My best friend asked me a very important question and I need your advice on how to answer this one.
She is getting married with 250 guests and half of them want to bring their children and half want to bring there pets/dogs And she thinks it would be a disaster to for the guests to bring both so she wants to know witch one/side to say yes to and this is a very hard one for me to answer so please help
2006-09-01 13:47:47 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Pets are never a good idea at a formal event. Besides the mess, the noise, and general confusion that they can create, it's hard on the animal to have to endure several hours of excitement with a lot of strange people at a strange place. Tell her to talk to each person that wants to bring a pet/dog and let them know that for health reasons, she won't be having any pets there. This will avoid most of the nasty responses. People should understand that there are others that are allergic to pet dander. You never know who might end up with an asthma attack or swollen glands from the exposure. It's just common sense. She won't want dirty paw prints from an undisciplined dog on her new gown either.
As for the kids, does she want them there or not? She should make a decision on her own here. If she is having a ring bearer, flower girl, or other child in the wedding party, then she should allow children as guests. She can, however, decide to set an age limit. The youngest child in the wedding party could be the minimum age, let's say 6 for example. So she chould tell all her guests that only children 6 and up are invited. When asked why, tell them that she wants a wedding baby free due to the stress the event can put on younger children. Naps, feedings, potty training, etc.. can all be a hindrence at a formal event to the parent and the child. Make sure she tries to convey that her concearn is to have the overall best day she can for both herself and all those in attendance. Most parents enjoy a chance to have some time without the kids.
If anyone gets rude, then she should remind them that it is her day, not theirs. She has the right to set whatever limits she chooses. She is paying for it, not them. She should not let the guest dictate the day just to please them. They should be happy for her no matter what. And at 250+ people, there is no reason to sacrifice to make a few happy when it could make the majority upset.
2006-09-01 18:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a huge wedding already. I would tell her not to allow any pets for sure and not allow children to the reception, unless there is absolutely no way to avoid it, she CAN have some exceptions for some people, it is her wedding after all. Wedding invitations are usually just for the adults or an adult and a guest. If an adult chooses their kid to be the guest then that is the persons choice. There are too many stresses of the day already, kids and pets would just add to it. My sisters wedding had many kids at it, and most of the time their parents were running around after them, and it was a little annoying because the kids were all around 5 years old. So tell her to make a few exceptions for kids and do not allow pets.
2006-09-01 15:12:01 · answer #2 · answered by Nate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if parents want to bring their children that should be fine, But that should be totally up to her and if she does not want them there, then she need to somehow make that clear on the reception announcement. Some parents might get offended, but it is her day. If the invitation says "Jane Doe and guest", that should be clear. Also something like: please, no children under 14.
As far as pets go--they need to stay in the pet hotel. How inconsiderate for someone to think they could bring a pet to a wedding. What are these people??A bunch of hillbillies.
2006-09-05 11:03:55 · answer #3 · answered by kathy r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with children. Pets are to much of a hassle. But also she can say no to both sides, it is her wedding and she has the right to do whatever. But I would go with children because they are cute and they tend to like looking at weddings so that they have something to pretend to do later when they are at home playing. Plus children make more smiles in pictures and some people are allergic to animals.
2006-09-01 15:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by Jai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the people to leave the pets at home. How can someone assume that when they get a wedding invite they should bring a dog? This is a first for me.
2006-09-01 14:51:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no to thre dogs and children are optional. It's strange people want children to be "in" the wedding (flower girls, ring bearers, etc) but then don't want to have to deal with them during the ceremony or at the reception. The best idea I've heard of was to hire some teenagers (hopefully older neices, nephews, or cousins) to watch the younger children in another room during the reception. They can have a mini cake, and kool aid..kids love to see adults all dressed up, and especially brides. Plus it makes it easier on guests who dont have to pay for sitters.
Animals are just uncouth and ignorant at a wedding.
2006-09-01 14:21:01 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Pepsi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHo in the HELL brings pet's to a wedding........
that's just nuts -
Leave the pets with a sitter and the dog with the kids.
By the way...........Your a saint not to have LAUGHED out loud when she asked you that question. And a friend indeed to not respond until you slept on it. GOOD FOR YOU.
One more thing...........I would be nervous as a guess if I seen pets at a wedding......I would be picking through my food to make sure, it was not cat or dog or something like that.
2006-09-05 11:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off this is a disaster waiting to happen. Nobody should be bringing their kids or pets. Sounds like an animal zoo waiting to happen. Don't but it on the invite just start spreding it word of mouth. Good luck, and I am glad I am not spending money to go to that one!
by the way, there is a reason why you are still on level one
2006-09-01 22:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No pets at a wedding. If it were a day in the park, yes. Kids are not pets and they should be allowed. If a dog could sit and behave at the dinner table and eat with a fork, then that could be considered. Other than that, no pets. Just kids.
2006-09-01 16:01:43 · answer #9 · answered by countrychic2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the wedding is not too formal, bring both! The pets can keep the children entertained while the adults have fun! The more the merrier.
2006-09-01 19:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by jellyfishwich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋