This one girl is always around my boyfriend and I hate her for it. I am so jealous. I dont know what to do about it though...I've told him how i feel, but its not him. its her.
2006-09-01 17:26:56 · 29 answers · asked by nobodyinparticular...lol 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He IS my boyfriend and I love him and I trust him... I just can't stand her always commenting and stuff. She yells out inappropriate things and stuff. So I met her and I was really really rude because earlier in the day she was giving me nasty looks. She doesn't understand why I was so mean. So I took some of your advice and I emailed her and said I hoped we could start over and I apologized. But if she doesnt knock it off, I swear I'm gonna go physcho on her...lol.
2006-09-02 17:11:23 · update #1
Don't ask, don't tell.
2006-09-01 17:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is where you have to start trusting your boyfriend. I had to deal with it 30 years ago when I first met my now husband. He had alot of friends that were girls. I was so jealous because I had low self-esteem and hadn't learned to trust him yet because of my past boyfriend. It took me a while, but he taught me to trust him unconditionally. Trust is an important aspect of any relationship. Once your boyfriend proves that you can trust him than you can relax. Forget about the other girl and your unfounded jealousy.
2006-09-02 00:40:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It took me a very long time to get over my misplaced jealousy with the female friends. It all has to do with how your man acts around these girls. Is it flirty or just normal?
My boyfriend (and I think most everyone does this anyway) changed his whole attitude around female friends. His voice changes to a really nice, sweet tone and he's super nice to them. It bothered me for a long time but I eventually got over it. But he always makes a point to hug his best friends' girlfriends and that kind of pisses me off too. But I know that there are no bad intentions in these hugs or these mood changes. That's how I finally got over it.
I suggest just noticing if he's flirting or if he's just acting normally. If he's flirting with them in front of you, I'd call him out on it. If he's just acting normal and friendly around them, you're gonna have to just let it go. Being a jealous girlfriend puts the guys off.
2006-09-02 00:32:49 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well talk to him and her about it. No need for you to sit around and be jealous. You have feelings, so let them be known. Besides I'm sure if you have any hot guy friends always hanging around you, I'm quite sure your bf would let the whole world know that he'd kick the guy's butt if he even touched you once. So you have a right to feel how you feel just don't be quiet about it.
2006-09-02 01:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give your boyfriend a break. One of the most important things in a relationship is trust. Regardless of her actions do you trust your boyfriend enough to be sure he will stay faithfull to you. If you do you should have no worries. It is unrealistic to think that now that he is with you he should never have a friendship with another girl.
2006-09-02 00:32:23 · answer #5 · answered by Betty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl, when you get the answer please let me know cause were in the same boat. i went out with this guy he was dancing all over some chick a.., i didnt say anything. cause a dance is a dance knowing deep down inside i was mad as hell. womens intuition. then i went uostairs and some chick he havent seen in a minute kissed him in the mouth while i was right there i felt so disrespected. he got nerve to say he knew her for a long time there just friends. now what do you think about that? question re-directed. leave him alone?
2006-09-02 00:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by blackbeauty 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whatever you do, don't throw a jealous hissy fit...then he'll know how much you care and use it to push your buttons. I know it sucks. I had an ex-BF with a female "friend" who always left slutty messages all over his MySpace page...it made me physically ill, and I wanted to track her down and punch her in the face. Instead, I got male "friends" to call and hang around me all the time and make him jealous. I guess it doesn't exactly solve the problem, but it's a fun way to fight fire with fire.
2006-09-02 00:35:01 · answer #7 · answered by NA 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if you told him how you feel and he doesn't respect your feelings at least a little bit, then you obviously have things to think about.
Why do you not liker her? Is it because you think she is out to get your man? If that's the case, then you can't blame it all on her because it takes 2 to tango and if he does fall for her, then he wasn't really yours to begin with.
And why are people saying he isn't your boyfriend...did I miss something here because I thought he was.
2006-09-02 00:29:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is not healthy in a relationship...ask me how I know! You have to have full trust in him and tell yourself "well if he screws around it's his loss not mine, and this is how it is supposed to be". If he truly loves you he won't mess with anyone! As far as the skank goes.............your self confidence will let her know that she has nothing on you! Never let them see you "glisten" honey. Now, head up, shoulders back, smile and be happy - he's with YOU!!!
2006-09-02 00:33:02 · answer #9 · answered by CluelessOne 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if you told him he should tell her 2 limit her available time around him its not setting well with my girl and if she doesn't want to listen then you step in and tell her this is not a reality TV show and he is not the bachelor if that's what your looking for go to ABC TV and try out
2006-09-02 00:31:31 · answer #10 · answered by teresa d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop hating her, set your jealousy aside and make friends with this girl. that way, she'll be more inclined to include you in the things they do together. Which results in you spending more time with your boyfriend and being allowed to join their close knit clique.
2006-09-02 00:30:38 · answer #11 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋