it's your birthday, and you're home alone, except for your a s s hole dad? He finds every reason to be mad at me and start an argument, but then he blames me for starting the argument, which i don't! Oh, and he thinks he's doing us such a big favor by TAKING OFF WORK TODAY and because of that he had to watch our puppy. He thinks he is so great just for doing that. And he feels he should be rewarded for doing what FATHERS ARE SUPPOSED TO DO. Congratulations, you're doing what you're supposed to? Do you understand? And he's being so freaking mean to me on my birthday. And here I am, fifteen years old birhtday today, sitting in my room in the dark. Writing on yahoo answers. I honestly thought about killing myself today to make him feel guilty. I thought about how bad he would feel and that made me feel great. But I'm not stupid enough to kill myself. I hate him so much. I reallly do. Go ahead and tell me to stop trying to get attention, because i probably should. I need attention
2006-09-01 12:02:56 · 31 answers · asked by jooooooolie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he didn't take off for me, he took off my birthday because it seemed like a good excuse for him to be his lazy self
2006-09-01 12:11:19 · update #1
i'm not suicidal
2006-09-01 12:35:27 · update #2
I think you're pretty angry at dad for taking the time off work but not spending it with you on your special day - or even making an effort to make your day nice.
Sorry your locked in your room - stuck on the computer...
Grab a ball and ask him if he has some time to play catch?
Make your birthday an awesome day
...and Happy Birthday
2006-09-01 12:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by Warrior 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Birthdays can be very lonley for some people you are not alone .
As for your father he is after all your father there is no changing that and you are 15 and that can be a very confusing time for everybody that reaches that age.
So what im getting at here is the problems you are having are nobody inparticullars fault.
look at it this way in 2 to 3 years you can be outta where you are another 5 to 8 years married with your very own loving family .
So maybe try to be nice to each other for a couple of years and you will see so many positives come out of it trust and believe me i have been there done that.
my friend wasnt so lucky took her own life for nothing but what she imagined was happening to her through her teenage years like i said a very confusing time.
She has missed out on so much im now 37 and think what she has missed in all those years.
Meeting great people meeting her husband having babies watching her babies grow up there first step first day at school ect.
then there is also bying the first car and house going on family holidays.
Like i said there is a lot more in the future just wait for it because its waiting for you good luck and take care my little friend.
And HAPPY BIRTHDAY to you!!!Smiles.
2006-09-01 19:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by spudster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing with my parents. Just hang in there, it gets better, I promise! I know you've heard it a million times, but 15 is a really sucky age. You're old enough to do everything an 18 or 21 year old can do, and no one will let you, they still treat you like a child. But if you hang in there, soon you'll be driving, and all the choices in the world will be open to you. I'm sure your Dad doesn't mean to make you feel so bad. It's a good bet he's just as frustrated about communicating with you as you are with him. Do something nice for yourself, take a hot bath, or watch your favorite movie or go for a walk or something. And by the way, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!
2006-09-01 19:05:29 · answer #3 · answered by ndtaya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a spoiled brat or a very bitter person. Calling your father an asshole is so very constructive. Kill yourself so that you can make him feel bad? What good is that, you won't be around to see what it does, you'll be dead remember. ??You said it right that time, for doing exactly what a father is supposed to do. 75% of the fathers out there don't even know where thier child is or even car. You're lucky you have a father. Staying home probably says he actually what's to spend your birthday with you. He probably doesn't like the arguing any more then you do. Stop trying to run away from him and listen to him, not follow his orders I mean listen to what he is say.
2006-09-01 19:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by L C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I feel you... I used to go through the same things. I chose the life that I thought was better and got myself into a mess and dont get me wrong, Im not saying that you don't know what is best for you, in reality I believe that your dad is doing the best that he thinks he knows how. Some girls don't even have a dad to go through that with. You keep your head up high and know that you are going to be 18 years old soon and you can have your own life and celebrate your birthdays the way you want to. Until then...just remember your dad might be going through something himself....by the way HAPPY 15TH BIRTHDAY!!!....
2006-09-01 19:10:37 · answer #5 · answered by Ronika P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is pretty sad i mean i feel for you b/c thats exactly how my father used to be plus the whole beating the crap outta my mom and the rest of my immediate family until we left his @ss. IBut i don't think i was as suicidal as you so trust me when i say this, get through itand when you start a new life you'll feel glad that youdidn't throw yours away b/c one person made it miserable alright? I assume your mother doesn't wanna stay with him as much as you do so I'm sure its safe to say that when you and your siblings leave she will also and he'll be by himself and pretty sad for that matter and for that thought just try and make it through. so hang in there and im sorry about your birthday happy birthday anyway.
Oh and if i were you in this situation( and i have been) i would sneak out and party with my friends so do it and do it now
alright alright you aren't suicidal so just take it easy OK?
2006-09-01 19:26:50 · answer #6 · answered by aznxpranksta69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday
I'm also a dad and i can't speak for him my only thing i can offer is if u try and sit down and talk to him maybe it my open a door. I have 3 girls and sometimes it was hard to please everyone but i did my best. When my youngest said to me there is no talking to you anymore it hit home, and i backed off working all the time to spend more time at home. See what happens but always remember that in his way he does love you. Take Care
2006-09-01 19:16:18 · answer #7 · answered by uofsmike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel. Soooooo sorry for you. I know how that feels. My dad never gives me any special attention on my birthdays.Although my mom makes my feel like a spoiled brat on my brithday. So I think ,you should just ignore him, and let him do his own thing, while you do your own thing. Wait until your mom or someone comes home, and then you can have a great birthday. By the way, Happy Birthday!
2006-09-01 19:08:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are we sisters??
lol, cause it sounds like my dad when i was 15.
sorry that u are experiencing this, i often sat and plotted my death and pictured how bad they would feel, but never really wanted to die i just wanted someone to acknowledge my existence. and be nice to me since i am nice! seriously i spent my birthdays alone also, or someone would pass by my room and say happy birthday and then ignore me for the remainder of the day, like what is that?
but hey i dont know what to say besides hang in there, i am 21 now and rarely talk to my dad anymore cause he is selfish, actually its funny cause TODAY is his birthday and i havent said happy bday...but i will later i think - you know" be the bigger man"
but also everything miserable i went through when i was younger kinda has made me a more compassionate and understanding -stronger person than i ever couldve been...and i m kinda thankful in a weird way.
2006-09-01 19:15:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say Happy Birthday but I don't think you would thank me for it.
I'm a parent. Don't shut down or scroll down...read on...........
We`all feel like shite at various times in our lives. 15 is a crappy time. Full of hormonal adventures you dont want. But be assured, times will change, just as you will.
Dad thinks he's doing his best and he is a dad, male, black and white, you know what I mean???
Teenage years are tough, but they are character forming. It depends what you do in life and how you react to situations that makes you the person you are.
Remember, every action causes a reaction. It's natural to fight against your folks, but one day, when you take the time to look back, you will love them and understand some of their reasoning.
2006-09-01 19:21:43 · answer #10 · answered by ruthyk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋