I met someone so fabulous with depression. He had just separated from his wife 7 months ago. We felt a magic between us and considered things like moving in together. However because of his anxiety, we decided to break-up as curing is issue is the priority. I wanted to support him and really love him also as friend, I offered this to him. He told me he thinks that I am perfect for him, but he told me he needs time so that he can pick up himself again before relationship, always being dependent on me emotionally. He believes in relationship both people have to be secure to certain degree, which he feels he is no where near to at the moment. He still wants to be close to me, and told me he does not want to lose me in his life at all. I am glad that we started talking honestly again, and he told me next day he was glad that we talked, and he thinks that some knd of magic we had before came back between us. Please tell me how I can help him to get through this situation.
2006-09-01 13:23:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I would stay clear until he is completely free and divorced. Alot of times these happens: people split up the depressed spouse seeks comfort and etc from someone else. Then they work things out and go back to the other spouse.
You could be his emotional crutch and when he feels better you are no longer needed. Better to avoid married men, separated or not all together. Plus, he shouldn't be dating until he is free.
2006-09-01 13:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 06:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can depend on what kind of depression he suffers from (many different types i have b-p-ll not fun) don't push him be supportive
remember he has just gotten out of a relationship. Its hard for some of us and you have to realize that if you want a relationship with him this is what it can be like from here on out........It takes a strong person to handle the ups and downs of a person who suffers with depression.
Another thing there is no quick fix for depression
Try to find out what kind he suffers from In a gentle way and then read to help you understand and chat with some (like on here) who have depression that can help also
2006-09-01 13:50:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For just being there helps a lot. I am also a manic deppressive and although I could really throw fit and feel so low sometimes, all I need is someone who would be there no matter what.
Well, the fact that he recognises his lowdown and all is already a sign of recovery. I hope you'll stand by him and help discover his best person.
2006-09-01 13:29:51 · answer #4 · answered by mug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a good friend. But first and foremost, be honest. If you find yourself being attracted to someone else, or your feelings are changing for him, let him know. The worst thing would be for him to get himself together, then find out you're no longer waiting for him. He may rebound.
I applaud his effort in wanting to get well. He's really putting his priorities in order! I say he's a keeper!
2006-09-01 13:31:03 · answer #5 · answered by cocoanutt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was depressed a long time ago. I thought I was worthless. But I am going to be real with you. God took the depression away from me. And told me to see a counselor. If you are ready to get rid of what ever is getting you down, pray about it, and ask for a answer...
2006-09-01 13:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, ive dealt with depression on and off for a looong time and expressed it very similar as your 'interest', if you really believe that there is a true future then hang in there, the patience and understanding will come back ten fold:) best of luck to both of you...
2006-09-01 13:33:57 · answer #7 · answered by qtpie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK for me my gurl was my anti-depressant give him some time he will come around. All you can do is what you did tell him your gonna be there for him, and be there dont brush him off. sooner or later he will wake up and be ready for a relationship and thats when your there waiting.
2006-09-01 13:27:58 · answer #8 · answered by Mojo-JOEJOE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is needy and needs time alone to get over his depression and separation. He is not divorced yet!!! Leave him alone, he may be using you physically and mentally as well as psychologically. Leave him alone. Good luck, Kitty
2006-09-01 13:28:44 · answer #9 · answered by Kitty L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to make his divorce legal and have some time being single before getting serious again
you are just his rebound gal
2006-09-01 13:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋