Do hispanic men find it as a form of flattery to let his look linger a little bit longer than normal and blatantly stare at a woman--which I think as fine as long as it's not disrespectful?? As in to gaze at her and give her direct eye contact all the time? I was just wondering because I work with several hispanic men *who are OH SO charming btw* hehe, and they tend to do this to me and also comment and say "muh bonita" and are always very gentleman-like. I've noticed that many hispanic men are very gentleman-like and charming, but of course I know every race has their charmers/jerks/nice-guys etc. I don't know why, but I also traveled to Mexico recently and found the men there were very outspoken and were not shy about staring or saying comments like "muy bonita" and etc. Why is this??
btw this isn't a racist question, I like all sorts of guys no matter the race or ethnicity, I am just really intrigued by Hispanics and the Latin culture. Thank you! :)
2006-09-01 15:32:43 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Y'all I have nothing against Hispanics like I said, I sometimes get mistaken for being Hispanic actually, I was just asking, cause like I said, many men are different and your culture or ethnicity doesn't define you. I just find some Hispanic men so dang charming and irresistible! :)
2006-09-01 15:38:19 · update #1
Being hispanic, yet completely Mexican, I might be able to shed some light on this.
The Mexican Macho Male is a strange animal. We are raised to revere and adore a woman (like he treats his mother with such respect and love), yet keep her in check by keeping her at home, and all the anti-liberated woman stuff associated with it(the classically wrong notion that a woman is to be at home and raise kids).
Believe me, it sucks that my own peeps manage to treat women so well and so wrong at the same time. By my estimation, it basically takes a very strong woman to put up with the BS and be able to stand toe to toe with a Mexican Macho Male and still be able to have a loving, healthy relationship. Some make it work, others do not.
If you find a hispanic male who has really good qualities, loves you and treats you right, more power to you. Hopefully you will be strong enough to put up with the occasional machismo. Mostly, I've only known most Hispanic women (who grew up with this kind of man, so they know how to deal) and a certain type of Caucasian female who is strong willed and takes no guff from men, yet somehow is still loving.
Funny thing is, these all sound like figments of someone's imagination... We exist, I swear. =)
El Dude. Which is spanish for: The Dude.
2006-09-01 15:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by The Dude... 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I live in NYC and my own experience here is that Hispanic men are very respectful and polite and do not stare overly long or in a disrespectful way. I particularly dislike when men or even women are so blatantly rude to be staring into your face, I sometimes even feel violated if the stare is especially bold and penetrating! I find the most respectful men in this area to be Asian men who I have never seen behave this way. Honestly I don't know why some men do this but I find it disturbing and extremely brazen. I don't feel there is any connection culturally to the Hispanic or Latino culture and this behavior.
2006-09-01 16:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by Silva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak for all Hispanic men out there, but this is what I FEEL, when I see an attractive woman, it's not just the physical, aspect I look at, it's as if I am trying to imagine what she is like, is she sweet, is she passionate, how does she kiss. It's like trying to read her personality. Not just admiring her beauty, Sometimes I think to myself "some lucky dog is having her for a woman", and even that I wonder, he must be good looking, rich, to have a woman like her. So at least speaking for myself I am not necessarily undressing them with my eyes, though I would be a liar if I said I never do it. And often I will give a woman a compliment because I feel she is cute or charming or whatever, I feel she deserves it and such beauty is meant to be acknowledged. It's true as stated here there are a lot of Hispanic men who are jerks, but we are not all like that, however we do share this deep passion and love for women. I am not sure this has helped, but I hope so, and again they are only my thoughts, adios, linda!
2006-09-01 18:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by Chicago JC 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You hit it on the head when you labeled 'cultural'.
It's simply part of the culture.
I am a guy and I got back from Hong Kong recently. Just walking on the street the men would not make eye contact with me at all, yet the women would. If I looked too long they looked away immediately. I wasn't cruising, I just noticed it.
And when I was in Brooklyn, the guys (mostly Italian descent?) were very outspoken to strangers -- both men and women.
I love how different cultures interact.
2006-09-01 15:39:06 · answer #4 · answered by wrathofkublakhan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I being 28 yrs old, have dealt with this SOOO much in my lifetime.. Every Mexican will look at me no matter what, and it would be fine if it was just a look, but it's a STARE..
I have always been stared at alot longer by mexicans than any other race.. It's kinda like once they start to look they cant stop! I hate it, it's uncomfortable and it makes me want to slap the sh*t out of them..
So to any men who do this STOP! You'll never get the girl by doing that.. It's creepy!
***Response to comment up there****
they actually are very respectful of women .
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Are you serious? Most mexicans control and beat their wives! I know a lot of people and Many of the relationships involving mexican men are terrible.. They treat their women like crap!
Im not saying all do, but the majority of them do!
2006-09-01 15:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by Kamaree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a generalization, yet some stereotypes exist for a reason ... not all represent everyone of course! Some latino men do seem to be a bit forward, lots of adoring language & a forwardness & flattery ... they like getting feedback reading signals ... a "machisimo," like so many men (women too) love to feel the spark and get feedback, provides hope for the future... I personally love the flattery!
2006-09-02 06:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because of the way they were raised perhaps. I know a guy, I met him at college, and when a bunch of us were hanging out in the student lounge, I was usually the only girl in there, since there aren't many girls at the college. Any time what he would call a hot girl would walk in the room, he would stare at them in a way, that they would have to be blind or something to not notice it, and he would keep staring at them till they left. He is white btw.
2006-09-01 15:55:25 · answer #7 · answered by angel_girl2248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you said is 100% TRUE.
...where I live its 50% Hispanics... (thanks to Miami being so darn close to those islands) and man oh man! Do they stare more than any other group!! It's quite creepy. I actually went to Pollo Tropical once...... let me just say, I will never go in there AGAIN! Every pair of spanish mans eyes are just blankly staring at you like your a fresh taco or something...
Don't get me wrong though... I'm married to a half Mexican guy.
:)
2006-09-01 15:45:58 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's cultural - they are taught to be "macho" and brave - a favorite expresion it "muy bravo" which kind of means "lots of nerve, not afraid of nobody". In that culture a man who doesn't do that is considered to be a ....... yaknowwhutImean. It's not seen as lewd; they actually are very respectful of women and consider that they are giving you a compliment when their stare lingers just a little too long. Take it as a compliment.
2006-09-01 15:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it's rude, i just think that there are a lot of US people out there who were brought up only in the states, and here we are taught not to stare. in other countries, you stare for a bit to establish interest. it's really just a difference in culture. it's seen with other immigrants from many of the, Latin, African, and Middle-Eastern countries. Not so much in (most of) the Asian and European countries however.
2006-09-01 15:40:00 · answer #10 · answered by tdnh2208 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋