him, but besides the cheatin hes some1 I wanna b wit

Am i absolutely wrong and crazy for wanting to try to make things work? If he cheats on his gf now is that a guarantee he would cheat on me?

Answer 1

Someone who can cheat on his girlfriend so easily with little or no remorse shows that doing so doesn't make him feel bad. I'd be worried about that and if I did get back together with him, I'd sure be keeping a good eye on him. But it sounds like he's so wishy-washy...one minute he wants you, the next he thinks it's a good idea if you don't talk. You both need to figure out what you REALLY want from each other and from a relationship. And you need to figure out if you two can give these things to each other. If you think you can, you guys should try it FOR REAL! Not half-a**ed "on again/off again". If you think for some reason that you guys cannot give each other the things you want in a relationship, then trying to be in a relationship would be a waste of time.

Answer 2

You're not crazy but yes all signs say he will cheat on you too. Even though you are not officially together, hasn't he already? Stop trying so hard or asking what if. Let him go and do not let him back. I agree with Jen, he is wishy washy all the way. Sounds like this guy just wants to have is cake and eat it too. Well, If you are willing to listen I can tell you one thing he has already said but you have not heard. Here it is: he is not into you (or maybe anyone) enough to be faithful. Sad but true I think. It's ok though because you can do better.