Im 6 months away from being 18 and i want to move out. Im totally serious, some people might think im stupid but you did not live my life. Its too much to get into on words, i would end up writing a novel. lol. but seriously i've had it. I want to move out when im 18 which is 2/7/2007. I want to pay for my own college expences. and be independent and be with the Love of My Life. My friend insists on me staying at her house as long as i want. Her parents are cool with it. My mom knows my plans but my dad doesnt. Thats the person i want to get away from. He wants me to live his life. Figures...I just need some support here Please anyone can you give me a check list so i can be on my way to start a life for myself? What are your suggestions. I am deffinatly not changing my mind. I am going to do it. I need your help. PLEASE!
Thank You.
2006-09-01 16:46:10 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
In most states, the legal age is 18 if you haven't been emancipated. You would be a "runaway" at 17, no matter how close your birthday is. Your dad could have the police bring you home if you left before your birthday.
Your birthday really isn't that far away, you've lived with him this long, 6 more months won't matter.
1. After you turn 18 and move out, get a job if you don't already have one. Go from part time to full time during the summer to help with money.
2. Start saving for college, book costs and tuition.
3. Fill out all the change of address forms for mail, banks, doctors, schools, credit cards, or anything else.
4. Make sure you have your own transportation if you don't already. If you already have a car, take it off your parents insurance and get your own.
5. Start picking up furniture and appliances little by little. While your mom may let you take your bedroom furniture, I doubt she's going to give you the couch and table.
6. You'll probably need a computer for classes, try to find a cheep one, even an old used one will work for school papers.
7. You will be off your parents medical and dental insurance and will be too old for government aid, try to find a good insurance plan for yourself. It's cheaper to pay a monthly bill than a $200 doctor's yearly check up and other expenses you may have, like medications.
8. Start getting plenty of boxes from stores that you can store for moving day. You can never have too many cardboard boxes, even if you don't use them all. Also, store plenty of old newspapers for wrapping fragile items. Label all boxes as you pack them for easy reference later, so a box marked "bedroom linens" wouldn't get placed in the kitchen.
9. Start watching local papers for a guess on monthly rent. You should have three months rent saved just in case. First and last months rent plus security deposit equal to one months rent is not uncommon.
10. Call around the local utility companies and ask about turn on fees and how they bill. Some companies want money up front just to connect you, others will add it to your monthly bill. Total the costs for each utility and have that much in savings just in case.
11. If you have to, rent a storage buliding until you find a place to live. You'll need somewhere to store all of your furniture for the new place. You don't want to have to shop all at once for everything.
12. Call the college you are planning on attending to make sure they don't require on campus housing for freshmen. Many do.
A general list of the items you should have to get by on, most rentals include a stove and refridgerator.
http://diplomaguide.com/articles/Moving_Away_for_College:_A_Packing_Checklist.html
Just make a list of everything you use on a normal basis. Then narrow it down by what you can't live without. Your guy should be helping with all the expenses, so ask him to chip in and buy the stuff in advance, put it in storage if you have to.
Trust me, it's easier to buy a little at a time than to try to find it all at once.
Good Luck!
2006-09-01 17:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
18 in the US of A
2006-09-01 16:49:17 · answer #2 · answered by zqx357 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means go ahead and do it. checklist? OK Do you have the several thousand dollars it is gonna cost each semester for you to go to college? Do you have a job that pays enough for you to pay rent on your own place and still have money to eat and pay the utility bills? Do you have enough maturity to realize that your standard of living is going to take a nosedive below the poverty line? Do you realize that with only your level of education you will be asking "Do you want fries with that?" when your are 50? Your father wants you to live his life? Not possible but he probably does want you to life a life that you can be proud of and provides you with the things you want and need. It is not so grand to be on your own and there is a lot more to it than just walking out the door and saying I am 18 and grown now. That won't mean a thing when you try to get a job. Your friend's parents are not gonna be cool with it a few months from now when you are there and needing things that you have no hope of providing for yourself. Did you know that a large majority of the prostitutes out there were totally serious about moving out the moment they turned 18? Sure go ahead and move out They are waiting for young meat like you 'cause ya know its hard out there for a pimp.
2006-09-01 16:54:42 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being independant may be hard. It's not as easy as it may seem and if you're not prepare and only think that you are, use the rest of the 6 months you have to save money. It's going to be even more difficult when you're in college. Some times you might end up starving yourself because you don't have any loose change to buy yourself something to eat. I've heard so many stories, unfortunately it's quite a struggle.
If you're as determined as you may seem, file for emancipation from your parents, get a lawyer to argue your point and set up a court date to do so.
2006-09-01 16:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
18. Advise - it is EASY to say a mess of hurtful things. Don't fall for it, if you are going to go, go without anger. If you want to be a man then act like one and calmly tell your parents your plans. Talk is Talk, they can say what they want, but if you are intent on leaving you can leave at 18. Finally, TRY to understand WHY they want you to take another course. It may not be the path you chose, but it will give you insight into what they want for you and how much they love you. Be well, and stay close to God.
2006-09-01 16:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by Russ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firslty, i would jsut like to quickly say, Ignore that other immature and mean comment from the person before me. You arent a b*tch, dont worry about that :). Its jsut a thing called jealousy i guess :). Secondly, i do think you are way advanced for your age, which is fantastic. i'm 15 and i dont even do thats stuff! I mean i have loads of experience with kids as my family have fostred young children for 6 years, but i wouldnt quite open myself up too such a willing resposibility as you! But if i'm honest, i would not want you to baby sit my kids, because i think you are still so young to be doing it, and you should still have the chance to be immature :). Plus i think i would have to get to meet someone first, before i left my kids t be looked after with them.
2016-03-17 06:28:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it, some plans to make prior to leaving your parents home:
start a part time job[ for work experience and to save money for your move, even if you are staying with a friend, you still need money to pay your way and for expenses ]
start looking into colleges and pick what you will study.
keep firm on your decision and be happy and content, i know you can do it and you will be proud of your self.. good luck
2006-09-01 16:54:21 · answer #7 · answered by walterknowsall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no legal age to leave your parents, but is what tring to ask yourself " If I prepare well ? Am I ready for challenge ? including financial , emotional , social issues,,etc. Good luck to you.
2006-09-01 17:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by for2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got 6 months to plan on where you are going to live, work and all that-- if you really want to leave than do it-- don't let anyone else tell you how to live your life. Hope it works out for you.
2006-09-01 16:49:47 · answer #9 · answered by awesome_eo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm pretty sure you can leave home once you're 16, as long as you're still going to school and you have a legal guardian. you just don't have to live with that guardian.
i don't think you're ruining your life because you're moving out. if you're almost 18, you know what you want and what you don't by now. if you don't think you want to be at home, chances are you don't want to be at home.
just be sure that your future living arrangements are stable, and you'll be fine. :)
2006-09-01 16:53:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋