2006-09-01 16:18:40 · 8 answers · asked by niceman steve 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Oh, dear, that is so sad. I can only say that I heard how others have done that. Pick a day when things can be calm and everyone is home. Present what the problem is (you didn't say ages of the children so it's hard to tell you what to say regarding the cancer, say what they will understand--age appropriate). I would not give an estimated date, just say that it is possible God may want mommy, we don't know yet.
I saw a show with a woman who knew she was dying of cancer make videos for her children as they grew and for special occasions. It was very touching and her daughter loved it. I'd write things too, cards, notes, etc. It is something the children can hang on to in years to come, not just pictures.
My heart and prayers go out to her. God bless
2006-09-01 16:30:21 · answer #1 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so difficult. I am so sorry. It primarily depends on the children's age as to the depth of information is given. Very young children need to feel they will still have a connection with the parent after they are gone. Maybe a journey type explanation. the parent has to go on a trip to heaven, and they will be watching over them each and every day. For older children they need to know the truth, that time is short, and allow them to interact with the ill parent. There is no easy way. When my family member became terminally ill it was the most difficult thing I had to do was call my children.
2006-09-01 16:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by roeskats 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it has to be a slow thing start by sayin mommy is really sick but the doctors are going to try to fix it... the find movies about cancer like lifetime movies or what ever andn make sure that she knows that is what mommy has. and while u are doing this make a box of memories for the chidren put pictures of mommy and them and have a box 4 each of then and write a letter to them for when shes gone... also a letter 4 each mildstone the child will face may help too. leave something that meant alot to mommy in each box... then once u feel the children really understand what cancer is and that they can't catch it from tpuching their mom tell them the doctors don't think they can fix mommy. I know i sounds like a lot of work. if they are having a hard time dealing try counceling for them to help them express what they feel n not feel bad hurting their mother's feelings
2006-09-01 16:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by evillama4eva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of books and experts out there. As far as here I can just give you my thoughts. Some of what you tell them depends on the age of the child of course. To me the best answer is honesty, just be honest about what is really happening. As far as giving time lines for passing, I would not suggest doing that unless there are a really accurate time line. From there making sure the children have a professional outlet to prepare themselves and are surrounded around loved ones so they feel safe.
2006-09-01 16:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by my1215boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IM sorry to hear about this. I would have the mother tell them along with writing in journals for each child that they can some day read and put pictures in it along with what shes describing, like one of their birthdays or an event or just something the mother rememebers that her kids brought her the ultimate joy.
I really hope this person beats it
2006-09-01 17:23:51 · answer #5 · answered by wilowdreams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them this riddle:
Knock knock.
Who's there?
Not mommy after she dies from cancer!
2006-09-05 11:18:44 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Gene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is soo sad im so sorry i dont know how to answer that just dont leave them with no explanation good luck
2006-09-01 16:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by Stacey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them. you know your kids. enjoy what time you have with them and family,friends and God Bless. they will be fine.
2006-09-01 17:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by mykids4me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋