I always had personal conviction of trying to be nice and kind to people at all times, especially people in need of help. By following that conviction, I participated in volunteering activities, always tried to never refuse people's favor unless it is an emergency and just treat everyone with kindness and respect.
Recently a person who are familiar with me told me, "You need to be more selfish. Learn when to refuse people's favors. You need to be more greedy by asking more, desiring more. You also need to be jealous when people are ahead of you. By doing so, you will be able to succeed."
It is certainly true that I have yet to reach success at 24 years of age. What he said made me reflect on my life.
Do you agree with his statement? What do you suggest I change in my life?
2006-09-01 17:18:20 · 18 answers · asked by nicesinging1 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
There is a difference between being "nice and humble" and "naive and stupid." As long as you are not being taken advantage of, then there is nothing wrong with being nice. Of course, you should always pray about things to find out what exactly God wants you to do before doing it.
For instance, if someone tells you they are in a bind and need money for groceries. This person is always in a bind and needs groceries, but every time you give them money, they waste it. Perhaps, God would rather you go out and buy them groceries instead of giving them money. Or maybe He wants you to sit down and try to teach them how to budget. He could also want you to give them the money. Just find out what exactly He wants so you know that you are dong His will.
2006-09-01 17:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by shybusch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person who told you that you must be greedy and selfish and way to above themselves. Some people you look up to don't always give you the best advice. Being a humble person is hard and sometimes people take you for granted when you are to nice and do anything for people. But there is a point where you have to just say no to people not be selfish or desiring, thinking that its all about you. It's one thing to be a people pleaser which is not good and another to just serve people. You actually have the right to say no sometimes I mean you are human. But you got to go beyond your desires and look out for the other people who might not have everything you got. Jesus back in the day use to serve people by helping out with things and people turned around and served him. Pharasies had a nasty way of thinking to where they served people just to be seen but they were going about it the wrong way and they got mad when Jesus told them about themselves. The greatest gift anybody can have is a servant spirit who is willing. But don't always think you are a fixer to every person problems or an answer to their troubles only God is. You keep being humble and never stop cause greater is your reward at the end. Don't ever think nobody is wacthing you help others. You're always being wacthed. And once somebody notice the humility you have somebody you don't know might turn around and bless you giving you what your heart desires, I've been there and have done that. Keep it up and never put those guards down. Trust me. People will respect you for being humble more than you think because they wish they can be that way to. And they wonder why nobody likes to be around them.
Have faith and courage. All your labor and work you do as long as its not just to be seen will eventually sprout and harvest. Just hang on... Any moment...
2006-09-01 17:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom has a saying in spanish, "Se mansa pero no mensa" Be nice but not foolish (literally stupid). I don't think that "friend" of yours was right by saying you should be more selfish and greedy and jealous of others succeeding. I think you should continue to be nice but be wary of people that are only out there for a free ride. You will come across people that will try to take advantage of you and what you should do is keep away from them. As far as succeeding, you don't need greed or selfishness to attain it. All you have to do is look in your heart and see what your passion is and you will be rewarded for it. Gl gl in this.
2006-09-01 17:39:23 · answer #3 · answered by MzzandtheChuchuBees 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know in your heart what you have done towards helping. There is a BIG difference between helping and taking someone as a "dependent". You are to "help". your heart will be RIGHT when you reach that. the biggest thing in this world, is that of learning to say NO.
the Word, is very clear, when to say NO.
hey.........don't ever be greedy. You will fall flat on your nose doing this.
Your friend doen't sound like much of a "spiritual" friend. I see he can offer no spiritual growth for you.
Good Luck. Good Q*.
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2006-09-01 18:11:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but not for the reasons he said, you should indeed learn to say no, if for no other reason then people will abuse your selflessness, and you will burn out. Despite what the bible says, we were not meant to be slaves to other people, just because we happen to have a vagina.You will never, ever, see a man doing this, but women have been told it is our duty to give until it hurts. If you continually give to other people, when do you receive? Everybody deserves a turn, and by constantly putting others before yourself, you are giving away your turn. You will turn into a bitter, lonely old woman if you don't allow people to give to you as well.
2006-09-01 17:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would like to ask you, what is success? Secondly 24 isn't that old. Thirdly, I would like to point out that there's a difference between being nice, humble, compassionate, etc, and being a doormat for other people, bending over and taking whatever they give you. A lot of times, people who are of the latter call themselves "too nice," because they can make their character flaw, one that ultimately only hurts themself, sound like a virtue, like they're just too good for this world. You can be a considerate, compassionate human being and still assert yourself and make people treat you the way you deserve to be treated. There is a middle ground between doormat and a(s)shole.
2006-09-01 17:24:56 · answer #6 · answered by ethical_atheist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree at all. I look at it like this. If I am nice to people and help people out then I have succeeded in life. I don't need a fancy job to know that I have done a good job. I would feel horrible if I treated people badly just to get a good job. Jealousy eats away at people. I don't think that is a good thing at all.
2006-09-01 17:24:35 · answer #7 · answered by Mawyemsekhmet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell your friend that his attitude is exactly whats wrong with this world. No good people left. You can not give into this selfish attitude that has destroyed this earth. Look at the evil around you. This world is dying.
2006-09-01 17:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 16:34:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly yes, it is equated with being stupid as more malevolent people manoeuvre to get ahead at your expense. A great deal of them are sleazy but will get ahead that way. Be true to who you are and try not to be too naive
2006-09-01 17:22:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋