Potty training?

Question

I have an almost 5 yr old son that refuses to potty trin. What are your ideas?

Answer 1

He’s almost 5 years old? Unbelievable! Well, all I can say is you might have to hold him out of kindergarten a year like my mother did me (for other reasons like the move to Texas). You see, I was trained by about 2.5 years because I just decided I was ready and wanted to do it around Christmas of 1985. Then I had almost no problems and was dry 24-7 by Easter 1986, so your son is definitely behind the curve, even for a boy. You might want to speak with a therapist to see if he’s developing normally in the brain because most children, even boys, are trained by age 3. In the meantime, try not to post such questions on this forum and instead look for one that is specifically designed for parenting questions. Try Dr. Phil’s website because trust me, people on here are CRUEL! Just look at this creepy guy’s profile:
http://answers.yahoo.com/my/profile;_ylt=AgH9Rt4PoSw096tS_yqwkGMezKIX?show=66e5d4d549e74dd52a2f7342de0a0ebcaa

Answer 2

My favorite thing is an award system. Everytime he goes he gets a sticker. If he gets so many (maybe 5 to start) he gets a prize. I have three children- my 6 year old was trained at 2 and a half. My 4 year old was trained on her 2nd birthday and I am in the middle of training my other girl who just turned 2 years. If the award system doesn't work then I think that you should just put underwear on him and tell him that the diapers are all gone. Maybe even buy a cheap bag of diapers too small and show him that he is to big for diapers (he'll never know what you did). You may have to clean up a few messes and have him help you- but he'll get tired of that too. In the end everybody will be happy. Either way- I promise you he won't go to college in his diapers eventually it will happen and make sure you praise him when he does.

Answer 3

Wow, are you serious? You should probably talk to your doctor about this because this is seriously strange. Kids are usually potty trained by around 2 1/2 years old. You you just let your son wear diapers? Using pull ups are to much like underwhere and your sone will more than likely just be happy in those. Put him in underwear even if he hates the way they feel when they are wet or dirty (that's the point). Have him help clean himself up. Have him watch you & your husband use the restroom so he knows what to do. Always have a potty chair available so when he feels the need to use the tiolet, one will be readily available. These are all of the things that I am doing to help my daughter right now.

Answer 4

This is a little extreme but it might work. Do it on the weekend when you have more patience and a lot of time to watch him. Don't put him in diapers, let him wear underwear and he first time he wets himself, he may not like it and therefore want to go to the potty instead of getting wet. Most of all, find out what it is that is stopping him from potty training do you can move forward in a way that he won't mind.

Answer 5

the best thing to do in a situation like this is talk to him about the importance of using the grown up way. ask him why he doesn't wish to use the toilet.

if nothing else, let him clean up his own mess once or twice and he will probably use the toilet.

sometimes you gotta get tough...as in tough love.

try a reward system?
tell him you will take him to his favorite resturant to eat once a week if he will use the toilet.

it might start off slow...they usually urinate before they deficate...bowel movements to a preschooler/toddler are a part of them.

don't worry either...some boys (most boys) do not potty train until much later than girls.

(had a son who refused to have a bowel movement until he was over three)

last but not least, see if maybe your son has ibs...it can be very painful to use the restroom.

Answer 6

put cheerios or froot loops in the toilet and tell him its a game. He has to hit them when he pees. Once you start getting him to go to the toilet to pee then start working on the pooping part. Tell him if he can poop in the toilet like a big boy then he gets to wear big boy underwear. Take him to the store to pick out big boy underwear and then use that as a reward when he can consistently go to the potty. I have not yet come to this situation but that is what my cousin did for her 3 year old. It took some time. He would hold it till the last min. and at first you would have to force him to go potty. He was too busy playing to take the time but after a few weeks he got better. Now he is out of pull ups and in underwear. he still has accidents some times when he is playing hard and cant remember to go but all in all he is doing good with it. Good Luck I hope this helps you.

Answer 7

What? A 5-year-old not potty-trained? I was trained by around my 3rd b-day (Jan. 85) cuz my parents refused to diaper me in the new year & let me feel cold & uncomfortable when I’d pee or poo in my clothes. So I quickly decided to use the toilet when I needed to. But you know, you can rest assured that while this may seem WAAAY behind the curve, even for boys, there are some grown men who proudly proclaim that they are not potty-trained on this forum, take a look:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AvOaqRhVwVT7ivQD91YTn6bsy6IX?qid=20060823134040AAduKUz

Answer 8

Make a game of it. If you have a back yard let him pee out the door. Put froot loops in the toilet let him aim at them. Heck he is 5 years old try anything and everything. I dont know where you live but where i live you cant go to kindergarten unless you are potty trained. And have him checked by a doctor. Or worse yet spank his butt.

Answer 9

If you have him in pull-ups you need to get rid of them and use underwear. Is it no. 2 he won't do in the toilet? That is the hardest part for a child to do. My oldest was over 4 yrs old when he finally did it. Take his favorite toy away or whatever it is that he absolutely loves. DO NOT give in and stick to it. You MUST be consistent. You should see results with that plan. So, if you are using pull-ups, don't! They won't like to feel it in the underwear. Good luck!

Answer 10

rewards, go with him, make him sit on the potty and read him a book, put a potty chair in the livingroom so when he is watching the TV he can sit on it (it will get him comfy using it) cut up an apple to give him or give him crackers while he sits on it my son had that same problem books and apples worked for him he is now 3 my daughter had to get used to it first. she is now 2.