I absoulutly never thought i would resort to asking peoples adivce that i dont even know but im going nuts. I met a guyy from him coming into my work to see his mom whom i work with. he started coming in every day not for his mom but for me. we started kinda seeing each other and hanging out alot. he knows i was always shy and seemed ok about it. but i cared so much about not acting obsessed with him that i gave him the vibes that i didnt actually like him and was just hanging out with him to be nice. we had plans one day and i was kind of surprised when he didnt call me. the next day his mom told me he was gone for the rest of the summer and he didnt even tell me. that was 3 weeks ago and school starts in a vcouple days so hes gotta be home soon. i dont know when. . should i call him or get over it?? i hate calling his house cause his mom knows me so well.. i dont go to the same school as him and i am still young (15)..any adivce would be greatly appretiated.
2006-09-01 15:10:45 · 13 answers · asked by mary lynn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't worry about it. I don't think you need to call him. I don't think you wrecked anything. I am sure you will get to see him again and you can let him know how you feel then.
2006-09-01 15:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by Rj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one because he knew you were shy, yet he somehow seemed to get a mixed signal from you? I am not certain this guy is taking seeing you seriously enough? Then again, you both seem very young. My guess is that you will start school and there will be plenty more boys that will peak your interest and possibly be better suited for you. It might be the best thing if you didnt mix dating and work anyway. I don't know that working with his mom would be in your best interest long term anyway. I would just concentrate on school, studies, making new friends and joining clubs or taking on hobbies. If he ends up showing up again, keep it on a friendship level. Good luck.
2006-09-01 22:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him & settle your nerves. It's ok to call him whether you're going steady with him or just friends. Ask him why he didn't follow up on the day where both of you have plans. Remember even friends have the right to call & ask. So, it's not as if you're desperate or what. But simply asking for clarification on this & that.
You seem to show disinterest in him & he didn't see the reason why to inform you of his every move. Both of you seem not to be in a relationship officially. You seem to be giving him all the wrong signals. If you're interested in him, please show you're interested in moderation without being overly obsessed. Guys get discouraged if there's a display of disinterest in them.
Don't waste a friendship (or relationship) like that. At least, clarify & see how it goes from there. Don't leave it hanging there.
You can still maintain your friendship (or relationship) through phone calls / msn messenger / yahoo! messenger etc.
Comfortability & compatability are very important factors. Do not be pushy if he's not interested in friendship (or relationship). If he's not interested, at least your questions & doubts are answered, and you can move on from there. Rather than pondering / wondering non-stop about him.
2006-09-01 22:19:36 · answer #3 · answered by Queenie Tay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice... Don't push anything. If you guys run into each other explain what happened and go from there. If you dont see each other again, your 15 and will meet a lot of people in the next few years. Even if you do run into each other and things happen,....again.....you will most likely never be together later.
2006-09-01 22:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by untchble 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him and see what happens. At least you'll know one way or another and not have to keep wondering. You could e-mail him if you have his e-mail since you don't like having to talk to his mom when you call. But she could be a source of great information to find out how he feels about you so I wouldn't necessarily try to avoid her. Good luck!!
2006-09-01 22:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by tlm515 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down!! You are trying to deal with grown up emotions. You are just a kid. In 10 yrs. you can post this question. Till then enjoy being a kid and stop playing grownup. You will have that chance soon enough, belive me.
2006-09-01 22:16:16 · answer #6 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him and be honest with him if your'e intested in him. My wife and I been together 15 years and we got started dating at 17 and 16 because I loved that she didn't play games and she called me regularly and showed me that she was interested in me and I liked that.
2006-09-01 22:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him after school starts. And learn a lesson! Don't play games it will almost always backfire on you!
2006-09-01 22:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by rye252000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
feel him out and see where he is at and talk with him when he come home if you hadn't played him shady may be he wouldn't have played you the same learn from your mistake after you talk then you have your own answer good luck
2006-09-01 22:19:17 · answer #9 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh aww!!!!!!!!! don`t worry babe you`ll be fine.. it`s okay, have you thought about why he might not have told you? where did he go? i mean because it is possible that he just didn`t want you to know ebcause he was afraid of what you mihgt think, or maybe it was too hard to say good bye or something. good luck!!!!!!
2006-09-01 22:17:14 · answer #10 · answered by trixabelle29 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋