if your dad cudles with you and rubs your chest around noone but dosent around other people should you tell someone?
2006-09-01 16:19:06 · 40 answers · asked by pokiedot432 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
omg please do. im begging you to. please. i was molested when i was little and thats how it started. u really need to tell someone before it gets out of hand. take it from me please do!!!!!!!
2006-09-01 16:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by crzeeeInLOVE 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are. If you're 4, he's being loving and playful... but if you're older, like 14, or even 11, and he's touching your breasts, firmly tell him NO and let him know that you WILL tell if he does it again. If he does, then tell a trusted adult. If that adult "brushes you off" or doesn't believe you, tell someone else... another relative, teacher, counselor, friend, or friend's parent.
If this has happened to you, know that it's NOT your fault & you've done NOTHING wrong. And no matter what he says to you, if it makes you uncomfortable, it's wrong. Tell someone who will listen and steer you in the right direction.
Hugging & cuddling is a loving way of showing affection, but a father has no business "touching" any private body part in any way. It's NOT affection, it's sexual abuse.
Listen to your gut... and do what you already know is the right thing.
Bless you, Sweetie.
2006-09-01 16:44:30 · answer #2 · answered by PJo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him to stop really casual the first time. Like if he starts then just swat his hand and say, "Stop daddy." But if he won't then it's time to tell your mother, assuming she's alive/around, if not your mother then a friend's mom, teacher, councelar, call an abuse hot line, a trusted relative, or anyone that will help you. Take care of this problem now because it's possible that your father will try to take it further. No one, even your father, has any right to violate you like that.
I wish you the best of luck in getting help.
2006-09-01 16:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell someone right away,period! I would not even deal with your father again, he knows what he is doing is wrong, he is a grown man and he knows better and it will get worse. Try telling your mother but if she acts as though it is nothing or like she does not believe you, she really does, but does not have the guts to do anything about. You have to be strong and tell someone else. As was stated earlier, a school counselor,teacher you trust, friends mom that is not best friends with your parents. Honey, he will lie and try to intimidate you but you have to be the strong one and stop this now, he has no right to touch you nor does anyone else. Protect yourself now at all costs..
God bless and write me if you would like..
2006-09-01 16:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by magnolia813 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u r obviously uncomfortable with this or u wouldn't have asked the question. yes get help from a trusted adult. he is touching u in an inapropriate manner. it will be hard to do because u love your dad but he needs help that only a counselor can give him. u also need to seek help from a counselor to help u accept this and go on with your life. good luck. i'll pray for you
2006-09-01 17:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by a very happily married woman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
absolutely because that is sexual harrassment and he shouldnt be doing that to u. Tell someone....anyone....as soon as possible b4 things get worse or he hurts u more than u already r. U dont deserve that and u know it so do urself a favor and stay away from him and make sure he gets punished for what he is doing.
2006-09-01 16:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You most certainly should!!! That is not right. No father should be touching his daughter's chest. Incest is only a step away. If this is you or someone you know, tell someone immediately before it gets out of hand. Let him know how sick he is.
2006-09-01 16:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. A lot of child molestation does not involve actual sex or penetration. At least not in the beginning.
He has done something terrible. Tell someone you trust to help.
2006-09-01 16:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this a joke?? I assume you're a girl... and it makes you very uncomfortable.. Firstly, if he does that - Immeditely tell him NO !! and tell him you're not comfortable with that and not to do it again. Then, immediately, go tell your mother. I hope to God she believes you.. 'cause no one can make something like that up ! If mom's not good,perhaps speak to a teacher or a friend's mother you can trust. Again, back to your dad.. remember, no matter who it is, if their touch is uncomfortable for you, tell them NO.. i !! (It's your body and it's special.. no one should make you feel uncomfortable.). Best of luck.
2006-09-01 16:23:51 · answer #9 · answered by FunInTheSun 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
eww... hes either being REALLY affectionate towards you or have a strange attraction to you so i suggest you tell your mom then have a little talk with your dad and say : "dad i love you but sometimes when you do those 'things' to me you make me really uncomfortable and i'd really apprecitae it if you'd stop" if he listens then good but if not then you should stay away from him when you guys are alone
2006-09-01 16:40:31 · answer #10 · answered by miss♡hollywood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him first that you are not comfortable with being touched that way and that you want him to stop.
If he doesn't stop, you should tell someone. And if that person doesn't help you, you should tell someone else until you find an adult who will help you. Best of luck.
2006-09-01 16:23:40 · answer #11 · answered by silver.graph 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋