My boyfriend and I have been together 2 & 1/2 years. Lately, I had been getting suspicious, so I decided to look at his cell phone bills. Sure enough, my suspicions were correct. He had been calling late at night and gone out to dinner several times with a particular woman. I had asked him about it 5 different times and he lied straight to my face. But when I confronted him with evidence, the coward had no choice but to admit it. I made him call the woman in front of me and tell her he has a girlfriend. It was pretty funny. My question is: Should I stay with him? Please help. I do love him, but I still want revenge.
2006-09-01 15:31:32 · 24 answers · asked by Rainbrain 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends, a good relationship is based on trust. Without trust, you may be able to get through for a little while, but problems almost always arise. Can you trust him still? That's the question you need to ask yourself...
Good luck!
2006-09-01 15:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by thoughtfulwind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some relationships can handle a cheater, others can't. A lot of relationships fail because there is too much resentment and anger over the cheating. Ask yourself if you'll think he'll do it again, and if the answers yes then end it. Ask yourself if you want to constantly be suspicious of his every move and phone call. You need to think about a lot of things before you decide to continue the relationship or end it.
2006-09-01 15:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what my boyfriend did the same thing to me and we dated for 6 and a half years..........now we are married. After I caught him I beat the crap out of the girl and left him for 4 months and I knew in my heart I loved him, But it hurts......doesn't it?? I forgave him, but I tell you something you have to be a stronger person than me to forget. Every time he does something that makes me question him....I think he is cheating again. Its no fun living with someone you don't trust, but If you love him give him another chance and see what happens. I know I remind my husband often that if he does it again I wont think twice about divorce and there will be no SORRY'S this time. Just see how he acts, you will now if he is truly sorry or if he doesn't care. Good luck.
2006-09-01 15:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by na nah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That phone call he made really meant nothing, they will still call each other.
Do you like the idea of being cheated on until he tires of your complaining & finds a new fool?
the choice is yours, revenge never helped me feel better though.
2006-09-01 15:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can tell you what you should or shouldn't do, but what is going to stop him from doing it again? He'll just do a better job of not getting caught next time. Do you really want to put up with that?
2006-09-01 15:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by aqsgtriad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont stay with a cheater and liar!! You deserve so much more than that. Dump him and find someone that only wants you!! Forget the revenge, it will hurt you also!!
2006-09-01 15:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, relationships are built on trust...If he lied to you about another woman, he will lie again. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. There are plenty of honest men out there , just find one...Id forgive him, but i wouldnt continure to see him. Your asking for a big heartbreak, and you will have no one to blame but yourself...No Excuses
2006-09-01 15:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by zeakster01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you find it funny that he's cheating on you, and you don't respect yourself enough to let him go, then you deserve him to continue to cheat on you. I can guarantee he will do this again seeing how there has obviously been no repercussions for his behavior.
2006-09-01 15:36:13 · answer #8 · answered by Rexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget revenge, just walk
2006-09-01 15:34:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the choice is urs. can u trust him again? is he someone you want to take a risk with?? if so, go for it, if not, walk away.
word of advice: don't get blinded by love
2006-09-01 15:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by dvl_n_dskyz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋