Its so bad, His nose bleeds everyday. i use to have a problem aswell but have gotten help/treatment already. I need him to do this with me. It's hard to get over a drug problem when it's still all around you.
2006-09-01 15:10:29 · 20 answers · asked by Kelly Bundy 6 in Health ➔ Other - Health
I dont give him money. Heck i don't even has a job. He has his own money. I can't kick him out, he lives at a hotel. Is parents have already done that. Im 19 & he is 20.
2006-09-01 15:16:02 · update #1
In the first place, you can't change someone who doesn't want to be changed. He needs intervention from professionals and you aren't it.
If he cares about you he might be convinced to go to a clinic or treatment center if you threaten to leave him. However, that's an awful big "if". Usually there is nothing that addicts care about more than their addiction. Also, you'd actually have to carry out your threat if you want your word to mean anything.
You could try to scare him with the fact that if he keeps it up he will surely die--and probably pretty soon too. However, again, in order for that to matter to him he has to actually be concerned whether he lives or dies.
So, it's down to this, if you can't or won't get involuntary treatment for him than you have three choices. Take care of him until he dies, leave now and save yourself the heartache, or call Addicts Anonymous or Alcoholics Anonymous or some other professional and have them come and talk to him.
The chances are that he's already heard it all but, you never know, maybe someone talking to him now would be what turns him around. Otherwise I suggest you take option # 2 because option # 1 is going to tear your heart and your guts out.
2006-09-01 15:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the saying goes, you can lead a horse to water... but you can't make it drink.
You can only try to show him how it is negatively impacting his life, and ask him to do it. It will not work though, unless he wants it. In the end, you have to be willing to end the relationship in order to ensure he gets treatment, for both of your sakes. Indirectly, you may be enabling his habit by staying by his side. He may not hit rock bottom while you are there to comfort him. Not to mention, you are a recovering addict, and the last thing you need to be doing is hanging around with a non-recovering addict.
2006-09-01 15:19:01 · answer #2 · answered by Christopher B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him get some professional help or get rid of him. I know it's hard to get over the hump when it's around you, but if it is you need to realize that its not helping. This is a problem, he will make excuses untill this is fixed. Give him an ultimadum, either pick you...or the blow...Then make your decision. Chances are he hopefully picks you, if not...drop him like a bad habit.
2006-09-01 15:14:58 · answer #3 · answered by triplesixkoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu cant! There is nothing u can do to make someone realize they have a problem and NEED help UNLESS they WANT HELP! Otherwise, it is a Waste of time for you and him! The solution to this problem would be to make him SEE that he has a problem! KNOWING is HALF the battle so havin it thrown into your face can cause problems for u and him because he will not want to admit he has a problem! only thing u can do it BE there for him when he falls! and he WILL FALL!
2006-09-01 16:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by goldenkhalil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you already know that an addiction can be incredibly hard to break. you are probably too close to the scene to make any real difference. you are going to have to decide what is more important-the relationship or your life. being an alcoholic, i've found that addicts need to feel enough pain to want to quit. good luck.
2006-09-01 15:16:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can help him by not enabling him (not saying that you are) Not giving him money for cocaine. Not giving him money if he doesn't work, not letting him live with you etc etc. It is called tough love, that is the only way an addict wakes up.
2006-09-01 15:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel☺ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a recovering meth addict(recently). He will not quit till he is ready you should know that. And if it is hard for you to be around it leave.... I did and it was hard. I was married (still am trying to get divorce) and we had a newborn(than 5 months now 10 months) he wanted to keep doing it and i did not. So i called my father and left from colorado to texas. It hurts but i guess what made it easy for me is looking at my son. For you just let him know you can not be around him when he is high and if he truly cares for you than he may not be ready to quit but he might keep it away from you.
2006-09-01 15:14:45 · answer #7 · answered by just divorced 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
From what you say, he knows he has a problem. And he knows where to get help because he has seen you do it. He has to get his money from somewhere, and if he's getting it like I think he is, you don't really want to be too close to him.
You can't help him until he decides he wants to be helped. Get away from him, or get him away from you. And tell him you'll take him back when he's ready to go clean.
Good luck, Blondie.
2006-09-01 15:23:01 · answer #8 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Your well being is more important.
He will not change until he hits rock bottom and for some that means death. Its a sad fact of addiction.
You need to go to NA or NaraNon to learn how to deal with this.
Good luck.
2006-09-01 15:17:59 · answer #9 · answered by PARKERD 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go together to Narcotics anonymous. He will need to realize that things have to change in spite of the fact they are hard. Listen to him and help him find what he needs to do to quit.
2006-09-01 16:38:19 · answer #10 · answered by Buzz s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋