I am 20 years old. For the last 2 years I have not been partaking in any things a 20 year old should. Hanging out with friends, parties, dressing up. the reason well...i gained a lot of weight and it had me depressed. Now that im starting to work on myself I feel like a can of soda that has been shaken and ready for the top to pop off because I feel like I missed so much. I want to go to clubs, and get my young life on but...I also want to get into my spirituality. I feel a struggle between wanting to feel sexy/feminine again and getting into church. I dont know what to do. I want to experience life and not have regrets like " I wish I would have". but im confused. help please!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-01 14:26:48 · 6 answers · asked by ? 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You just need to spend some time finding out what you really want, then act on it.
2006-09-01 14:32:45 · answer #1 · answered by Kaiser32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... I can see you are growing and have alot going on inside.
I feel almost honour to come across a posting like this a share some of my personal experience; I am feeling prompted right now so I'm just gonna go with it...
I started PARTYING for lack of a better word when I was a few years short 14 and to sum it up continued to do the same form of partying until now... the differences now is I'm 33, married and don't do chemical drugs and too gained 60 lbs over the past 8 years (no baby either); however, have lost 30 - anyways...
I've made my fare, share of mistakes; have had some huge regrets and also know now that I have God's forgiveness because I have forgiven myself and I am now a developing Christian.
I DO realize that at the time it was all about the sexy, nightlife scene, wild impulse choices that brought me home in the wee hours of the morning and sleeping late into the next day afternoon. AND NOW I realize... how fotunate I am that God was watching over me when I had absolutely no consideration for what He thought about my choices and actions. I broke alot of His commandments and was basically ignorant. Plus.. and this is the biggest part - - I lived!!! Times were very different even 15 years ago and you just don't know today where you might end up.
It's not always about you but the actions of others around you.
I think back of the people I was with, where I was and the dynamics of some situations, I am very fortunate I was not harmed in any way - sexually, mentally or emotionally. That doesn't mean I didn't have problems; I did, but they weren't important problems because they weren't about what was important to God. (I worried about stuff that amounted to nothing.)
I think that if you are fortunate at 20 to know about God and the choices that you should be making and are feeling doubt, don't let tempation fool you. You've got lots of time and don't rush in. Don't be a nun either! Pray about things and sleep on them and give yourself time. Think twice before you do things or ask yourself - What Would Jesus Do? or my best friend, for that matter?
It's easier to let yourself down than Him.
God Bless & Good Luck
2006-09-01 14:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you are only twenty. You have so much life to live. I am really happy for you that you are starting to work on yourself. That is wonderful. Work on being the person that God created you to be, and don't do anything that you would regret.
Keep in mind that the desire that you are feeling to be "sexy/feminine" might be an indication that your self esteem still isn't where it should be. You might be wanting to dress a certain way to get attention and to feel wanted. This isn't really the kind of attention that will satisfy you though and you aren't going to attract the right kind of a man if you forsake your modesty.
My advice? Skip the clubs and go to church. Get involved and connect with people who share your faith. That way you are moving forward in a positive direction in your life and won't be having to pay a price for mistakes later in life.
I hope I haven't sounded too preachy here. My advice is coming as a woman who didn't "wake up" until sometime much later in life, 38 to be exact. I have a lot of years and a lot of mistakes to make up for. I'm not saying that I was living a party life or anything (to the contrary I married the only guy I ever dated) just that I didn't exactly follow the path that I should have and I paid a heavy price. I would hate for anyone to have to experience a bad relationship if they could avoid it. Just stick close to God.
2006-09-01 14:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by anabasisx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, don't you think you could find time and energy for both? I mean, you can get spiritually aroused anytime, anywhere - just by listening to yourself. Also, you could spend time suring the day on this kind of things, and go out at night. Don't worry about wether this two things go opposite - everything you are and cn be is in peace within you, if you're smart enough to deal with yourself!
2006-09-01 14:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by Uros I 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
partying leads to other things be careful of the path u take u might get lost and find it hard to come back,and u know a ROLL IN THE HAY OR A DRUNK ISNT WORTH THE ADVENTURE
2006-09-01 14:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by native,pride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fast and pray
2006-09-01 15:44:50 · answer #6 · answered by Cee T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋