Which would anger you more? Disobediance or the refusal of your child to accept responsibility for that disobediance? I find I am more likely to be lenient when my children own up to their mistakes and disobediance. Your feelings please?
2006-09-01 11:49:52 · 21 answers · asked by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The first question was which do you think angered God most?Adam and Eve's disobediance or their refusal to admit that they did this? They blamed each other, the serpent, and inadvertantly God.
2006-09-01 11:53:53 · update #1
That question becomes harder as the children get older.
When they are little, they must be taught not to lie. But if you punish them when they tell the truth, then they will learn to lie, by default. However, there should be consequences for disobedience... even if they tell you to your face what they have done.
When they are older, they often lie to keep you from worrying-- particularly when it comes to something that they alone will have to accept the consequences for.
I think the key is to have specific rules, and not very many of them. This is how they learn best to be responsible for their actions.
2006-09-01 11:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes i have children.
as far as your original question.
first i must state that i am Pagan and because of this may relate to this question differently than many Christians would.
I would think that God (could be any god here but we are talking about the Christian God and that is what i am basing my answer in)
anyhow, God would be upset about the disobedience. but the fact that they lied about it and refused to take responsibility for the mistake was the real kicker.
Not so much blaming God but thinking that you can lie to God. and thus lieing to yourself in the face of your God is the real crime here. this shows a lack of faith in God and not just disobedience but they actually believed that they could lie to their God and thought that they would get away with it.
2006-09-01 19:07:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let go of your anger--yes, I have children and grandchildren and it can be very frustrating when disobedience occurs. Just think, what would happen if everytime we disobeyed our Heavenly Father, he got angry. I shudder because He is SO awesome/fearsome!!
When we own up to our mistakes to our Holy Father, Yahweh God, because He is so Kind and gracious, He forgives, but not without the restoration of balance and ALL for our good. We then can try to imitate Him in generosity and graciousness, kindness and most of all LOVE!!!!
2006-09-01 19:03:04 · answer #3 · answered by avaddohn-Apollyon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I would be upset by both the disobedience and the failure to admit their error but the wrath is more kindled by the failure to admit when faced with their culpability. That is when self control becomes important in the parent.
As for Adam and Eve transgressing the commandment about the fruit from the tree of good and evil, they did try to divert the blame somewhat but they also owned up to their action. God acknowledged their admission and showed mercy by allowing them to become mortal. Thi brought death into the world. They learned to work and choose for themselves to be obedient throughout their mortality. That made it possible for them to return to God's presence based upon the atoning sacrifice of the Savior.
That is the pattern for all of God's children, including our own. We have to learn to let our children choose for themselves to be obedient or to learn by their suffering when they choose wrong.
2006-09-01 19:05:16 · answer #4 · answered by rac 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know as a parent i was much more lenient on my kids when they owned up to things that they did. I have to say the Lord blessed me with two really good kids that took responsibility for what they did. That's the problem today kids don't have to be responsible for there actions.
2006-09-01 19:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to be a sliding scale....
A. Disobediance>God upset
B. Refusal of responsibility of sin> God quite upset
C. Not only sinning but proud!> God very upset
D. Not only proudly sinning but encouraging others to sin!> God extremely upset!
E. Complete rejection of God> unbelievably upset!
Good Q, good thoughts!
Woe to the world because of the things that cause people to sin! Such things must come, but woe to the man through whom they come! -Matthew 18:7
2006-09-01 19:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
amusingly in the bible it states that any disobedient child should be taken outside and stoned to death.
the logical answer is to be lenient to those who accept responsibility, and to lay down the law against those who refuse to tale said responsibility. youre not really asking a question or an opinion....more like stating the obvious.
i fail to see hwo a child taking responsibility for deeds done wrong would anger you.
2006-09-01 18:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by johnny_zondo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm the proud mom of two (almost 3 and 9). While neither my husband or myself consider ourselves to be huge disciplinarians by nature, we have two great kids.
I see "disobediance" as my children's way of asserting their own persons. We all do it and yes, at times though it is infuriating, I also understand that they are just testing their limits. I'm pretty quick to take deep breaths. My older one knows enough not to cross me too much. Hell hath no fury like that of an angry mom.
Refusal to take on responsibility is also a part of growing up. It's hard to make the transition from childhood to a kid with jobs.
I think the best thing for you do to is to give your children choices and let them live with the consequences of not taking responsibility. That way, you don't have to get mad...they kind of bite themselves in the foot and they learn quicker. If they don't do their homework...they, not you, get into trouble. If they don't pick up their dirty clothes, they don't get washed (it only takes once!).
As parents I think it is easy to forget that we were, not so long ago, the kid. I don't know about you but I know I wasn't perfect.
I don't expect perfection from my little ones. And yes, I do get provoked...some days more than others. But they are mine and they are great kids. I spend most of my time in awe of them.
The concept of owning up to their mistakes comes with time. The rule in my house is that if you tell me the truth, I'm not going to get horribly mad. If you lie to me, you're in deep trouble.
My kids love me and my husband. It's always okay to tell the truth because they know they have nothing to fear from us. Besides that, I always know when one is not telling the whole truth. He knows I know so he doesn't even bother to try.
Ours isn't always the most quiet and peaceful home but it's happy. Full of life. We like it that way.
2006-09-01 19:08:07 · answer #8 · answered by lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
C'mon... Let's join the real world. We don't design and create our children, as your god supposedly did with us. We can't see all of their past, present and future with perfect knowledge, as your god supposedly does. We're not flawless and perfect parents, as your god is supposedly a flawless and perfect creator. If we had perfect knowledge, perfect wisdom and free will, as your god supposedly does, then we would create our children the same way, so they would always freely choose the right thing to do in all circumstances... but that's not possible, because it's not the real world. Reality, unlike your religious mythology, does not allow for such a thing, and that's yet another reason we can be sure that your god can't be anything other than imaginary.
2006-09-01 19:17:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Refusal for acceptance. Hands down.
2006-09-01 18:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by emilystartsfires 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋