My best friend asked me a very important question and I need your advice on how to answer this one.
She is getting married with 250 guests and half of them want to bring their children and half want to bring there pets/dogs And she thinks it would be a disaster to for the guests to bring both so she wants to know witch one/side to say yes to and this is a very hard one for me to answer so please help
2006-09-01 13:50:41 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i know your friend does not want to disappoint anyone....but I work at a hotel and we don't allow pets...if this is any public building...they probaby don't allow pets so she should research that before telling anyone yes bring "Spot".....also the kids issue....if it is at a hotel rent a suite and get a babysitter and let the kids stay there.... most of the time you can get a deal with the Sales/Catering Manager.
2006-09-01 14:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by bebejean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dogs or other pets have no place at a wedding! I can't believe someone would even have the nerve to ask that!! Definitely NO PETS!
As for kids, that's a personal decision for the bride & groom. Some prefer them there, others feel that small kids' crying or being tired, restless, running around, possibly unsupervised would ruin a wedding. This is a resonable assumption. Then there's a question of what they can afford.
They can compromise by inviting kids, for instance, 12 (or 10 or 15) and over if they would like to have SOME children, but not small ones. Older children at a wedding reception can add to the fun and SHOULD know how to behave decently by then.
Again, it's a preference thing... just be sure to be consistent. Don't let a couple people bring small children if you've told everyone else not to... there will be hard feelings. --- Good luck & happiness!
2006-09-01 14:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by PJo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're joking, right? Pets have no place at a wedding unless it's held outside in a cow pasture. As for kids -- common sense has to prevail there. Most people won't bring very young children, but it's her call. She can say, No children under ten please, or whatever age she wants to put on it. This is her day, and she gets to have whatever will make it perfect for her. And if that doesn't include the neighborhood pets and kids, then they shouldn't be there.
A wedding with 250 guests requires a lot of planning, and she shouldn't have to be organizing kennels in addition to everything else.
What were the guests planning to do with the pets during the reception?
2006-09-01 18:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her wedding and she should have the kind of wedding she wants. When she sent out the invitations it should be pretty clear if the children are invited or not. They are only invited if the invitation is also addressed to them. People really need to stop bringing uninvited guests to functions. Even asking if they can bring their children or anybody else is rude. I've never heard of anyone bringing a pet to a wedding. If people ask about this I would just say that unfortunately animals are not invited.
2006-09-05 10:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by parisian_flirt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no point in bringing pets. what the hell r the pets going 2 do while the wedding is going on??? catch preys?? bite the guests???or guard ur friend???i don't think that there'll be any problem if the guests r bringing children unless they r too small & will cry every now & then they see a stranger(do u know that if one child among a group of children cry, the whole group will start a musical fest???).
2006-09-03 23:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by paru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no children and no pets. Howeever, if it is close family, some children can indeed be invited if it is first cousins, and babies. Howerver, gysets should be urged that if the child is cryuing to take the baby or toddler into another room and calm then down or whatever is necessay not to destroy the wedding atmosphere.
People can decide who they want at a wedding. Some will be offended no matter where yo9u sit them or what you ffedd them, or if they find that someone got ian invite one day earlier.
A for pets, it's a bog no no. NO PETS allowed. It's wedding, not a kennel.
2006-09-01 14:00:24 · answer #6 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wedding should be about the Bride and Groom, but mostly the Bride. No one should bring their children or pets unless childcare and pet care is provided. Children above the age of 12 that could be reasonably expected to behave should be allowed to come if the guest count allows for it.
2006-09-01 13:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by kaitlynpg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way is attach a religious ritual [ something will be there iin every religion, which most of us have forgotten.If your friend is
HINDU : A Special puja /havan - so kids /pets are out
Muslim : Qazi wants special prayer with all elders
Christian : The Father of the ceremony is very clear on the Special Prayer meeting to keep kids and pets out.
Print this on the card and for kids arrange a separate enclosure or play room type.Pets are strict no - no.
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2006-09-04 18:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by s9consulting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride and her parents are the ones who plan the wedding and I think it is very rude of anyone to ask to bring their kids and or animals. Ridiculous actually unless invited. When I got married we had adult reception on the invitation and I got numerous phone calls as to whether or not the kids could come and even a couple who wanted to stay with us because they could not afford a motel. (They made more a year than we do) I told them if they couldn't afford to come then I would miss them at the wedding, same with the kids thing, I wanted an adult reception and if they were pissed the kids couldn't come then they could stay home. At the price of weddings now a days people have a lot of nerve asking to bring their kids and or animals.
2006-09-01 13:56:31 · answer #9 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that I hate kids and pets as such, but a wedding is a very important event - too important for it to be ruined by dogs barking or babies crying in the middle of the ceremony. Or worse yet, less than ten-year old kids using the Church as a playground.
That has the word DISASTER written all over it.
2006-09-01 13:59:39 · answer #10 · answered by Cascade Ranger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would personally say no to the pets. There would be too much that could go wrong and then they have to be cleaned up after and if an animal bites a guest your in real legal trouble not to mention what else. Say no to PETS for sure and this comes from someone who has plenty of them!
2006-09-01 13:58:12 · answer #11 · answered by Yvonne D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋