Not matter how you mend it, it will never be the same
So isn't it better to keep it safe and lock
And never put it out there, to be maim?
2006-09-01 11:45:08 · 47 answers · asked by cifurtrue 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But wouldnt life be boring and dull if we did that?
Life is pain... its the highs and the lows!
2006-09-01 11:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by PEP 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No matter how you mend it, it WILL never be the same. Thats the whole point - it will never be the same. It wil be an older wiser more beautiful heart with all the experiences of the past as welll as all the potential the future has to offer. You cannot let your heart just crumble in a heap and sit there. Of course it will hurt, it will damn well ache, probably for some time, but you must not allow it to remain in that state of disrepair. You owe it to your family and friends, to your heart and to yourself not to let it sit in that state for all time. How do you mend a broken heart, with trust. Trust in yourself. Trust that you will find youself once again in a situation, relationship, or experience that you will enjoy at least as much as the one that broke your heart this time. So go on and let it hurt for a while but think of all the excitement and the butterflies you felt once, and know that someday you and your heart will be in that same place again. And when you walk with this confidence you will be on that new path on your journey here. Trust my friend, trust yourself.
2006-09-08 07:41:14 · answer #2 · answered by thealpeacock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so right, in saying that you will never be the same. But that's not all bad. You will learn from this, and with time you will get back up and, try again. It is far better to have loved and lost, then to never have loved at all. Now you have a choice, of falling into the notion, that you won't be able to find love or, that a much better love can be yours. Something you may want to ask yourself, is, did i push to hard to make this relationship happen?
I really hope you won't waist time beating your self up just because it didn't work out like you hoped that it would.
A great book, that i think could help you understand how to find a lasting love, is Secrets of Attractions by Sandra Ann Taylor. I have been where you are, and you will get through this. Just give your self time to heal. My best to you.
2006-09-07 23:52:36 · answer #3 · answered by loudowsonjr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me once you fall in love you feel like the whole world couldnt hurt you but its not that simple one you get a broken heart it can never be mended you just have to realy try put the past behind you no matter how hard it is, i know how hard it is im going through the same thing but a bit different i think lol. I love someone soooo much it hurts me that i cant be with them but i am also with someone i love to bits, but i could never break his heart i am happy but still broken hearted. You will get there just trust your instinct, you will never repair that poor broken heart. Good luck hun
2006-09-09 00:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
over time it becomes less painful, getting on with your life becomes a little easier and although you will never want to experience that pain again you will also think it's not possible to feel love like that again but just when you're not looking for it, it will come to you unexpectedly.If this person was the love of your life then you will probably always hold a torch for them deep down. BUT it is true what they say "each time becomes easier" and there are lessons to learn from each one. Although at the moment any of the answers you read will seem impossible while your heart is still aching.
I can only wish you well and the best of luck
2006-09-01 13:42:02 · answer #5 · answered by nano 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Impossible. Somewhere along the line, you're going to fall in love. One way or another a heart can be broken so much that you feel it will never be mended but it does, you have to be open to love, and take your chances, if you don't you're just going to become hard and bitter and unhappy anyway.
2006-09-09 11:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you can ever really mend a broken heart. if you lose someone and they were the love of your life then it wont ever be the same. but you can learn from it. maybe dont close off completely, and dont compare everyone to the one you lost, but let it help you see through the ones that arent good for youand appreciate the ones who love you for you. it wont particularly hurt any less but with time you will cope better.
it will be different when you are ready to move on, but different doesnt mean bad.
2006-09-01 12:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by firefly85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is where it helps to have a friend to scrape you off the floor and push up back up, i know if my friends hadn't done that i wouldn't have met any of my other ex boyfriends or the guy I'm currently seeing. It may hurt as hell but you move on, gradually. Locking yourself away isn't a great idea it makes putting yourself back out there much harder the next time round.
2006-09-05 19:28:57 · answer #8 · answered by Imogen228 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can never mend a broken heart, but as time goes by u can finally get on with your life. one step at a time. dont be too worried. achieve whatever u want in life first. i'm sure you will get better as time flies. good luck
2006-09-06 20:31:52 · answer #9 · answered by ctmaryam_83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heart will mend, but the scars will remain. It will break many times in your life, and it will always mend. Just those scars will pop up every now and then just to haunt you.
Daddy Dave
2006-09-05 11:04:33 · answer #10 · answered by Daddy Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some broken heart's never mend just make sure you don't walk out and have someone new do the same again.
2006-09-09 04:56:23 · answer #11 · answered by mariolla oneill 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋