Hey guys! Okay, I need some opinions, and insight as to what YOU would do if you were in my shoes..okay here it goes:
I wanted to finish up my senior year online using an online homeschooling course. I'm just fed up with school as a whole and I'm mostly unhappy when I'm at school. The only problem with this is...
If I do finish my education online, I think I have a very slim chance of walking with my class of 2007 on graduation day. I know my mom really wants to see me walk, as well as the rest of my family. I know I'll probably disappoint them all if I dont do the whole 'cap & gown' thing.
I don't want to be selfish, but I also have to look out for myself, too. Just about every decision I make, I always ask my mom or my best friend what they think, and 9 out of 10 times, I go with their opinion. I feel like if I do stay, I'm once again letting someone decide for me and putting my desires below other people's.
If I wont walk, is that selfish? I'm so confused! :/
2006-09-01 11:26:27 · 11 answers · asked by Mizzy 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Home Schooling
i can tell you this.....i thought that high school was a bore and i took an equivalent to high school (GED) but now that its been more than 10 years since then, i really kick myself in the butt because i DIDN'T walk down with my class, get my diploma, go to my last prom.....if i could do it again i would in a heartbeat....but now that i have a child of my own....i am gonna try my best to get him to walk down that aisle and get his diploma.....its just something that is very memorable......but you only miss it when its too late....if only i knew then what i know now....
WALK DOWN THAT AISLE
cause in 10 years when your school friends get their 10 yr high school reunion invite.....they come back and tell you how much everyone has changed and what they are doing now....all your gonna do is imagine what it would have been like
2006-09-01 11:39:00 · answer #1 · answered by Bobbi N 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Good for you! You are too smart for public school. There may be some attitudes, teaching, etc. that you just can't put your
finger on, but that you do not agree with. Run!
Have you checked with the high school to see what their
minimal requirements would be? I remember my senior
year I only took a few classes and then worked parttime.
You can have your own graduation. And yes, you can graduate.
It just won't be from that public high school, it will be smaller, and more personal. You could have a big party, too. Someone can play "Pomp & Circumstance." Some people play, "Chariots of Fire" as a recessional or "I Have Decided to Follow Jesus," etc.
My children all graduate from homeschool, btw. They buy a cap and gown and get together with other homeschoolers and plan a graduation with their parents. Everybody helps out. The give speeches, and sing songs. They read Bible verses and everyone cries--especially the parents. The parents meet them on the stage and hand them their diploma. Their are online placed to buy cap & gowns.
I also give them a diploma--diploma is Greek for "piece of paper."
Pretty special, huh? You can buy printed diplomas from the same place that other schools buy them, especially private schools.
They eat food, and cake. They laugh and have fun. They show powerpoint presentations of their childhoods and they have display tables with all their trophies, awards, etc. for everyone to see--like a Open House for the guests. We also send out announcements, and have Senior pictures taken at the local photographer.
Contact your local homeschool support group and see if they will let you graduate with them, cap and gown and ceremony. Do the "cap & gown" thing with a "different" school.
You can learn on your own way faster than you can in a group.
The graduation can be planned with friends--maybe some of your friends want to finish their education with you???? Or join a homeschool group. It is very official. Grandparents love it. Be creative.
Not even an issue~
I went to a local public high school graduation this year. The crowd was rowdy and noisy, and it was so impersonal! They rattled off about 200 names that you could hardly understand, and the music was canned. I was surprised at how boring it was compared to the homeschool graduations.
BTW, I went to my 10-year reunion and it was so silly! They gave a prize for the person with the most divorces, etc. Just not funny at all! And those people, after 30 years, are completely out of my life. My family is what is real. The highschool thing was a complete waste of time and energy. I've never gone to another one.
Besides, I've since graduated from Community College and University! So, ugh, I've had to "walk the aisle" again and again!
As if highschool is the last chance you'll ever have in your whole entire life.
Nah, skip the graduation and head for college, or plan your own and have a blast!
2006-09-01 21:24:52 · answer #2 · answered by abiquamom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say talk it out with your mom and get some feedback from her. Tell her some of the feelings you are having and that you are unsure what to do. A good discussion may have a light bulb go off in you to let you know what you should do.
If it were me, I'd weigh how important it was to me to please my family over how important it is to me to have this next year be a good one. I'd consider which would have more long-term unhappy effects, too.
I'd also see if there was a strong enough homeschooling community where I lived with other kids who were graduating and maybe have a homeschool graduation ceremony.
Good luck in your decision. Hopefully the answer will somehow present itself to you clearly and you'll just 'know' what to do.
2006-09-01 13:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by glurpy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Goodness, you certainly have a lot on your plate right now. It must be tough, that's for sure. You got two answers with some really solid advice, and I can't think of much to add to them.
I completely agree that the key things to do are to talk to our guidance counselor, or someone at the school you can trust to give you solid advice, that will listen to what your saying and not judge you for it, and be sure to talk to your mom. As a mom, I know that my child's true happiness is more important than my happiness when it comes to issues like this. But I would not want to her to miss out on an important occasion such as this for a whim.
Also, make sure you truly consider what you are wanting to do. I have a friend who's daughter wanted to leave in November of her senior year. The school said if you are not enrolled, no graduation, so they found an accredited homeschool program, with graduation, and she did an entire year's worth of study from December to May in order to graduate with a class. It was tough, but she was happier than if she had stayed in the school.
you may not get to walk, you may not want to, but make sure your decision is from your heart, deep inside and not just a passing thing.
Good luck, hon, you'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
2006-09-01 15:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON"T WALK! see if you can join a home school group,because they have graduations,also they have dances,or kids go to the public school dances,and homeschooling do have caps and gowns,diplomas,etc.You can actually get stuff like that at www.homeschooldiploma.com.Also,remeber,this is about YOUR future,what do you think will matter most in 10 years,who you went to the prom with,or how good our grades are,and also which ones effected going to college more?remember these important points,because they will effect your future.
2006-09-02 06:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by thepinkbookworm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the world of growing up. I totally understand your mom wanting to see you walk, however if that is not what you want than doing it for the wrong reasons will only cause you to regret it even more. Try talking to your mom. Tell he how you feel. Talk to the school councilor. See if by homeschooling you could still walk the stage if you choose to do so. Finally, life is funny this way...as we grow up we want to please our parents and friends but too much pleasing and ignoring your wants and desires can cause regret. If I were you, I would talk to your mom. Tell her how you feel. Really consider her view point and yours also. Perhaps together you can come up with a decision you both like.
2006-09-04 18:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by LAUSDDISTRICT8MOMOFTHREE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm...... If you do walk what will it accomplish?
Okay, can you find home-school groups in your area? Talk to as many people as possible and find out if there is an home-school graduation in which you may participate.
Home-school graduations are really fun and worthwhile. Some people go for the caps and gowns while others are less formal.
Good luck!
2006-09-01 14:35:09 · answer #7 · answered by Barb 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't! It's your senior year; and you'll want to go to homecoming, prom, and all the other things that you wouldn't be able to do if you were homeschooled. What about your friends and social life? I would definetly not take classes online. It's just another thing that people are doing on the computer instead of getting out and doing it for real! So, I say no.
2006-09-01 11:34:54 · answer #8 · answered by Oneofthesedays 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
as long as you complete a course that your HS deems worthy enough to count as credits then there shouldn't be any problem with you walking on graduation day. what you might want to do first is ask your guidance counselor if there are any state or county approved programs that would allow you to do this. if there are, then look into them. doing on your own could lead to disater for you and your schooling. but do that first, then speak with moms and see what she has to say. in this situation I don't see why you can't have your cake and eat it too.
2006-09-01 11:33:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are being very selfish. And also very immature. Your family nutured you through all these school years, and you want to drop out NOW, in your final year, because YOU'RE UNHAPPY??? Oh my, you have a lot of growing up to do.
STAY IN SCHOOL. You only have 9 months left! You want to leave as a "quitter"? I hope not. Go out as a winner. Then go make your own decisions. Maybe by then you'll GROW UP!
2006-09-01 22:07:49 · answer #10 · answered by MrZ 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋