Am I wrong about believeing that Muslim women should have same rights as muslim men?

Question

ok i am a muslim..but i totally hate that Islam gave more power to guys then girls...i mean what is it about anyway? i am 17 and i do double the work my brother does because he is a guy but i support my self mostly my parents don't support me with school money and cloths and stuff, but i still have to do my brother's stuff because he is a "guy" and he wont have to do this stuff..i mean really its hard to have a job with school, hwk and then mt chores and most of the time my brothers chores...
i mean i can understand back then when only guys had jobs and they made the money but now a days every one works so why is that guys are given more rights then girls. why are men allowed to have 4 wifes and women only one husband... i use to thought i was because of the baby but now we haveDNA test to prove whose baby it is.
my mom always says that its becuase i have to marry and go and do chores and bla blallaalbabalbalbabalb. but i dont want to get married or have kids. but if i say that out

loud heaven falls apart.....and they wont let me drive because i am a girl..that all has made me a reble. I am not allow to talk to guys but i have more guy friends then girls. i just dont kno what to do,.....because i dont want to make allah mad by talking this way but i cant help it

i used to live in pakistan....thank god i am not there anymore because i used to be stupid when i was there..i never questioned my parents i thought they were right in everything, even if they yelled at me for putting more sugar in there tea....we live here in Florida now. but i have been paying for my every thing even food most of the time since i turned 15.....and i do chores so i dont see how my bro or dad has more rights then me

Answer 1

I certainly see your point too!

In the past, before modern medicine, men lived longer then women. It's true. Women had baby after baby, They knew little of nutrition or post natal care. It was rare for a woman to live to be 30 let alone reach menopause. Women were worn out by 25 and child bed fever was rampant.

Haveing more than one wife is an out dated practice. It was valid a couple hundred years ago when the human race was fighting to populate the planet. A man could create a baby every night 7 days a week for a years. But a woman could only have one child per year. Potentil of 365 children per year to 1 child per year. The rate of infant mortality was pretty high too. I can't remeber the statistics on that but it is shocking that so many children died before adult hood. Lots of reason for one man to have more then one wife.

Now the planet is overpopulated. Poligamy is a really, really bad idea! It is no longer valid.

Now that women are living longer and staying healthier we have a chance to develope ideas, aspirations, abilities and potential. Women make up more than half the population on thie planet!

It is my contention that any religion that does not recognize these facts, come to terms with them and treat their women better is doomed.

I wish you luck. But if I what I hear about your religion is true you have little to fear from Allah because he loves you , it is the other members of your religion you should fear. If I were you I would keep very quite about how you feel.

Good luck to you!

Answer 2

You are blaming something that is more culture than anything else. I'm also Muslim and I have always been treated the same as my sisters, and my wife would also disagree as she does the stuff you say about the clothes, dishes,etc, but out of respect and does not do it thinking she has to. She will just the same make me do some chores since she expects the same in return, respect. So in essence we treat each other as we would want to be treated. We do have family who are as you describe, very old fashioned, and we do have family who are totally opposite, each situation is in its own, but they are all Muslim so as you can see, its not Islam but culture or upbringing. For example, in Kuwait and Iraq, they wear head scarves all the time, but not everywhere.

Answer 3

I can see your problems...all people regardless of religion and race experience similar stuff.

Nope you are not wrong in thinking that...true knowledge and wisdom only can be taken by inquisitive minds. I would want to know what culture/nation do you live in? You see in some Muslim nations (best example is Turkey) women do not suffer that much (though thats because they are modern and are progressive), but in other Muslim nations the reality is much much more horrible (Saudi Arabia and the Talibanian Afghanistan are the best examples in this case).

I'll be watching, cause I am interested in what some of the "other" Muslims will say about this...

Answer 4

First I will answer as a woman who has lived the life of a Muslim wife and as a non-muslim. You must research and read in order to understand the root of the practices of Islam. Men and women have their roles in society (this is not unique to Islam, it is true in American society and all societies all over the world...It's a fact of life, read any sociology or anthropology book) Women have to do more domestic work because they are to take care of the home and raise the children. Men are allowed to take on more than one wife only if they can provide for all of the wives in a manner that she is accostomed to before he married her. That means if he buys a house for one, he should buy a house for all etc. It is the role of the male to provide for his family.

Here it is difficult because the roles of women are so different. In America women don't necessarily wait for a man to provide for her, so it is difficult to live life according to Islamic tradition. Unfortunatly it takes longer for social traditions to change and we are sometimes caught in the middle.

I understand perfectly your frustration as I was born and raised as a non-muslim and then converted as an adult. I am not lying when I say, reading Islamic literature helped me to understand the why's of Islamic customs and practices. Then it was easier to accept. I don't agree with everything, but Islam is very logical and explains why of all it's practices. Such as the hijab, as an American I thought it was repressive, until I read the literature and saw that it was a way of women earning respect of men instead of being treated as a sex object. It made it easier for me to cover my head etc.

Ok, that's enough. I wish you luck in your journey. Own your religion, study it and understand that Allah is the root of all beliefs and he alone can make rules.

Answer 5

How Muslim women are treated has a lot more to do with local culture than with Islam. Your family comes from some local culture, and that mostly determines what goes on in your home.

Answer 6

it's not Islam that made people behave this way!! unfortunately it's some stupid old fashion traditions and depends on your parents back ground!! sorry you are treated this way but I'm a Muslim and my parents are Muslims.
in our house MEN are MEN. my brother and i help our mother and sister in all their needs not the other way around!!
my mom and sister have high education and have great jobs and they are independent women but it's still our duty as men to be there when they need us!!!

good luck and tell your lazy brother to get his butt up and do his own work!! :)
peace!!

Answer 7

that kind of thinking goes on in a lot of families..not just Muslim... I haven't been Muslim all my life and i grew up the same way..doing all the chores at home while my brother went on to do his own thing..I agree that its not right..

Answer 8

yeah im 17 too, and a muslim, im kinda goin through the same thing, but ithatnk god im allowed to drive, i do have a cell phone, adn i dont have to do vchores, and they pay for everything. but im pissed cuz they dont want me tallking to guys.. and im not allowed to have a job!!! i have to get a career, and go to school and stuff.. but tehy r totally supporting me for school so im happy fr that... and plz do muslims a favor and dont say **** like that.. just cuz ur parents r old fashioned, does not mean muslim women are not equal with men

Answer 9

If I were you, I'd study the Koran and use their own dogma against them.If I remember correctly, doesn't the man have to financially support his wife,and children, but if the wife works, she keeps what she makes?Try giving this website a look.

Answer 10

Well, I wonder what God says about this. I am a Christian man, I honor women because my Bible tells me to.
I assume nothing, I speak only what I read in the bible.
Don't take my word for it read it yourself. I have read some of the Koran. There is always food for thought in any spiritual text.
There are people who hate me for being a Christian. The Bible speaks of a lot of relevant things regarding women and none of it debases them. It is written that in the beginning God created man male and female created he them. if you look very carefully at that sentence, it describes man as being both male and female.
people who want to destroy the faith, those working for Satan will tell you that is a sexist statement because they want to destroy the faith. If you know what Satan tried to do in the garden of eden, you will realize that he told man, and is still telling man that God does not exist. and he has a lot of human helpers because they are spiritually blind. God tells men to honor women as the weaker vessel but it does not say dominate. read it for yourself.
The evil ones and the spiritually blind will call me a fool, they did likewise to Jesus, so I am honored to be cursed in his name, but it is written he will make his enemies his footstool.