I work in retail why do parents let their children run around and destroy everything.?

Question

I have a 7 yearold and i dont allow him to do this.

Answer 1

I know exactly what you mean! I think that it is gross of them to bring their children and let them run rampant. Their children are their responsibility and yet they act as though they are oblivious to what they are doing. Stores aren't playgrounds; I wish they'd wise up and figure out the difference. My son just turned 8 years old and I never allowed him to behave that way. There is a proper time and place for things. It is up to the parents to teach their children what is appropriate (when and where).

Answer 2

I completely agree that kids should be taught not to do this, but I can tell you why it happens. If you discipline your child in public, you wind up dealing with Children and family services, because no one minds their own business. If you wait till you get home to deal with your kids, the people that saw them misbehaving call you a bad lazy parent behind your back -- even if they were perfectly well behaved every other time you had them out that month and this was just an off day. But at least you don't run the risk of losing your kid to the state because some overzealous person saw you reprimand -- or God forbid, SPANK -- your kid. just another parenting "damned if you do, damned if you don't" situation. If my son is misbehaving at the store, I just pick him up and carry him to the car and we leave. Sometimes it's not convenient, but it's better than dealing with social workers or being the subject of questions like this. It works as a punishment too -- the store is usually much more interesting than home, in his opinion, and he behaves better the next time.

Answer 3

That a good question when I was a child my mother did not let us do those things when we were in a store with her,and quite naturally when my daughter was little I did her the same way my mother did us. Something you just don't let children get away with doing. Example you just don't run or tear things up in my house some kids act like wild animals when they come over to your house but I let the parent know your child can not act this way in here or I'm sorry you have to leave.

Answer 4

Some parents are overwhelmed. Some are simply irresponsible. Some are simply stupid. There might be more answers, but those are the most common and easiest to name. I know of some women who had "the Blues" after child birth and could not take care of themselves let alone their children. In most cases that is not what is going on.

Answer 5

Here are a few that might be the cause:
1. They can't control their kids
2. They were allowed to act that way in stores as kids so they don't know it's rude.
3. They think that because they're spending money at the store their kids should be allowed to treat it like a playhouse.
4. They just don't think.

We all appreciate you keeping your kid under control, even though sometimes it can't be helped, a child screaming for thirty minutes in a store is verrry annoying.

Answer 6

Probaby because they don't have to clean it up. I have four kids and I've often wondered the same thing. You gotta keep an eye on them....Please believe my children aren't running through any place aimlessly...I am very conscious of what they r doing.

Then again, I worked in retail myself and had to tell a few kids unh unh honey u can't do that....get down...then the parents become aware..because though they aren't telling them anything they don't want u to.

Answer 7

Bless your heart, I wish more parents were like you. I used to work in retail and it drove me crazy watching these kids just walk all over their parents. I guess people find it easier just to let the kids do what they want instead of taking time to be parents.
You keep up the good work and be proud of your child.

Answer 8

I believe that many parents think that retail employees are supposed to baby sit for them. I have two kids (teenagers now) and I never let them run around without me nearby and never allowed them to be disruptive in a store.

Answer 9

I don't even let my 20 month-old. It's rude. But I have worked in retail and I know exactly what you mean. Some people just think that you are paid to pick up after their kids, and others just don't believe in disciplining their children!

Answer 10

It makes other parents look bad. I have 2yr old twins and have a rule of if they start to play up its out the door and in the car to go home. They are starting to understand that if they muck up they go home. I feel for you as i work in retail aswell and cringe when I see that. Its disrespectful. The other day a young girl was in a computer shop and pulled about 50 games onto the floor,the moher walked out and didnt confront her or pick up the games. I ended up helping another man to pick them up, its disrespectful...