is that okay or will it still send mixed messages?
2006-09-01 13:10:34 · 23 answers · asked by mswake 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
depends on if they spent the specified amount of time in time out. If yes, then definitely give them some hugs and kisses and let them know that what ever it was they did to get disciplined is something you don't want him/her to do again...also you should teach him/her to say they are sorry for acting or behaving that way- but make sure to hug/kiss and tell them you still love them! ;o)
2006-09-01 13:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by sammy22005 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If the child comes running the minute after you discipline him, tell the child you are still angry of what they did. Let him ponder that for awhile, after some time goes by then love him and give him as much affection as you can.
2006-09-01 23:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it will not send mixed signals. I have a seven year old and he's always in some kind of trouble and being disciplined. You need to hug and kiss them and also explain why you disciplined them and that you will continue to discipline them as long as they misbehave! But make sure you tell them that you were disappointed and what your expectations of them are. Even if they are young, you think they don't understand but beleive me they do!!
2006-09-01 20:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by babygirl1_on_1 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO, do not give them affection right away. It will send mixed signals. You don't have to ignore them, but let them know that you mean business. IT will take a few times, but they will get the point. If you give into them, think about how they will be when they get older. They will always think that they can get their way by affection...GOOD LUCK
2006-09-01 20:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by luv him 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it sends mixed signal also, I make mine wait for the affection until they have stopped crying and calmed down, and say that they understand why the got in trouble, and I try to get down to their eye level, so as not to intimidate them. After the storm passes then I will give them hugs and kisses.
2006-09-01 20:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by shortansassy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just got finished telling my mom not to do this with my 4 year old. She had a fit about something my mom wanted her to do. I talked to her sternly about the way she was treating my mom and of course my daughter got even more upset. My mom then began to pick her up and hug her. I told my mom that is why she continues to act this way around her. Misbehave and get hug (hug is a renforcement). SHe is allowed to say she is sorry and you can give her a hug after she says what she is sorry for. This shows that she knows what was wrong and a lesson is learned.
2006-09-01 20:24:27 · answer #6 · answered by kelliemag 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely show them the affection - all discipline should be handed out along with a hug. They need to know that you love them, and that's why you're punishing them - for their own good.
2006-09-01 20:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by UNITool 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's important to give affection to your child, they need to know that they are loved regardless of the discipline, you still love them. After the cuddle, still scold them. They need to know that they have been in trouble. If they are at a young age, they really mean it when they say they're sorry. Make sure you believe them. Stick to your wits. If they have been in trouble, they need to know the consequences that follow.
2006-09-01 20:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by Yup! I'm a girl! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its better to give them the affection it shows them that what ever they do that they are still loved. They just need to understand why you have disciplined them. Be firm but loving.
2006-09-02 14:10:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain that you still love your child, but just dislike the behavior that he or she is displaying while you show affection. If the child is too young to understand words, then try to figure out if the child is trying to manipulate you or if the child is scared. Then, you should either stay distant if the child is manipulating or offer affection if he/she is scared.
2006-09-01 20:18:33 · answer #10 · answered by fibr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋