why do women fall into abusive relationships and then keep going back?
2006-09-01 11:51:35 · 21 answers · asked by Rhonda D. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Insecurity fuels female sexuality. Also many women try to model their parents relationship, others love the adrenaline rush of a dangerous and dramatic life, and feel numb when they're not on the extreme edge of danger.
But they are messed up and need help.
2006-09-01 11:56:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women fall for guys that treat them poorly because women are endoctrinated in this culture, and others, to believe in foolishness like love at first sight! They don't take time to learn a person, which can take YEARS. Love stories of people getting married after a day or a week and being so madly in love are all over the talk shows and magazines. Cinderella didn't know anything about Prince Charming except he was royalty. Rapunzel let a stranger climb her hair and carry her off. Sleeping Beauty married a guy who kissed her that she had never met. Women grow up on this palather! Women are always looking for someone to rescue them from lonliness; when they need to be rescued from themselves. The only person that can do that is the woman herself!
At some time in life most women wise up. Some never do.
As for women in abusive relationships, that is due to conditioning that leads to low self esteem. Some women are predisposed to that kind of behavior by their upbringing. They may have witnessed it without recognizing it and believe that it is normal. They may not have been supported enough emotionally to evolve into independent persons able to take care of themselves and over time they come to rely on the income and the guidance of men who may also suffer from low self esteem and exposure to violence in relationships that they think is normal.
It is a societal problem. We need to have relationship and parenting classes as part of academic curriculum perhaps. Count yourself blessed if you don't fall for the OKedoke!
2006-09-01 12:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure most of the people contributing answers have mostly valid elements in them. But the worse part is the social cost and consequences of these women and their CHILDREN. They somehow choose women batterers, so these men clog the judicial system (don`t get me wrong: the men are always wrong to hit), and create a need for women`s shelters. And the children? They suffer from inadequate parents, single parenthood, shuffling to foster homes, etc...and failed educations, leading to dead-end jobs, etc... I am thinking whether there is a way of making these men pay for their bad decisions. Why the men? Can we blame the victim?
2006-09-01 12:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by david_s_ca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think because they justify the abuse somehow and that's why they allow themselves to go right back in harms way. For me personally, I took it, on and off, for 11yrs. and there just came a day (of course after being drug through hell, back & rehab) that I could look in the mirror and honestly tell myself that I was worth more. The sooner they get away and on with their OWN life, the better. Some abused women forget that they have there own lifes will and dreams.
2006-09-01 12:06:15 · answer #4 · answered by indystyl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Women are insecure by nature
2. Bad relationship / No Relationship with a positive father figure
3. This enhances their insecurity and fosters low self-esteem and no self-respect
4. They begin to look for acceptance from other men and are willing to endure abuse to keep the relationship
5. Deep down they believe that they are the cause for the abuse and that they somehow deserve it
2006-09-01 11:54:07 · answer #5 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some feel like they wont ever get anybody who looks good and treats them well. But there plenty of guys who will and do. They have to look for what they want and not give up by surrenduring to just any guy. Its a good thing you realize this as a female. Help others to realize it as well. Before there life is destroyed.
2006-09-01 12:03:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women who do this have low self esteem. They can't believe anyone would treat them nice so anyone who does is not being honest with them. When they are treated like crap, they feel that person is being true to them.
2006-09-01 11:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by Guy Incognito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew. Women always say they want a Gentleman who will treat them like a queen, then they get one, they proceed to emasculate him. Been there. Sad and painful
2006-09-01 11:54:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats an age old question I ask myself everyday. If there was a bad boy anywhere in sight, that was the one I would end up with. For some unknown reason we all like bad boys.....who knows why????????????
2006-09-01 11:56:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't feel worthy of anyone better. Their self esteem sucks, and some of them even think they can "change" the guy.
2006-09-01 11:54:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋