I make them go to their bedrooms until I am not frustrated anymore. Then I exercise until I am ready to talk to them about their behavior!
2006-09-01 15:15:00 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
padrote chingon~~ I sympathize with you, but being frustrated by kids is natural. Most the time, kids will push buttons on purpose and you do get frustrated. Again I am sorry about your situation, but being frustrated with kids is natural. It is not right that you say next time I am frustrated by them I shoudl think about people who can not get pregnant. I do feel for you, infact my sister in law can not have children either, so I do understand, but you can not make me feel bad for being able to have kids. I am sorry you can not have kids, maybe you should adopt! You would probably be a wonderful mom! Good luck~!
2006-09-01 15:40:17 · update #1
nanny~~ my kids do get diciplined just fine, but I do this so I do not punish them out of anger. I send them to their rooms so I have time to cool off. I won't discipline my kids out of anger, that is when kids get abused. Thanks for your input though.
2006-09-01 15:43:41 · update #2
That is a tough call, but it sounds like you are doing the right thing.
When my kids would get on my nerves, and when they were young it happened quite often, instead of putting them in there rooms I would leave and just go into my bedroom. Like you, I did not want to do anything when I was angry, that is where abuse happens. After I came out of the bedroom, I beat them. No just kidding, I would sit them down and talk to them about what was happening. Sometimes that worked and sometimes is did not.
Good luck to you and keep up the good work with your kids. They are just testing their boundaries, so keep the boundaries the same and don't bend them. Make sense?
2006-09-01 16:22:19 · answer #1 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite simple. Give yourself a time out. Tell your kids their behaviour has made you very angry and you are going to your room to calm down and if they want to have a good day they will leave you alone and when you come back out their behaviour better be a lot better or it is them that will spend the day in their rooms. This works for me. I have a read for 10 minutes and the kids are much better afterwards as they realise they have gone too far
2006-09-01 23:34:47 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I warn them that my midol hasn't kicked in yet and ask them to make a note that I am not smiling. But I whisper this to them. It's funny to watch their faces get the "uh-oh" look. I've never done anything and for some reason they fear this. Like I'm going to turn into some sort of monster. Gotta love their imaginations. I should note this only works with my youngest two. The older two boys get extra chores the minute they violate my one warning rule. I don't allow excuses or explanations either. Lucky for me they don't act up much
2006-09-01 15:25:14 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't sound like a good plan at all. You need to be the parent and have some discipline with your kids. Perhaps you don't have consistent consequences for their behaviour, that is most common. Don't just send them to their rooms - have a naughty chair or stool somewhere beside the kitchen or dining room. I think you need to get some more parenting skills - do some reading, take a class. Watch Supernanny!
2006-09-01 15:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Time outs work wonders, and not just for the kids. Sounds like you're doing the right thing. Keep it up. Remember, they're just kids, and you don't want to humiliate them (or yourself) by getting upset or going over the edge in front of them all. Hang in there, keep being consistent, and remember that you're handling it correctly.
2006-09-01 15:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by JB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.Take a Breather
2. Do some Yoga
3. Drop off your kids at grandma's
4. Have a moment to yourself.
5. Explain about how their behavior effects you.
2006-09-01 15:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by Laz♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to everything that you have said. I usually send my kids to their rooms if they are just way to rowdy to play or I put on one of their favourite movies. I do alot of crafts with my kids and do something that takes alot of hands on and concentration and I sometimes sit back and watch while I have my coffee and enjoy the peace and quiet. If it get to the point of going insane where every single point of me is going to blow, they clean their rooms and I ignore them for a bit. They are 6 and 8 so right now I got it easy yet.
2006-09-01 23:15:26 · answer #7 · answered by roxane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say take a deep breath. Then call a relative of friend to come and take them away so you can get some alone time, or have them come over and sit with the kids and you go out.
2006-09-01 15:22:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the best way to do it. I usually send them to their rooms and then take a little time just to relax, like read or get on yahoo :) It is a good way to let out frustration for all of you
2006-09-01 15:19:07 · answer #9 · answered by mommyaf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds too simple but it really works... when my girls were small and really rowdie I would just stop what I was doing, go to another room, maybe the bathroom or downstairs or outside and sincerely ask God to help me to have the patience necessary and to calm them down just a little. It always worked!
2006-09-01 17:00:21 · answer #10 · answered by ru.barbie2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋