if a woman wants a man to get to know her, and shes looking for more than just sex. like a relationship, a life partner, should she hold off on having sex? if yes, for how long? why? but if the attraction is there, why not go for it? isnt sex part of a relashionship? could sex make things better or worse? do i just go with the flow, and see what happends? i dont feel right about that, but, at this point, i dont know what to do.hes 35 and im 48, we get along great, and everything is pretty cool between us. we dont seem to have a problem with the age thing. takin things pretty slow, just dont know what to do about this sex thing? would like for this to come out as a secure and lasting relationship. thanks
2006-09-01 17:38:34 · 6 answers · asked by hippie chick 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Relationships are always tricky. Be honest with him, and yourself. Follow your inner feelings.
Good luck,
2006-09-01 17:43:53 · answer #1 · answered by Repub-lick'n 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's better to wait, so that you can develop the rest of your relationship more fully, and see if it's worth making a life commitment. We concentrated too much on the physical, my ex and I, and didn't even realize that we didn't know one another well enough otherwise and that we had some serious differences. It made for a 22 year but largely unhappy marriage. Sex doesn't help you get to know each other that much better.
Yes,it is part of a relationship -- a relationship called marriage, in which you give yourself to each other fully and forever. It's not just a fun thing to do together.
A lot of people end up having doubts or bad feelings about having sex before they were ready. Although it's frustrating at the time, hardly anyone really looks back and regrets waiting, though.
2006-09-01 17:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by catintrepid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want him to get to know you? Don't have sex with him. Make sure he knows your mind before he knows your body. There's more to a relationship than sex. Make sure you can communicate on an intellectual level, because if you can't do that, then the sex won't mean a whole lot.
If you find that you absolutely cannot keep your hands off him, then just marry the guy and have lots of meaningless sex for the rest of your life. If he only stimulates your body, but not your mind, you'll be a bored woman, but remember, you made that choice.
2006-09-01 17:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women always think that once you have "given up" sex, you have given up everything. The truth is guys have trouble telling the diffrence between lust and love until we've had sex with you. If you want to waste time make him wait. A guy will stay with you or leave you regardless of when you have sex. My longest relationship was with a person I slept with on the first night. So have fun and see what happens.
2006-09-01 17:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are both old enough to know whether your relationship is dependent on sex alone.
Ask yourself: What's the purpose of holding it off? Are both of you virgins, or at least you? If not, what's the reason for the delay? Don't you want to know whether you are both compatible in your views about sex, which is a vital part in a couple?
2006-09-01 18:37:03 · answer #5 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for me, i would say go with your gut feeling, but just make it clear that you are looking for a relationship. even you are not after a commitment right away.
2006-09-01 17:49:57 · answer #6 · answered by coconut G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋