inside themselves when they feel really low or depressed..? i do now and its killing me..the few girls i got to no on the internet, one in canada, have just stopped im me, and its hurting realy bad, i no her for a year and was speaking on msn messenger, and thought things were going well....its like i put alot of expectations on people especially girls, which ive never really had any luck with.....my self worth is really really poor, and im havin a tough time being alone and solitary
2006-09-01 12:33:56 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm sorry you're not feeling alive. We've all felt that way -- even in a good marriage. Happens.
And I know this isn't what you want to read, but it might give you perspective. There are a LOT of miserable, depressed and suffering folks in the world.
Some of them put themselves in those situations, but by and large, many individuals were just born in a society where things really suck. Desperately imporverished conditions.
What helps you to get out of your depression is to consider the needs of others. If you have the capacity to help others (in practical ways, like fixing something in an elderly neighbor's home, or play a guitar in a place where cheer and hope is needed ...
It's a great start.
I have 2 teen sons who decided they wanted to help others. They formed a band and their music and words bring hope and encouragement to others.
Yet - they are believable. Their songs are sad, and wonder about stuff, but ultimately, they offer hope. The band's name is Pasifire and you can listen to their sensitive lyrics on MySpace.
2006-09-03 18:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by Sage 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried praying?
There's so much power in prayer.
Try it.
God is merciful.
I too have felt this way.
Like a huge chunk of my being was just missing or my insides were a pit of emptiness.
It takes a while for it to go away completely, but it will pass.
Just try and be optimistic, and do things that you enjoy, and of course ask God for guidance!
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Oh, and also, the internet dating scene=LAME.
You have no idea who these people really are, and even if you did by chance get to meet an actual girl that you had been talking to online, it would probably just end up with a one night stand, which would be totally unfulfilling, and would probably worsen the feelings of emptiness. Try and fix your own personal problems before you think about dating others, and when you do decide that you're ready for a relationship, make it REAL, and know what you are looking for.
Good luck!
2006-09-01 14:40:46 · answer #2 · answered by spontaneousishowiroll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
G'day the Mailman,
Thank you for your question.
If you are feeling low or depressed, seek help. Depression is a serious illness and can seriously affect your life.
If your depressed mood lasts at least two weeks, and is accompanied by other symptoms that interfere with daily living, it may be seen as a symptom of clinical depression, dysthymia or some other diagnosable mental illness, or alternatively as sub-syndromal depression.
In the field of psychiatry, the word depression can also have this meaning of low mood but more specifically refers to a mental illness when it has reached a severity and duration to warrant a diagnosis, whether there is an obvious situational cause or not; see Clinical depression. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) states that a depressed mood is often reported as being: "... depressed, sad, hopeless, discouraged, or 'down in the dumps'." In a clinical setting, a depressed mood can be something a patient reports (a symptom), or something a clinician observes (a sign), or both.
A depressed mood is generally situational and reactive, and associated with grief, loss, or a major social transition. A change of residence, marriage, divorce, the break-up of a significant relationship, graduation, or job loss are all examples of instances that might trigger a depressed mood.
You might also want to see if there are counsellors who can help you get on better with women.
I have attached some sources on depression for further information.
Regards
2006-09-01 12:46:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Sonal, I feel that it was not love but a mere attraction. Not necessary that the attraction needs to be physically or sexually, it can be even that, u start loving some one because he is caring you.!! But did you cross checked whether you have things in common or will you be really happy ? Now forget the past !! So now you need to understand is that communication is the backbone of every relationship. If it breaks, relationship breaks. Above all you are gifted with a small baby boy, so for his future you need to come together, share some points, try to talk to each other and one more thing, keep calm. Men some time don't like that you know people interfere in their life so you need to have "Sakshi -bhav" and also "Sahan-shilta" don't get angry or panic if he tries to scold you out. Try giving as much as love you can give to him, don't forget husband is just like a child, some times angry, ugly, bad but still innocent and still loving. So don't let go the fragrance in the relation and one day for sure you will be a good couple. And don't loose hope don't get depressed , every morning you should have faith in yourself as well as in divine. May god bless you all.
2016-03-27 03:45:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you have company! I have the same feeling... it's like a monster is eating away at everything in me... i dunno... things just don't hold the magic that they did as a child... notice I didn't say teen because I'm still getting used to being 15... they only things that still captivate me are music and books... I've lost all my trust in people and lowered my expectations to the point where they are almost nonexistent because of how many times I've been disappointed...
My only one and true friend hardly talks to me anymore because he has his own thing and I feel like the loneliest person on this crappy world...
The only thing I look forward to is being valedictorian and that's just so that I can get a scholarship to college and maybe turn this lonely life around but I think the latter is never going to happen...
Well, if you wanna talk, here I am!
2006-09-01 12:41:38 · answer #5 · answered by misery 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mailman,
I have been there. Its a terrible feeling. I am sorry. What I did was to take the time to work on some issues within myself so that I did not look to others for my happiness and instead was content within myself. Its really helps, and also makes you more suitable for a good relationship when it comes along. When you learn not to "need" people, but "want" them instead to share your life, not be the missing link, it really frees you. Go to the library, get yourself some good books, work on yourself. Do something that you are good at. Volunteer somewhere. Give of yourself and you will receive.
After I employeed these concepts I ended up meeting a wonderful man and we recently got married. Not in a million years did I think I would be capable of having the type of wonderful relationship I have today. But first I needed to learn more about myself and how to be a good partner. God Bless and good luck!
2006-09-01 12:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hi I'm 23 and I'm lonely too. Right now I switch back and forth from hurt and emptiness. And I live with my family right now but it's still there! It just seems like in todays world it's hard to meet trustworthy and caring people.
To some of the answers above. What if you have seen a doctor and your on meds and therapy but it's still there? It's not like it goes away just because you go see a doctor.
As for going to church I can see where your coming from but church has it's share of dishonest, bible thumping, and rude people. Trust me I live in the south some people are just CWC – Christian when convenient (not all but I've seen a good lot).
2006-09-01 13:06:40 · answer #7 · answered by Gypsy Cat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is time believe it or not when you seem no ones around and everyones is out doing stuff this is Gods way of letting you get to know and like who you are and you will see and reflect and deal with this and believe me its a good thing, and you really don't need to be on the internet meeting anyone thinking shes the one. I promise you will and are good and you'll see the morning pick yourself up its okay to go out and enjoy little things.
2006-09-01 12:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by myblackbetty1432 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a good church to attend, where people are friendly. Spend time talking to the Lord. He truly cares and listens. Also you might find comfort in maybe volunteering your help in a hospital.You just need to get out and mix with people. Don't isolate yourself from people.I'm sure you have alot to offer to others in this world. We all need each other.
I'll be praying for you. May God bless.
2006-09-01 12:47:39 · answer #9 · answered by granny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who wants to be friends with someone who feels sorry for themselves all the time? Dude, stop going for the sympathy Cyber-lay and get out there and find a positive attitude and go meet people.
Nobody wants to be around someone who is depressed all the time.
You shouldn't even be trying to hook up. You should be taking measures to fix the problems in your own life before trying to date anyone else.
2006-09-01 12:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋