My two children, 10 and 12, both boys have been in foster care for the last year and a half. They were recently given back to their mother, my ex. I have not seen them, until recently, for a little less than 2 years. Would it be wise of me to fight for them or let time take it's toll and let the kids stay with her? Help
2006-09-01 17:15:28 · 9 answers · asked by jjcap 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It would be good if you could get some time for visitation and be an equal part of their lives.
Maybe the two of you could be mature enough to do what is best for the kids and get along in front of them
2006-09-01 17:23:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you, without State or Government assistance provide a better life for them than their mother can? Why were they placed in foster care rather than with their father? Are you in the position to play a positive and supportive role in their lives? Are you capable of participating as a healthy role model in their lives? Are you mature enough to take on the responsibility of raising or helping to raise these two minor children?
Just a few questions you might want to ask yourself before you jump headfirst into this...these are things that can make or break your case for custody and visitation.
2006-09-05 06:09:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is that bad then fight, see your kids and see how they are then your mind will ahve its own answer sometimes what kids want isnt what they need and they wont know till later you will know if you get them more often and if been in foster care because of her bein a bad mother abusive and stuff then no questions about it they need to have you fight and they will know theres a safe place to be, also the state will as well,
2006-09-01 17:27:57 · answer #3 · answered by BRIAN J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a sad story but its really what the kids want .She might take care of them in a different way but she is still their mother and they are her kids so when she took them back she took a vow to love and cherish them like a real mother should and fighting for them might make the situation worse.They are old enough to make their own decisions so you should give them thier space and bonding time to see who they came from.Because now that she took them back they might choose that road to go on.Unless you seee abuse you shouldn't try to fight it even though it is hard toknow thta you had to let them go
2006-09-01 17:27:08 · answer #4 · answered by krisice456 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how heartbreaking. do you want them? are you willing to do whatever it takes to be a dad? that means giving up everything, especially at this point... they need all the love and time that you have to give. ask the same questions about your wife, di you think she would be a better mother than you would be father?
also, can you and your ex form a civil relationship so that the kids can have a mommy and a daddy? that would be ideal. good luck, i'll say a prayer.
2006-09-01 17:24:24 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After being in foster care for that long, most Judges won't even talk to you. Be involved in their lives, teach them what you have learned and thing will work out fine. Good luck.
2006-09-01 17:35:35 · answer #6 · answered by charles j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do anything , those boys have been thru enough ...just let them stay and if things start going bad then i would take them..but they have been thru enough so let them be for now
2006-09-01 17:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIGHT for visitation rights! I guarantee that your kids will never forget you...and will always wonder why you didn't FIGHT for them. They need to know their Dad loves them. Don't give up. It's worth it.
2006-09-01 17:47:19 · answer #8 · answered by yorbalinda1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be seeing them on a regular basis. They need you.
2006-09-01 17:53:43 · answer #9 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋