horrible sometimes. i've been working hard to put this whole trip together, and he hasn't even done a thing...i don't know if he's even thanked me. and tonight, after a really bad day at work, and a week where i barely got any sleep, and being incredibly stressed out, he got mad and took it out on me...im so tired of this...of crying and feeling horrible again and again. he always has"good reasons" for getting angry, but then finds some excuse the next day (sorry;"i was tired") to dismiss it. i'm a really supportive, loving gf and i know i don't deserve to be treated this way. i want to be with someone who appreciates me and doesn't explode in anger all the time. i don't even know anymore if this is normal..because of his anger, i'm always second-guessing myself. anyway,our flight leaves tomorrow for the weekend (and is non-refundable). my face is red from crying, i'm beyond exhausted(no sleep all week,from trip planning),stressed to the max, and i still have to pack. what should i do?
2006-09-01 17:41:49 · 12 answers · asked by melon_rose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go!.... figure things things out when you return.
you guys have to talk about this.... you said bf not finance ..you have time
2006-09-01 17:46:12 · answer #1 · answered by magdalina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finish packing, go on the vacation, and while you are away think to yourself if this is the way you want to live your life -- always second-guessing what to say and dealing with his disrespect and angry words. There are no "good reasons" for him to get mad with you because he's had a bad day. You are absolutely correct -- this is not normal and if you stay with him you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of verbal abuse. "I'm sorry" never makes the hurt go away, especially if he isn't actually sorry. Have a restful time and think more about your future with this person.
2006-09-01 17:49:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I would go on the trip and try to relax.. get some rest and have some fun.. then when you come back get rid of him !! Love dose not hurt you it makes you feel like you are on top of the world. If he loved you he would want you to be happy.. perhaps he is not happy and he don't know how to make anyone happy.. untill he straightens things out he will never have a good relationship.. my first husband used me as his punching bag, the second as his mental whipping post.. Ive been single now for 7 years , it took me a long time to get over the abuse.. save yourself some heartache and get rid of him.. good luck
2006-09-01 17:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf may not be keen on the holiday trip, especially when you have made all the arrangements without consulting him. Your intentions may be good, to do all the leg-work. But most people like to be consulted first, when decisions made involve them. Did you spring a surprise on him? He may feel that you are trying to control his life, making all the decisions for him.
Didn't you consult him with regards to his work schedule, timing, destination and programme? Even if the decisions are ok, he may not be happy at not being consulted. As this happens all the time, you ought to communicate more with him.
Looks to me like both of you do not communicate sincerely with each other! Hence the misunderstanding!
2006-09-01 18:13:48 · answer #4 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you like being treated like that? What are you really getting out of the relationship?
And if you don't like it, why do you stick around?
That kind of treatment is a personality flaw and will only get worse with age. Think carefully about becoming more involved with the guy -- and then run like Hell!
One of my friend's ex-husband killed a woman because she didn't know how to act with such an abusive creature, and she stuck around. I'm glad my friend got out when she did, even though it was after many years of being with him and being beaten and hovered over.
2006-09-01 17:55:48 · answer #5 · answered by brightpool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not want to stay with this man. He does not value you nearly enough. He is self-centered and will only "care" for you when it is convenient. He will get angry when you cost him anything in time, effort, money or emotions. He is abusive. Be smart. Get away from him. Go on the vacation by yourself. You'd be better off sacrificing the money and saving yourself from a very bad relationship
2006-09-01 17:46:15 · answer #6 · answered by whiteparrot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack your bag not his..he's a big boy he can do his own...When it's time to leave tomorrow you go to the airport...if he asks what are you doing ...Tell him I am going on vacation,if you want to come along then you better pack but then you need to go..Go on your trip ,screw him...you need this vacation and if he doesn't make it oh well
2006-09-01 17:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's crazy, i just got out a relationship, just like yours(well we wasn't going on vacation) but so the same, girl, i got out and you need to, i think that they are going crazy, or something, it's not worth it, and you can do better, no woman deserves being talked to like they are a dog.......... follow your heart, and hopefully you will find your answer, cause no one can tell you to leave him, but have a safe and nice trip
2006-09-01 17:48:39 · answer #8 · answered by miss.d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you leave him and take one of your girlfriends and have a lot of fun over the trip! That's what I would do!
2006-09-01 18:18:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
EITHER HE'S BEEN STEPPING OUT ON YOU AND FEEL GUILTY OR HE DOSEN'T WANT TO GO TO THE TRIP
2006-09-01 17:46:30 · answer #10 · answered by blackbeauty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋