my new fiance and I are excited about our engagement but we have to make a few payments before the rings can be worn. We were pondering whether or not it is socially acceptable to tell anyone without having the rings on. What do you think???
2006-09-01 14:31:47 · 23 answers · asked by Sandra 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You should probably wait. Usually a couple will announce the engagement and then everyone will want to see the woman's engagement ring. You will save yourself having to tell everyone about how you don't have your ring and need to make a couple payments before you get it, if you just wait until you have the ring.
2006-09-01 14:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why not? The ring is only a token, a symbol. After the wedding, if you take off the ring for some reason, are you still married? Of course you are. Some people simply don't bother with an engagement ring.
When you consider how much an engagement ring costs, I honstly doubt anybody would care if you don't have it just yet.
And we did the very same thing. I asked before I bought the ring so I knew I'd get one she liked, and we had to wait about a month to pay it off.
2006-09-01 14:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations, Sandra. And I have news for you. An engagement becomes valid at the moment he says, "Will you marry me?" and you answer, "Yes". Rings are fun, and they are tokens of your troth (isn't that a nice old fashioned word) but they don't really matter two hoots when it comes to the validity of your engagement. In many societies, there is no such thing as an engagement ring. And even in our society, couples often do away with the engagement ring. Sometimes they do so for economic reasons -- does it make more sense to splurge a couple of thou on an engagement ring or to buy a new refrigerator? And quite often, a fancy diamond becomes an attainable gift for the tenth or twentieth wedding anniversary. You've already ordered your rings, so they must be something special to you, and you can enjoy wearing them once you have them in hand. But as far as waiting -- not necessary at all. If you want to share your joyful news with others now, go to it.
2006-09-01 17:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by old lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Some people get married and only have wedding bands, no engagement ring. Do what feels right to you. Unless you don't want people to know you are making payments on the rings.
2006-09-01 14:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by There can only be one - (ANSWER) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does a material object have to do with someones love for each other? My husband and I never did the ring thing and we told people we were engaged. I don't believe the material world has anything to do with how you plan on spending your life together. We live in a society that is soley based on material goods and exchange of "gifts" to each other on the holidays. It befuddles me because in the end they don't matter anyway. What's right for you may not be right for someone else but I see nothing wrong with telling others you are engaged!
2006-09-01 14:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by soniaatcalifornia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait until you have the engagement ring on her finger. People get all excited and that is the first thing they want to see
2006-09-01 17:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
telling close family would be ok, I guess. But the excitement has always been in telling people and immediately showing your ring off. And simultaneously putting the notice of engagement in the newspaper. So by telling people ahead of time it loses some of the surprise and excitement.
2006-09-01 14:35:25 · answer #7 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course....you can be engaged and not wear a ring. You can also be married and not wear a ring. The ring is just a symbol, and people can wait to see it, what matters is how you feel.
2006-09-02 14:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleandme4yrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it is! My Uncle and Aunt to this day don't have engagement rings and they're already married. They decided to invest in a house instead.
An engagement has nothing to do with rings, but a promise to be married.
2006-09-01 14:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by inus_girl9450 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice would be to only tell only your very very closest peeps and then have an engagement party once you're wearing your rings. it's rather like waiting a few months into a pregnancy before announcing that you are expecting. you will feel more solid in a subtle way...so on some levels, better to wait and make your announcement with full flair ;)
2006-09-01 14:40:47 · answer #10 · answered by Eos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋