i have girl friend..she is 19years old and im 18years old.....i got no job...im still studying...my mother-in-law said that she will never let me to marry her daughter......i don't know what to do...i love that gal alot....i'll die if i can't get her with me.....my girl's mum said to my girl that she will give anthor 4years to study and after that she have to marry the person...mum saying....and we live in srilanka....it's a south asian country.....now i have to find a job...money....place to live.....but don't know how to start.....my educational stuff not going well.....so i have to come up with something my own...if some one can help me....please reply....my handphone number is 00940786013837 if you can do something ...msg me to this numbr...im just a boy who trying to get his love back....please help me....i can't froget my girl......and my name is Gihan ...and ma girl is Ishara........my girl's parents are richer than mine......so i have to be rich tooo if i want to marry her...
2006-09-01 17:02:42 · 12 answers · asked by prince of dead 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
that is one thing I could never understand. If you live in a country where there is arranged marriages, or the parents have the say on whom you are going to marry.
How does Ishara feel about this, Is there a way that the two of you can wait until you get your stuff together.
If she loves you she will wait until there is an opportunity for both of you to be together. Regardless, you are still young, you need to take care of yourself, and finish your schooling, and find employment.
I'm so glad I'm living in the USA.
2006-09-07 22:15:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should back up and look at your situation. You don't have a job and aren't stable. You have nothing but Love to offer her at this time. That only goes so far in the real world though. Here's what to do...go to a job training school or find a job that will provide for the 2 of you. If you're still studying...a career will come later. But honestly what's the rush? If it's meant for you & her to be together, you will be. Slow down & prove yourself!!! You can't live off of love alone. Gotta have security & means to provide for her & yourself. I'm sure her mom isn't trying to make her daughter be w/ someone just b/c of money. Prove yourself & you will get the mother's approval. She just wants her daughter to be happy & taken care of. Be patient & stay focused...it'll work out for you.
2006-09-07 22:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by paigenstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young enough that you need to still respect her parents. If you both went off, and got married, you would be causing more harm than good down the road. When you marry her, you marry into her family. Show them the respect they deserve, and if you do, they will honor you, and keep their daughter for you.
You need to prove to them that you are a man of your word. Love their daughter, but prove that you can provide for her. Respecting her mother is the first step you must take. Finish your education, get your job, then and only then, do you go and get your girl.
2006-09-07 17:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by thanos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mum cares about her daughter's future. You did say you were jobless. Stick with school so you have better prospects for the future. Keep up the relationship and marry her in 4 years.
2006-09-08 22:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by jasminelilia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up. Why are you thinking marriage at 18? You have about 10 more years to go man grow up. Date more girls and then you will realize that someone else is better for you.
2006-09-08 11:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by ME_FROM_ATL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your girlfriend's mom is upset at the way you put your words and sentences together--maybe she thinks it's a reflection of the way you think and she's scared silly to allow her daughter to be involved with you. Good luck in school.
2006-09-08 07:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how things are there but just go back to school and if you need a job, go get one. I wouldn't let you marry my daughter if you couldn't support. That 'all you need is love' is crap. Drag her to America.
2006-09-02 13:36:40 · answer #7 · answered by aluna86jh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you elope with her, they will hate you both, and you know that..so...be as patient as possible...and show them you have intentions of taking care of their daughter...work two jobs if you have too...try to talk to them and tell them you want to prove to them that you are worthy, and would always respect THEM also.
Take any jobs you can...to show you are not proud, while you seek your education..and above all, show them you respect them and their daughter, and only want the best and that you pray that they will have patience for you..Good luck dear
2006-09-09 00:17:52 · answer #8 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She really don't need her parents permission. Maybe she don't want to get married and is using them as an excuse.
2006-09-01 17:26:55 · answer #9 · answered by Apple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a job finieh your studies then worry about getting married
2006-09-08 08:03:03 · answer #10 · answered by baby nicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋