my dad.....he wont look at me....he turned into a zombie?

Question

i wrote something 3 days ago on here about my dad that made people write really mean things back to me. sorry if i offended anyone.
all i wanted was to know if anyone else deals with parents like this.
i am embarassed of my dad because he is a nerd. i cant help it how i feel.
what i am dealing with now is that my dad has completely ignored me since i said what i said to him. if i ask him something he turns into a zombie. he wont look at me. he talks to my mom and they joke around with each other. but now my dad has stopped eating. he wont eat and my mom is worried. she blames me. my dad is acting so weird and he looks sick. right now i wouldn't mind homework help from my dad. but for the past few days he doesnt act like i exist. tonight my dad didnt come home until almost 7:00 and the last class he taught ended at 3:50. my mom was worred because he NEVER comes home late and he didnt call. how do i get things back to normal???

my dad is a nerd, an i don't love him?
everynite when my dad comes home i wanna puke. He always comes home at the exact same time. my dads a chemistry prof at the university, total nerd and genius. He wants me to get a doctorate one day like him. i wanna play sports and hang out. i wish he would disappear. my parents are both nerds. my mom teaches violin at the university.
my dad looks like a geek. plus hes jewish, which i am also but my dad has a big nose and glasses. my main goal is to not be like him. today he was in my face about being home late from school. so i went so far as to ask him why with all the people that die in car wrecks everyday on the freeway, why isnt he one of them. he rushed off upstairs and i think he might have went in the bathroom and puked. when he came down about 45 mins later he was all smiling and flirting with my mom like nothing happened. but his eyes were red and still he wont look at me. so as of now im kind of depressed. if i go to sleep i'll pro

ok ignore the last one i only added it to clarify what i wrote just now. I wrote that 3 days ago. i was trying to add details but i didnt mean to copy and paste the whole thing

im a male. also I cant apologize. if he wont look at me how can i? plus i was sitting right next to my parents tonight and he was telling my mom how he almost got smashed into the pavement today by a concrete block that a crane almost dropped. and he was joking about it. he is acting so weird and he never acted this way before.

Answer 1

I don't know what you did to him, but he is so hurt! can you say I am sorry? Please forgive me? I adore you more than anything and I want us to stay close and happy. I will do better. And never let something that could cause him to die of sadness come from you again!!!
Kid!!! YOU CAN APOLOGIZE. Be a MAN instead of a guy.
How freaking dare you. Read todays DEAR ABBY.
I've been there. Say I lLOVe YOU. that should be the last words out of anyones mouth to a family member every time one leaves the room or house. PERIOD.

Answer 2

Buddy, I know where you are coming from, but in a different way. I was always embarrassed because my dad is really old. I was made fun of because of it too. I never had a good relationship with him for it either. Now, I regret that. I don't want you to feel the same way later on down the road. If you think he doesn't want to talk to you then you should write your feelings in a letter. Tell him that you ARE sorry for what you said. And you don't hate him or else you wouldn't care that he was so offended by what you said. He is your dad and that is never going to change. Just except it. I'm not saying that you need to be super close to him, but at least show him that at least his own son isn't going to rag on him like the rest of the world did while he was growing up. I garuntee that he was the victim in many bully situations. The last thing he expects is to have his own son picking on him too. Ease up on him. Don't take advantage of the only dad you'll ever have. You will only end up being angry at yourself for it. Just let him be the way he is and continue to do what you want as long as it's within the rules of your parents. You still have to respect them, because you wouldn't be what you are without them, would you? Think about it.

Answer 3

write him a letter.

apologize in the letter, even if it kills you.

get over that he's a nerd, he's your dad, and he changed your diaper when you were little, so you owe it to him not to be a jerk. got it?

tell him you only have 1 dad, and that you want his attention, and will do anything to get it, even say nasty things. (however you understand, that you just cant do that from now on.)

tell him you need his help if you are ever going to survive in this insane world the two of you are living in, and you'll promise to start being a good son if he starts being a good dad.

let us know how it all turns out.

I've just read your first batch of additional details. WOW. you really are a jerk. look at it like this. you can have a dad that will help you, and be as normal as a dad like yours can be to you, or you can just act the way your acting, like a horses butt, and keep pissing your dad off. if you want him to die, why dont you just kill him? butthead? god your an a.s.s

i've just read your second additional details, and i'll tell you right now, i dont make it a point to read every single other question you've ever asked before i answer a random question.

Answer 4

Is it wrong for a dad to want his daughter to be successful in life? His idea of success may differ from yours. So, does that give you the right to insult and hurt him? Put yourself in his shoes. If you have a daughter, and she's grown before your eyes. One day she tells you that she wished you were dead. How would you feel if she's your only child and you have high hopes for her?
Please apologise for the cruel comments you made to your father and ask for his forgiveness. Otherwise you may regret this for the rest of your life, if he passes away b4 you could do it.
I am sure you will be lead a happier life after your apology. it is then up to your father whether to accept your apology. If he doesn't, then he's behaving immaturely.

Answer 5

I read the original question. I can understand why he is acting the way he is. You need to talk to him, tell him you are sorry and tell him that you love him.

I know you are younger, but try to put yourself in his position....he reads on the internet that his daughter doesn't love him, is ashamed of him and their heritage, feels that he is a nerd and you top it off by slamming your mother-his wife. How would you feel?

The first step to repair and to growing up is to apologize. You then need to realize that life and what matters is not about how someone appears,but how they treat those around them.
I hope you learn what you need to from this.

Answer 6

sounds like your dad is very unlucky to have you for a son
the least you can do is be respectfull for the people that created your life and be gratefull for having looked after it (you)
if I was your Dad I would also be shell shocked to find out you have been hanging his dirty laundry in public

he is justified for aborting you at this late stage ,or putting you up for adoption ,maybe you will be happier
he would certainly have a lot more chance of archieving that.

Answer 7

kids are always embarrassed of their parents, it is pathetic, you need to show some respect because he busts his *** 8 hours a day so you can go to school and have a roof over your head.

you probably really hurt his feelings and you need to apologize.

remember.. actions speak louder than words.. so SHOW him some respect!

he may be depressed because maybe deep down he thought he would be something more than he turned out to be, maybe he thought he was doing everything right until you said whatever you did.

as humans it is normal to hurt the ones we love the most, but you need to see whatever you did was wrong and you need to tell him and show him you are sorry!

Answer 8

You need to act your age and respect your dad. who puts food on your table and gives u a place to live? parents give up a lot for their kids, u need to realize that. u need to see all the good in him and tell him what u see

Answer 9

If you dislike your parents so much, move out,and pay your own d*** bills, but from the sound of your letter it doesn't sound like you have enough commen sense to take care of yourself

Answer 10

Last class at 3:50 and not home until 7:00....hmmm...I wonder if he ate anything?

By all that is decent, TALK TO YOUR MOM!!! He needs to be committed, if not his condition could deteriorate to the point that it could be life threatening. (If not his....yours!)