question for christians who are saving themselves for marriage?

Question

i have a friend who is very religious and is saving herselffor marriage becuase she believes that is the moral and chrisitan thing to do.. however, she says that oral and anal sex is fine and acceptable to her


not to sound ignorant.. im just wondering.. because that seems hypocritical to be saving yourself for marriage but being able to do other sexual things.. doesnt sound very holy if you ask me

someone explain?

Answer 1

I am not condoning her statement or actions but I am kind of doing the same thing. I have never kissed, touched a woman (any place a two swimsuit covers), or had sexual intercourse. I have had 3 oral sex done on me in my life though. I do not believe in anal. I am just saving all my romantic experiences for my life long soul-mate, where-ever she may be. I am not saying that it is right, but it is the best compromise I could come up with. By the way I am 37 years old.

Answer 2

As Christians, we are commanded to have not even a hint of sexual immorality. What is a hint? Christ said that even looking at a woman lustfully is the same as committing adultery with her in the heart. So with this standard, oral sex and anal sex are sin, as well as vaginal sex, mutual masturbation, caressing, French kissing, and even lustful thoughts. Only within a marriage are sexual activities permitted between husband and wife. So you are right, your friend is believing a lie in accepting oral and anal sex before marriage and is living in sin and not according to the Spirit.

Answer 3

I agree it sounds ridiculous - saving from marriage should include all types of sexual acts minus I guess kissing and some touching

I believe that you should have a sexual CHEMISTRY with your significant other. I think she is finding the cheap way out. She is human and what she is doing is normal but RELIGIOUSLY speaking...it is wrong.

I have no problems with premarital sex - but if you a religious and it says not to - why would you cave in and do it anyway?

Answer 4

Sex is just not the act of the penis entering the vagina. oral and anal sex is the same as vaginal sex. Risk are involved and this is not grey issue here. It is very wrong and sinful. But the media and Schools have given a view to it that makes it seem cool.

Answer 5

She is misinformed, as the majority of this world is concerning sex; unfortunately, she has not saved herself. Just because she has not had direct intercourse, does not mean she is a virigin still. I am sorry you are seeing a hypocrtical example, but it sounds like her hypocrisy stems from misinformation. It might well be that you can point this out to her and help her understand? I do not know, but I find it interesting you ask this.

I also find it sad that sexual immorality is running rampid throughout our society these days, and it is being seen more and more in the younger generations. Very sad to me.

Answer 6

I agree that is hypocritical. Your friend's theology is mixed. Oral and anal sex are sex too and thus, sex outside of marriage.

Answer 7

All sex in any form are prohibited in Islam. Christinity like Judaism is a distorted Islam. If yo red Quran it orders both man and woman to lower their gaze and not to come evn close to Zina (Sexual act out of wedlock).

Answer 8

She lerned from that gay loving, baby killing, tree hugging Bill Clinton! The moral decay that happened while he was preisdent has caused women to become walking whore houses! I hope people like your friend can learn something about being Christian from watching President Bush. He is a Christian man with good moral character, you wont see him teaching people that oral sex isnt sex.

Answer 9

Sounds pretty hypocritical to me, it's all or nothing you can't just pick and choose.

Hope it's oral before anal !!!!

Answer 10

Can not explain something so ridiculous!

Sex is sex, weather oral, anal, or whatever.

Tell her she may as well quit "saving" herself because she has already lost her virtue!