but i dont know how to tell my parents. i cant talk to my parents as easily as i can to my friend. last week i went to my school's guidance counselor to get more info on those things and my friend came with me but i never told my parents. how and when should i tell them this? i think that if i do tell them then they will think i am a failure or something.
2006-09-01 16:51:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Open communication between you and your parents is always best. If you actually are having true issues they need to be informed in order to help you deal with it and if you're not just being a drama queen and seeking attention they will not see you as a failure, but will worry that they instead may have failed you in some way...Work it out with them...don't hide it from them. They are your parents and they love you.
2006-09-05 06:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your probably young and think your parents don't know much about you. If they've ever paid attention to you in a social situation, chances are, they already know. However, they may not know how much it bothers you and that your trying to seek help from the resources you know of. Go to your parents. Tell them you have a social phobia that is causing you depression and you don't want all this effecting your school work. You sound pretty intelligent, so I'm sure they wouldn't want something getting in the way of your schoolwork.
2006-09-02 00:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by indystyl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talking to parents at your age is always a tough task to begin with and i really wouldnt think you had a social phobia considering that a person with that even has troubles making one friend let alone a whole group of them i would say that you have a low self esteem issue and your friend is a good start to repairing that as she/he gives you courage to face the possibility that you may have a serious issue such as depression try having your friend present with you when yo talk to your parents as because you are a minor and any real help you can get would require them to know about and sign for and if your parents think your a faliur because you have something that you cant control on your own then i find that appalling i would try to understan and help any of my children in anyway i can regardless of my feelings
2006-09-02 00:05:00 · answer #3 · answered by bretmaverick91969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly empathise and feel sad for you that you have to constantly live up to your parents' expectations. You have to realise that your parents are only responsible for your upbringing up to a certain point in your life.
I understand how difficult it is to relate to your parents because to this day, as an adult, I have that difficulty too. But I also realised that many problems that adult life brings on can and should be resolved on your own. You don't have to worry too much about how your parents will think that you are a failure. You just need enough self love and pride to walk the rest of your life's journey independently on your own.
Part of your social phobia and depression could be triggered from your yearning for your parents' constant encouragement and approval. You don't need their words of affirmation to gain courage and strength. You need to learn to be strong to face this world alone. But then again, you are not alone if you have a strong social circle of friends.
Pluck up enough courage and be a member of a club or church. Channel your negative thoughts and energy to establishing more friends or helping others and you'll forget about your own pain and misery. Good luck!
2006-09-02 00:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are your parents and you can tell them anything.just try to remember that if they were to get mad it is because they want the best for. the sad thing is you'll never find this out til your older.Love your friends and its great if they are with you for ever. but i know your family will be.No matter what they love you. And always remember that they were kids once too. so they may help more than you think.
2006-09-02 01:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by mike and shannon R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling the way you do about talking to your parents is part of the problem. Depression can be a debilitating illness if you suffer from it seeking help is the only solution.
2006-09-01 23:58:18 · answer #6 · answered by Greg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are good parents,they will understand you.Maybe is good idea if the counsellor talk with them.Good luck.And you are okay.What you have or feel, can happen to everybody.Do not worry about, and get a good professional help.
2006-09-02 02:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THEY WILL NOT THINK YOU ARE A FAILURE, YOU NEED TO TELL YOUR PARENTS AND THEY CAN MAKE A DR APPT. TALK TO YOUR DR ABOUT IT, MAYBE YOU JUST NEED SOMETHING TO GET YOU THRU THIS TIME OF NEED. TRY TALKING TO THE SCHOOL COUNSELOR ALSO.
2006-09-01 23:59:24 · answer #8 · answered by angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its pretty hard to diagnose yourself.... i thought i had schizophrenia and when i finally told someone about it i was only diagnosed with major depression and psycotic symptoms. Get a second opinion before you make up your mind
2006-09-01 23:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by DeAd DiScO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋