OK me and this girl had some problems we were sort of dating for a bit. I have a lot of the same friends as her yes I understand that. OK but heres the thing things got really bad between us because she consistently lied to me and I would find out. She told me I am not her type. I told her that I dont want to associate with her anymore. Why does she keep trying to talk to me. Ive told her tons of times I dont want to be involved in her life at all mainly because I still have feelings for her and I dont want a friend that I have feelings for. She calls, and talks to me everytime she sees me at the bar. What is going on in her head and why wont she just let things be and leave me alone?
2006-09-01 12:21:21 · 21 answers · asked by canuck131986 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my bad on not telling you guys the details. Ok well she wanted to be sex buddies and i am looking for a relationship. She never communicated this too me and now understands what I want. Yet, I just think she feels bad because of the way things went. How did she lie to me? Well I wont get into details with that but they were rather serious lies anyways. Hope that helped.
2006-09-01 12:32:21 · update #1
Some people don't know how to take no for an answer. Just keep saying, "no, thank you."
2006-09-01 12:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm...that sounds like your in a complicating position. She most likely wont leave you alone right away. Just start to ignore her and tell her that you arent going to talk to her one more time, and get caller ID. soon she will realize what a wonderful person she lost (you), and be a little bummed. the only thing you should ever allow, or "accept" for future commincations is text messaging (but not now, wait a few monthes) is if she appoliges. I probably was that girl at one point in time, and I really made a huge mistake, and thinking it would shake up my relationship but it ruined it. She probably wants you back more then ever and is devastated. But people like us (or the OLD me), need some time alone, and a punishment. Get a reallly sweet girl who WILL totally accept your TYPE immediatly and not play games with you. Good luck. :)
2006-09-01 12:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. Seems like she's having serious trouble letting go. Why won't she let things be? Probably because she has some vision of herself and you as being able to "still be friends," and her image of herself is more important to her than your happiness. She obviously has trouble respecting boundaries.
What to do about it? Clean breaks heal best. Yes, you have mutual friends, but surely you can see them in other places where you're not going to run into her? You may have to find new places to hang out until she gets past this. When she calls, either don't answer (let the machine pick it up so you can screen calls), or just say "stop calling me" and hang up - don't get into a conversation.
She isn't going to just let you alone - that's obvious - so you're going to have to stay away yourself until the sight of her doesn't tie you into knots. It isn't kind to yourself to keep subjecting yourself to this, and it isn't working. Good luck.
2006-09-01 12:28:48 · answer #3 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she thinks its gonna be back like it was!! Ppl that lie all the time seem to think they can fix anything with lies!! U need to not talk to her no matter what and if you see her walkin near u run!!! She think u r not serious!! show her find another gal!! Have one of your friends tell me too!!
2006-09-01 12:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by one_redneckmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just love these complicated ridiculously-long, meandering, single-sentence questions that no one can possibly answer! How the hell can we offer any kind of reasonably good response when we have no idea about the situation?
Thank god there is a character limit, or we have to read even more of this pathetic tale.
2006-09-01 12:22:56 · answer #5 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She feels bad about what happened and is trying to make herself feel better by talking to you. Ignore her. You do not need someone like her in your life.
2006-09-01 12:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she still has feelings for you too even if you are not her type and if she keeps trying talking to you it is because she wants to get you back
2006-09-01 12:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deep inside u want to do the same thing but u are fighting it on the other hand she isnt.
2006-09-01 12:27:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a different bar, hang up when she calls, turn when you see her coming your way and if she don't get the hint,....find someone who appreciates and loves you.
2006-09-01 12:24:20 · answer #9 · answered by Ronika P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have enough of her what for you still have some fillings.
Tel her get lost. Be friendly but tell her to not call you again.
2006-09-01 12:27:13 · answer #10 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋