how to make it same as when we were newly married ?any ideas!!!!!
2006-09-01 16:12:21 · 18 answers · asked by masha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
For me, the best remedy for a granted relationship is a few weeks apart from one another. I really hate to say it, but it is true. and the best way to get that fire going again is to take some time away and collect yourself and see what you have. The same things everyday causes boredom in the relationship. I have bought books on this subject and none of them seem to work. Reevaluation is the key. Take a moment and think about what you have and how much it means to you.
2006-09-01 16:31:42 · answer #1 · answered by jjcap 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have got a lot of ideas. But first you need to make sure that what ever you do you do not do this in front of your children and be discreet with neighbors also.
Clean house in a wife beater shirt (white man's shirt) if you are small use a size medium and so fourth. Prance around dusting, sweeping you know bend over to clean tables, pick up trash. Believe me you will not finish but that's the idea.
Buy outfits - nurse, house maid - ABC Distributing sells them or Halloween costumes or adult stores. Pop in an adult video when your husband is not looking then when he gets ready for bed turn it on as you get ready for bed. Give him a massage while you are in your under ware and bra. Enjoy and have fun. Oh, don't forget mixed drinks to help put you both in the mood. And believe me there is no rule to what time of the day you can do this.
2006-09-01 16:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by florie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make it the same as newly married, but you can make it better by surprising him by doing other positions, asking him to take you right now (while you are something that he won't expect for you to ask him at that time). Grabbing (thing) and doing things to him when he finishes his showers. Just do things that will surprise him or amaze him. Don't follow the same routine. If he ask you where did this come from...tell him from a book you read at the doctors or something like that.
2006-09-01 16:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. It is hard sometimes to feel sexy or have time for it. You have to try to recapture what made you two fall in love in the first place. Have a date night once a week and go to restaurants and places you did when you dated. Remember how you use to treat each other, do that too. Wear some sexy clothing and surprise him. Men, bring flowers once in awhile for no reason. Leave little love notes where the spouse will find them. Shower together, play romantic music, light some candles. Use your imagination. I get some hints from a site called Lovingyou.com - try it.
2006-09-01 16:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie it never goes back to the way it was. The best thing for you and your husband to do is move forward.
My husband and I started picking each other up in clubs and bars and make out like teenagers whenever the opportunity presents itself. We send emails to each other. We IM each other and flirt like mad. He's usually on the other pc in our home. Role play works for us too.
If I tell my husband that I want to lock the kids out of our room and get naked then that's what we do. It's just some of the ways we keep things interesting. Find out what turns you on. I discovered that just having sex is boring. So we find ways to spice things up that we both can enjoy. Coming onto my husband in a public place is a real rush. No one knows us and that is what makes it exciting - for us.
Realize that it will never be the way it once was so you both need to make some new memories. Dwelling on what once was is only going to depress. Believe me, I know.
2006-09-05 07:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean this to sound flip, but get rid of the stress. I know you can't get rid of things like the kids and your jobs, but put yourselves first. Get a baby sitter, take a 1/2 day off of work, send the kids to grandma's, learn a skill like sensual massage. Take baths together, drink champagne for breakfast and then go back to bed. You have to make the time for romance or your marriage is doomed to mediocrity.
2006-09-01 16:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as in other part of a relationship you have to work at it. As hard as it is find that time for just the two of you. Talk find out your fantasies... Maybe go to a swingers club for something completely off the wall. Be spontaneous be creative. If not things go dormant.
2006-09-01 16:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hunny, I am with you here. But weve been married 5. We both work full time, two kids....busy lives.
It really takes planning and sometimes, well, sometimes you just dont have time. :(
It will change, or so a good friend of mine has told me (she just celebrated 20 years!) after things slow down, kids get older, etc... but as for now... well...
That's personal. With us, we need to plan it now. :( Not fun but we MAKE the love making fun once we plan it.
Then we at least get some and add spice with creams, videos and toys. ;)
2006-09-01 16:16:08 · answer #8 · answered by Miz_Kassandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be organised and put unnessary things aside
and try to creat time for just the 2 of u
have date night at least one a week do ur affairs in such a way that u 2 wont get to tired or too occupied for sex
and try different styles and positions
2006-09-01 16:16:58 · answer #9 · answered by maku d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
experiment a little bit. my husband have done all sorts of things in our marriage, and it's made our sex life the best it's ever been and we've been married 9 yrs now. it's fun to experiment, trust me.
2006-09-01 16:18:31 · answer #10 · answered by wilderone74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋